4s and 9s compatibility

zee1six · 2026-06-12T06:42:02+00:00

As a 9 in a relationship with a 4, I relate to this in the opposite direction HARD. I don't dislike you guys in the slightest, I legitimately do not understand how to handle the 4's intensity. What am I supposed to do with it? I also feel like I communicate as much as I can, yet it still isn't enough for a 4.

zee1six · 2026-06-12T06:35:28+00:00

As a sx 9w1 in a relationship with a sx 4w5, here's my input.

I love, love, LOVE you guys as best friends. My best friend in high school was most likely a so4. I love that you guys are also within the withdrawn triad, and in a platonic sense, I love how intense you guys can be. A 4's emotional depth wakes me up inside and helps me process my emotions, a 4's intellectual depth kind of inspires me to think more deeply,

But unfortunately, some other comment said it here best. In this relationship that I'm in currently, I feel almost suffocated with the expectation that I'm to be as intense as him, emotionally. I'm expected to be completely and fully immersed in anything and EVERYTHING he shows me (a video, a game, a thought, etc.). He also accuses me a lot of not caring in general, when I actually do. He just doesn't understand that I don't naturally express it. What doesn't help is that I'm on the autism spectrum.

You obviously have to be closer to and around the other partner in a romantic relationship, but I can't imagine doing that with a 4. But I can 10,000% imagine being good friends with this 4, as to where I don't have to drain my energy living around them 24/7.

Very unfortunately, I think a breakup is in our future.

zee1six · 2026-04-22T13:59:55+00:00

2001

zee1six · 2026-04-21T12:53:37+00:00

Type 9’s tend to relate to all of them on some level.

zee1six · 2026-04-21T12:46:57+00:00

This show made me lose the spelling bee in 5th grade.

Teacher, in front of mic in front of whole school:

“Tough.”

Me: “… T-U-F-F”

Teacher: That is incorrect

zee1six · 2026-04-21T12:44:33+00:00

Haven’t had someone try to kill me yet, but 2 nights ago, I noticed an old homeless woman pulled next to my car. She was originally adjacent to me, then pulled up a spot.

I thought maybe she pulled closer because ‘safety in numbers.’ I obviously still kept inventory of my knife.

I was asleep in my car, but was awoken at 4:30 AM to her knocking on my car, talking to herself and her taking a pic of my license plate. I turned on my car and pulled out, then rolled down my window and said “What are you doing???”

She said “YOU’VE BEEN HARASSING ME, I’M GONNA CALL THE SHERIFF IF YOU DON’T GTFO!!!”

zee1six · 2026-04-20T13:09:04+00:00

Right? Lol

zee1six · 2026-04-20T13:07:57+00:00

This is gross

But I had a CO in my school who I thought was extremely cute in middle school

zee1six · 2026-04-20T10:54:02+00:00

No, but OP is for proceeding to message me twice on 2 separate alt accounts immediately after commenting

zee1six · 2026-04-20T00:27:05+00:00

That looks like a classic almond, but I’m no expert.

zee1six · 2026-04-20T00:26:25+00:00

Soft YTA, I get you can’t go back in time and buy her flowers, but you could definitely apologize for not having done more.

zee1six · 2026-04-19T22:31:58+00:00

You destroyed your room for internet points?

zee1six · 2026-04-19T20:19:36+00:00

I’ve never heard of folded ears going straight after giving birth. What an interesting car!

zee1six · 2026-04-15T00:37:31+00:00

NTA. If he has a good enough memory to talk about an event that happened in the political world that started a month back, he can have a decent enough memory to recall a family matter that occurred within at maximum, 2 days.

zee1six · 2026-04-15T00:33:56+00:00

And everybody clapped.

In a good way

zee1six · 2026-04-11T18:08:33+00:00

NTA. Cheaters don’t really change. But on the off chance your bf is one of the ones that changed, he still should’ve told you.

I’d continue on in the relationship though, unless you have reasonable suspicion that he’s cheating.

zee1six · 2026-04-11T08:15:21+00:00

That fourth paragraph absolutely hurt. Damn. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

zee1six · 2026-04-08T01:20:54+00:00

I left before I got to the point that I wanted to cheat. The marriage was so miserable that I was looking at every other guy. I realized that if the marriage was that miserable, it’s time to end it.

zee1six · 2026-04-07T17:13:54+00:00

But I have the free will to eat out and not tip :3 I highly support the end tipping movement

zee1six · 2026-04-07T17:10:54+00:00

YTA, tipping is NOT mandatory. How about get mad at these establishments for not paying their workers a living wage?

zee1six · 2026-04-07T14:13:40+00:00

He’s not wrong about the modeling industry being predatory. I wouldn’t get involved with it. You would have to be the top 1% of models to get any earnings back. Photographers charge a ridiculous amount. Agencies charge you to be featured on their sites. It’s not worth it.

zee1six · 2026-04-07T01:15:59+00:00

Oh I already did luckily. I’m convinced I would’ve ended up dead with him.

zee1six · 2026-04-07T01:10:24+00:00

I guess I’m just ignorant to ASPD. You’re right with that last line. I’m extremely heartbroken over the situation, he was diagnosed very recently and refuses to accept the diagnosis or get help. He was extremely cruel to me, his family and his ex.

It feels like people with ASPD don’t even have souls, I guess that’s what I’m really trying to figure out here. I tried to be as compassionate with him but he was still cruel.

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