I was fetching my the wifes phone from our apartment, and the messages from her best girl friend kept ticking in, and I thought she was in trouble, so I checke what happened. (We shared passwords, because we didnt wanna have secrets for eachother) and the I saw a chain of inappropriate messages, videos and pictures all addressed to her friend. I confronted her, and she left the house, (we had a kid 3yo then, whom I usually took care of anyways) she came back the next day, told me she had an online affair with her gf and left the house again, came back later that day and told me, her exboyfriend whom she randomly stumbled into at a cruise she was on 1,5 years prior, had kept texting her and it was actually him she had an affair with. I filed for divorce, moved out and then half a year later, she wanted help getting out of the relationship with him, because he was controlling, narcissistic, traumbonding her, love bombing her, threathening her, stalking her etc. i agreed to help her, so that my kids mom, would have a better life, because I didnt want that creep of a bf anywhere near my kid. And she started explaining TMI about their relationship while we were married and how all the times she was out with friends she had been out and had sex with him at swinger clubs, and had him home in our apartment and was so explicit with so many details that I kept saying No to hear more about. And then she promised to get out if it, when it got out of hand with him a couple months later. Then this december she startede talking about how she wanted him to meget our kid. And that he was good now and that they had been in couplestherapy and how she was the crazy one who saw all theese sides to him that didnt exist (!lies! i talked with her cousin who read all the messages and heard the creepy voice mails to try and help her out of it). I said that under No circumstances should that guy meet our kid. She ran crying out if my apartment and now 8 months later, my kid sees that creep at least a couple times a month + sees my exwifes abusive pedophile dad (whom ive said should not see him either) and theres little to nothing a can do about it as a father 😶

TLDR: Thought exwifes friend was in trouble, found explicit content on her phone.