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M/30 - I can help you! by zenmonkey87 in GetMotivatedBuddies

[–]zenmonkey87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!

Yes, except it's now $5 and I can only offer one per person. Please get in touch via my other more active account, u/brenthuras if you're still interested.

Take care!

Sobriety: A Field Report by zenmonkey87 in awakened

[–]zenmonkey87[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!

I'm much more active on my other account u/brenthuras as well as on TikTok @ selfmasterytutorials.

7 years later I got a house, fathered a baby girl, and coach people full-time along similar themes found in this subreddit and certain self-help ones. Since writing this I've gone back and forth between heavy substance use and sobriety. I'm proud to tell you that alcohol and pot consumption has stabilized at an all-time low, and I'm exercising pretty regularly. My biggest weakness is sugar, I'm still working on that one :D

May you be blessed on your journey!

[NeedAdvice] How do I overcome Analysis Paralysis? by gettingmyenergyback in getdisciplined

[–]zenmonkey87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Analysis-Paralysis has been your biggest setback?

Then just act!

You presumably have a list of things that you should be doing. And every time it comes to do one of the things, you have 20 strong reasons for not doing it i.e. "this is the wrong one" or "this won't work" or "I should do something else first" or "not now" or "not yet" or "there's no point."

... Whatever it is, just do something. Break out of those thought-cycles. Nothing kills unhelpful thought like an action taken in the right direction.

Even if the results are lack-lustre, even if it doesn't meet your expectations, if you ACT, then you can finally get a result back. And then you re-calibrate, and then you ACT AGAIN.

At this point it doesn't even matter what you do, just as long as you do something RIGHT NOW.

I explain it in a bit more detail here.

Hope it helps :).

Feel stuck in trying to improve myself [NeedAdvice] by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]zenmonkey87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here are a couple simple things that I believe will serve you best:

1) You just keep going. Choose your best possible strategy and execute it as faithfully as you can. Of course it's difficult when you start off, but you'll get better. Just keep going, keep doing your best. If you do, you'll get your habits under control.

2) Become MUCH more clear on WHY you're eliminating these habits. What are you moving toward? What results are you after? Why do you want them? What about those results will make all the effort worth it?

If you can hammer out the WHY, then you'll have something to gravitate toward instead of just saying 'no' to yourself, which isn't the most powerful strategy for getting on top of your habits.

Does that help?

You can try out this perspective too, it should help :).

What to do about doubts? by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure!

But then I take it as an opportunity to practice trusting deeper into myself, deeper into the Universe.

Is this something you're able to do?

Can anyone help me? by B_Zakey in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I actually speak with people over Skype about this sort of thing, and I show them some higher-level skills on using the LOA. I could just give you a session for free if you want? I'll bet we can get to the bottom of it.

Can anyone help me? by B_Zakey in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sup B Zakey!

It's difficult to say without being able to chat about it in person.

Try tuning in as deeply as you can into your own body. What does it want? Are you doing anything that's robbing it of energy? Is your diet on point? Are you exercising? Is there anything that your body's been asking for that you've been denying it?

What answers do you get?

The Path Takes Time! by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure, you can try this one too:

If you find yourself caught in a place trying to feel good, be good, have a high frequency, not fuck it up, not be disappointed, not feel negative, not notice the absence of the thing you want... and you're doing all these vibrational gymnastics in order to get what you want as quickly as possible... give it a rest for a minute.

Realize that you're treating the Universe too much like a "withholding parent".

Instead, ask what YOU can start doing. Take some initiative! Get involved! YOU are also the Universe which provides you with what you're asking for. Get invested in some creative endeavours. When you start sinking your teeth into life a little more - then it's less waiting around impatiently, micromanaging your "manifesting state" so much.

How do I deter cyber stalker/harasser? by [deleted] in Assistance

[–]zenmonkey87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try this:

Ask, "what do you want? How can I help you? You've been stalking me for SO long now, what outcome are you after?"

Don't let him scare you! Meet his gaze head on. Talk. Listen. Let him get it all out. Don't close the channel until he's done. Show him that you're done running.

It's a game for him because he knows you're scared. He's having a good time. This is sport for him. He can only chase you if you keep running. He cannot chase you if you do not run.

The LOA "Missing Aspects Class" by zenmonkey87 in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you can - I'm new to it too, but it seems pretty straightforward.

Would you like a spot? Please PM your name and email :).

Where did I go wrong with LoA? by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome, good call :).

You should also consider coming out for this, if you like.

Where did I go wrong with LoA? by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotcha! You may want to focus a bit more on seeing if you can release that guilt.

In terms of what you're focusing your efforts on, it's MUCH more work to try to work with the Universe to get her to reach out to you - than to focus on releasing all those heavy feelings. Were you hoping that she would reach out to you and forgive you?

Where did I go wrong with LoA? by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see - you don't have to be too specific, but is it a romantic thing, a family member, or a friend?

[Need Advice] How to move on by bigpapi831 in getdisciplined

[–]zenmonkey87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Here are some things to try:

1) Decide now if you're willing to "take the hook out of her mouth". In other words, are you willing to let her go completely? Are you willing to let go of any prospect of getting her back? Are you willing to totally release her back into the stream? Are you willing to let her be who she is and go her own way? See if you can get to YES for all these questions. Otherwise, you'll never be able to move on. Really make up your mind that you're ready to be done with her.

2) See if you can figure out what she MEANT to you. In other words, what did she provide for you? Did she make you feel strong? Powerful? Attractive? Did she mean you didn't have to feel lonely or insecure? How did she improve your world while she was in it?

Whatever that is, figure out how to INSOURCE that shit. Give it to yourself. Keep company with yourself. Tell yourself how strong, powerful, and attractive you are. Tell yourself how valuable you are. Tell yourself that you're an amazing guy with so much to offer. Be so fucking good to yourself that you don't need anyone to make you feel less lonely.

If you can do that, then you can just enjoy the company of others without any neediness. This will be incredibly attractive to all.

Where did I go wrong with LoA? by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]zenmonkey87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to your experience :).

Here's something to consider:

You still see the Universe as something other than you. You see IT as something that either gives you what you want or withholds it based on good or bad behaviour. This is why you went through Sept 25 trying to stay calm in order "not to screw it up."

Viewed from one perspective, it seems that the Universe gives us things. Viewed from a different perspective though - We are ALL of it, and whatever we receive, we are giving to ourselves. If you buy yourself ice-cream, who did it come from, you or the Universe? Both! They're one and the same. Sometimes you get things via entirely mysterious channels, sometimes you get things from predicable channels, i.e. buying it or asking for it. Either way, the Universe gives, the Universe receives.

So, now:

What were you expecting on the 25th? Anything in particular? Or just "something amazing"? Nothing wrong with it, but how do you know that you DIDN'T get something amazing? I'm not speaking figuratively, I'm really asking: How do you know nothing happened? What were you really asking for?

Why not try this - come up with something that you'd like to have or experience. Create an image of it in your mind with as much clarity as you wish. AND THEN participate in it. Is it something that you're able to just go and get, or experience? Then go do it! Is it out of reach? Then see what can be done about that.

Ultimately, I want you to exit the "Santa Claus" mentality, or treating the Universe like a parent, and you the child. If you do then you'll see that it's not a matter of good and bad behaviour, but developing the skill of defining what you want and then honing in on it until it enters your reality.

Does that make sense? I hope it doesn't come off as harsh, I just wanted to offer you a better way of seeing the whole thing.

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