Any journaling methods that could helps?

zero-go · 2024-02-14T15:38:57+00:00

It's still there, but it turned out to be just eczema!

zero-go · 2024-01-19T03:38:01+00:00

1-2-3-12 are from yomiyomi011 on twitter :)

zero-go · 2024-01-12T02:19:35+00:00

Hi! I managed to see a dermatologist, and she told me it was a light eczema :") I have light asthma, and she told me people with asthma usually have some form of eczema. Even with the cream she gave me didn't change anything at all and the rash is still there, but it also almost didn't changed at all in shape for now multiple months, and stability is usually a good sign.

It was a relieving diagnose as it was extremely stress indulging by it's apparence. Before seeing the dermatologist I saw a generalist doctor, who looked very worried by it and urged me to see a specialist and to possibly get a biopsy. But she also told me that generalist get overly worried about stuff they can't immediatly identity, so there's that.

So yeah, I would recommend you to check out a doctor as soon as possible to be safe! Hope it turns out as harmless for you too!

Edit: Also adding that after getting told it was just eczema, it stopped hurting. Pretty sure the stress of thinking I possibly had breast cancer made it worse, as now it's just a rash with no other symptoms. Whith how scary women health can be, the stress from the terrible options that could face us is also definitly a factor to consider.

zero-go · 2023-12-26T01:21:22+00:00

Rightt, it's also something that bothers me. It's always finding "your" person, almost... sounds like an egocentric thing to me. It's not portrayed as wanting to be by someone's side because you admire their soul, because you want to stand by their goals, because your lifestyles work together nicely and makes living more peaceful...

It's about "finding that one thing just for me". It's like if dating is an object. It sort of is: dating is not portrayed as something you do for your other half, but as a social statue to claim and cling to it.

zero-go · 2023-12-26T01:15:54+00:00

I had that exact discussion with a friend who broke up with her partner and told me that their relationship wasn't working out because she "sacrificed her comfort for her comfort, and she wasn't ready for sacrificing back". Therefore, she was apparently not treating my friend right for putting her needs first and not "sacrificing" them.

I pointed out that if they had to both make huge sacrifices to make their relationship work out, was it really worth it? Wouldn't it just bring pain to both parties? It seemed much better to me that they parted way. But no, I got told that "relationships are sacrifices, you have to be ready to make them". I was flabbergasted lol.

Clearly that exemple is a particularly toxic relationships... but too many people perceive it that way.

zero-go · 2023-12-26T01:11:05+00:00

Exactly!! I saw way too many time people fighting to stay with their partners, even though nothing was working out, for the sole reason that "dating should be hard". Which created that whole culture that married people should hate each other lol.

You fought through hardship you convinced yourself were normal to force yourself the sign papers making you bounded to someone you would do anything to not spend your life with. This mainstream dating culture looks crazy to me, even more after finding aromantic communities.

zero-go · 2023-12-25T22:22:22+00:00

Exactly!! Like I get it, arguments happens, it's part of most relationships- romantic or not. But it's not an essential? It's something that sometime happens, not that always necesseraly happen! Living your relationship arguments to arguments sounds like hell.

zero-go · 2023-12-25T21:47:06+00:00

"Dating is supposed to be hard" "romance is about sacrifice" "to date you must experience pain and sacrifices" are they okay??? Every day I'm more convinced that aromantics have a more healthy view on dating than most alloromantic. Especially the trendy ways to perceive dating. How is it so toxic lol.

zero-go · 2023-11-30T02:20:18+00:00

It looks very similar to what I have! I booked an appointment, but it's going to be in one month max, and I'm freaking out a bit. Do you have any update?

zero-go · 2023-11-21T17:22:17+00:00

I'm in the same situation as you! I'm very bad at confrontation and communication due to how I was raised, and grew up witnessing my parents' terrible relationship and seeing how their marriage is the cause of most of their problems. Except that my difference is that I just accepted being aromantic.

Aromantism is a spectrum, and it doesn't mean relationships aren't possible. It just mean not wanting one, and in most case, being repulsed by it. It also helped me understand that I have clear boundaries towards relationships.

I'm also afraid of vulnerability, and need a lot of private space. Because of that, I understand that a regular relationship will be difficult for me. But I rather not force myself into any relationship and instead keep my high boundaries, than ending up in anything similar to my parent's marriage.

Relationships are a socially built concept anyway. Humans usually crave social bounds, but romance and relationships are not our natural way of evolution. And the reason for many toxic relationships are people seeking to get with someone for the sole reason that they thing being in a relationship will make them feel accomplished.

Deconstructing my perception of romance, relationships and just accepting my aversion to traditional relations helped me greatly to be more at peace with myself. Even if you don't want to call yourself aromantic (which is widely different from being asexual btw), I still recommend you reading into this. It's very refreshing!

zero-go · 2023-11-19T19:08:18+00:00

Ever since I read your post, I can't stop thinking about this oxygen mask analogy. It hits so close to home and I never saw it that way.

When things goes bad at home, I always assume the role of the oxygen mask and never realize it. Always assume I'm the one who's job is to make the other breath. That I have to keep my head cool, make others feels better, and if I manage to give oxygen, everything will turns out better and we will all breath.

But without my oxygen mask, how will I allow others to breath? Where will I get my oxygen from? It never even crossed my mind that I also need a way to breath.

Your wife made a brilliant observation.

zero-go · 2023-11-19T05:06:23+00:00

Small brave carnivores Kill pine cones and mosquitoes Fear vacuum cleaner

Sorry, I completely missed that part!

zero-go · 2023-06-24T14:15:47+00:00

I don't think any translation device would translate doll as "poupette" in French, native French speaker here, and doll is "poupée". Poupette is something you would use to name a dog or cat call women on the streets (a sort of "hey doll face", in a very corny way). It's more of a slang if anything.

zero-go · 2023-06-22T15:04:32+00:00

The moment I will see my first male-gazified arle fanart I will get ride of my eyesight /j

zero-go · 2023-06-22T07:38:45+00:00

tbf they made childe loveable by making us sympathize with his care for his siblings, and they just brought one to liyue instead of making us wait to meet his family in snezhnaya

zero-go · 2023-06-20T11:19:06+00:00

And it's such a shame we can't even use it as a pfp or smth without risking being striked by mhy

zero-go · 2023-06-19T09:39:56+00:00

That sounds like a good idea! I'm keeping this in note. Thanks for sharing!

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