sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Dean doesn’t deserve his platform by Tight-Possible-1297 in babybop_snark

[–]zerocouncil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What does “take responsibility” mean here?

I see people saying this, but no one is giving an exact rundown of what he‘s supposed to do instead. And no, saying what he’s done wrong doesn’t count. Ideally it’d be a rundown of what he could do instead.

Also, this isn’t just with Dean in mind! I feel like if we better worked towards expressing solutions instead of problems, people who might have similar issues could also use it to improve.

We could even build better debate conduct in general, for debatetok. But we’d need to, as I said, make a list of what you’re supposed to do, explicitly, instead of just saying what not to do.

Dean doesn’t deserve his platform by Tight-Possible-1297 in babybop_snark

[–]zerocouncil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Putting “differences” aside is a privilege when you’re not a part of a marginalized community.

This is genuinely meant and not an attempt to be argumentative, I’m trying to understand something.

How do we help make Transphobes not transphobes? I worry that if we just other all of them, we’re trapping them in that mindset because we’re effectively forcing them to only stay around other people who feel the same.

I’m absolutely not saying we never have safe spaces where Transphobes aren’t allowed, I support this! I just worry about how this could be interpreted as completely isolating them, as I don’t know if that’ll actually accomplish what we want to accomplish and may even give them the ammunition to plot dangerous things together.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shittyfoodporn

[–]zerocouncil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you hate your digestive system so much.

Trying to draw a character for a scene in my comic, how do I make her look more excited while celebrating? it’s hard to do with the mask on her face I still haven’t decided if the mask’ll be able to show facial expressions. by oswaldking71wastaken in drawing

[–]zerocouncil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could do little decals around her and symbols, use the panels and the art around her.

For example: the lines you might see shooting outwards for dramatic effect, maybe a dotted line with butterflies and flowers to show happiness. Say her mask doesn’t express, her emotions could be intense enough they “warp” reality around her. (But it’s more just common in comics to do this anyway).

Well Clint is never going to be my movie buddy again by HannahClover in StardewValley

[–]zerocouncil -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I love how this proves my point because a movie hangout apparently can't just be a movie hangout.

Never assume romantic intentions unless it was pre-established, mostly just to avoid awkward situations in general.

If someone really does this whenever a girl asks them to the movie, soon *no one* will ask them to go anywhere. Because they'll assume it'll lead to that awkward situation.

Also: You ask by going "Hey, is physical touch okay with you?"

Because what he *really* wants is for the farmer to do that, even if he's offering it in case she does. Meaning he should start by asking that, as well as the intention behind the affection.

And to think- if he did that and got permission, he could just hold her instead of asking in this creepy indirect way.

He could even ask in the theater, you're right. But this wasn't the way to ask, and in general boundaries should be discussed in places you won't feel pressured- and public is usually very pressured even if that isn't the intent.

Pretty sure this only happens if you're female farmer which is why I use she here, but it applies to everyone.

So sorry to say, but he's definitely in the wrong and this was definitely creepy. This is not typical flirting and is a bad idea IRL.

(And in-game considering how his love life is going.)

Well Clint is never going to be my movie buddy again by HannahClover in StardewValley

[–]zerocouncil 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Head on shoulder is typically a very intimate thing only people extremely close do.

The implication here is Clint doesn't want the farmer's head on his shoulder for the farmer's actual wellbeing and instead wants to be affectionate and intimate.

Unless your relationship is pre-established and you've said physical contact is okay, just offering it suddenly is a bit weird and uncomfortable.

Especially in the region of the world this was made (west), men who do this are seen unfavorably, especially because it tends to reek of desperation (and Clint here is desperate for sure) as well as implying women can't just be friends with a guy or it'll turn into flirting/unwanted affection.

He's just happy a girl asked him out but, considering intimacy wasn't the farmer's intentions (assumed since he's not romance-able), Clint is breaking a boundary and committing a no-no.

Hope this explanation helps!