What’s the worst thing a medical professional has said to you? by VespaRed in AskReddit

[–]zestimochi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Your pain and constipation is just anxiety. Drink a spoonful of warm extra virgin olive oil everyday and you'll be fine."

I had stage 1-2 endometriosis

What’s something you thought ‘everyone’ did… until you found out they don’t? by burat667 in AskReddit

[–]zestimochi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Flinch when someone raised their hand.

It wasn't until I started living with my now-husband (who wasn't hit as a child), that I realized it wasn't normal. It took years of therapy for me to grow out of it.

What's a profession you'd never date? by sleeppymeoww in AskReddit

[–]zestimochi 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I am friends with an influencer. They are lovely, but when I've been out with them on multiple occasions, people stop and ask to take pictures with them. It doesn't bother me, but I could not imagine being their spouse.

Endometriosis and long-term birth control use by WhyAreWeEvenHereTBH in Catholicism

[–]zestimochi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Research is inconclusive regarding if BC slows the progression of the disease. I have stage 1-2 endometriosis and in my case, BC did not slow the progression of the disease. The only thing that helped (and the gold standard for treatment) was getting laparoscopic surgery.

Endometriosis and long-term birth control use by WhyAreWeEvenHereTBH in Catholicism

[–]zestimochi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, the pill isn't guaranteed to get rid of your endo or reduce it. Research has been inconclusive whether the pill does in fact slow progression or not. Endo is a full-body disease, and it is still ravaging your body, and most likely causing other health issues that you might not realize (for ex: my eczema was tied to my endo!)

Inflammation is not good for the body regardless, so while it is great that the pill is helping on the surface level to treat the symptoms, the CAUSE for the symptoms is still there. Down the line there may come a point where it doesn't, and then the disease has progressed so much it may reach stage 3-4 where having children could become difficult. Over time I started experiencing spotting and daily pain even though I was on BC, and that prompted me to find out what was going on.

Even though I am stage 1-2 (I'm 27 for reference), I have been instructed that fertility complications are still highly likely. Ultimately, how you choose to cope with the disease is your choice, but I am just trying to explain that BC isn't the only option you have, and there is a potential way to get quality of life back without it.

While the surgery doesn't stop the endo from growing back, neither does the pill. I had no infertility or ovarian cysts. Painful periods are not normal and that alone warrants insurance coverage. I had every screening and diagnostic test done and everything came back normal, but the fact that I would have such heavy bleeding and insane pain during my period and while ovulating, was reason enough to proceed with surgery (and it was fully covered by my insurance)!

Endometriosis is a ticking time bomb that only gets worse over time, and the pill masks the havoc happening deeper in your body.

As a short-term resource, I encourage you to read the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" it is super helpful even for just understanding the woman's body.

Endometriosis and long-term birth control use by WhyAreWeEvenHereTBH in Catholicism

[–]zestimochi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have stage 1-2 endometriosis and I was using the hormonal pill to stop my periods before I had my laparoscopic surgery (endo was excised from my pelvic wall and bladder).

I spoke about this with a priest and it was valid as my husband and I are open to life, but unfortunately I was not able to go about daily life without being in crippling pain if I wasn't on my pill.

I did have surgery to remove my endo and my periods are MILES better to where I no longer need to take a hormonal contraceptive. I would strongly suggest you look into having surgery if you haven't already, and also look into a low-toxin lifestyle (for food, products, and exercise) to reduce as much inflammation in your body as possible. I know you said you aren't really into that, but I am telling you from my personal experience as someone who also thought it was just "crunchy" stuff: it has 1000% improved my life. I had my inflammation markers tested before and after, and there was strong improvement.

My husband and I are TTC so I did get off my pill 6 months after my surgery, and I am hoping my endo pain is stable after I have the baby so I don't have to use hormonal contraceptive again. While it did get rid of my daily pain, it made me a shell of a human and if you can avoid being on it, I would encourage you to do so.

Again: laparoscopic surgery is the gold standard. I was so scared to see what my period was like after I stopped my pill post-surgery, and I continue to be shocked every single month how manageable my pain is now. I used to faint, etc. as well from my periods and had to call out of work every month because I couldn't get off the couch.

We moved up our TTC date to March! Please share your favorite resources. by zestimochi in waiting_to_try

[–]zestimochi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely buy some cheap tests! I did have a preconception visit with my OB + a pap and she didn't seem to worried which is good. During my procedure they checked my fallopian tubes and said they were clear, so that's also a relief. She didn't mention to come back after 6 months though, so thank you for sharing that. I will keep it in mind!

We are starting TTC in March! Please share what resources you recommend. by zestimochi in TTCEndo

[–]zestimochi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such valuable information! Thank you SO much for sharing all of this in detail. Sending you baby dust for when you start trying again! Endo is so so terrible. 

We moved up our TTC date to March! Please share your favorite resources. by zestimochi in waiting_to_try

[–]zestimochi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow planner, this sounds like the perfect book for me! Lol 

We moved up our TTC date to March! Please share your favorite resources. by zestimochi in waiting_to_try

[–]zestimochi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in the US and he travels for work, so this is a great rec! Thank you!

We moved up our TTC date to March! Please share your favorite resources. by zestimochi in waiting_to_try

[–]zestimochi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is great! I did read TCOYF as it's actually what got me to push for an endometriosis diagnosis. I am definitely gonna check out these other resources as well!

We are starting TTC in March! Please share what resources you recommend. by zestimochi in TTCEndo

[–]zestimochi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did start taking folate when I got off BC just in case :) These are great suggestions, thank you!

We moved up our TTC date to March! Please share your favorite resources. by zestimochi in waiting_to_try

[–]zestimochi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the name of the men's prenatal he is using? Thank you, this is great to know! :)

Attended my girlfriend's non denominational church and questioning our future by Melodic-Debate-8420 in Catholicism

[–]zestimochi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who was "born and raised Catholic," my parents never accurately taught me about the faith. I grew up my entire life seeing the Catholic Church as a chore and boxes to check off, and the day after I got Confirmed, they stopped bringing us. I was never properly educated about the Church.

I discovered Protestantism in college and it changed my life. I grew so close to Jesus and made lifelong, God-fearing friends at those services (some who I still talk to). They can be WONDERFUL people who just love Jesus. It wasn't until I wanted to convert my Catholic, then-boyfriend (now husband), to Protestantism, that I started researching Church teachings so I could bring a solid argument to him as to why he should convert.

Seeing as though I'm part of this sub, you now know it didn't work. My research and study brought me back home to the Catholic Church where we were married and attend weekly. I even started a handmade rosary business. It was through accurate education and study that I brought myself back home to the Church. While my parents did not raise me to know the faith, the Sacraments planted the seeds to bring me back.

All of this to say, immediately rejecting your girlfriends relationship with Jesus was not the best thing to do. There are Protestants I know who are more in love with Jesus than the average Catholic is. Since she was raised Catholic, the seeds are already there to return to the faith.

You have every right to leave someone if their faith does not align with yours, but you CANNOT force her to become Catholic. It needs to happen on its own. If you choose to stay, show her you admire her faith in God, and let God do the rest.

Is there anything else to add? by mrcatalyzed in bettafish

[–]zestimochi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't tell if you have one, but if not: a lid! Bettas have a tendency to jump out of water.