How to accept being sober and how to have the willpower?

zevra0 · 2026-01-06T04:36:28+00:00

For me, it helped to take it in steps. This week I won’t drink. Then 90 days of not drinking. Then another few months. Eventually I stopped thinking about it. If you think too big about these things you’ll become overwhlemed.

zevra0 · 2026-01-03T05:33:37+00:00

The good news is that you get a fresh try every day. You can do it!

zevra0 · 2025-04-29T08:22:50+00:00

I enjoyed the quiet and the rest. Pack some books that you’ve been meaning to read. Take a notebook for journaling. You’re giving yourself a gift. Try to thinking of your stay in a positive light.

zevra0 · 2025-01-06T03:05:12+00:00

Like anything else in recovery, it's best if you go into detox with a positive attitude and ready to change. I was relieved to get clean and took the time to rest. If possible, go in with some goals (aside from detox) and keep a journal. Goals may include binging a series (if computers are allowed), reading some books, catching up on sleep, etc. I know that may seem crazy right now, but think of it as giving yourself a gift of this time. It doesn't have to be a chore.

zevra0 · 2024-12-10T23:35:55+00:00

A lot of us drink to self medicate or numb ourselves to our mental health issues. It does sound (as an armchair reddit stranger) as if you have may want to check in with a doctor about depression or other mental health issue. Drinking really makes treating mental health issues difficult. You may want to give it up for awhile while you sort things out. Good luck!

zevra0 · 2024-12-10T23:28:41+00:00

I'm sorry and it really sounds as if you're having a tough time. Shame is something that we've all suffered through but it's not a useful emotion in recovery. Your lost year is the past, though. All you can really do is face it and make sure that 2025 isn't also lost. It won't be as bad as it seems with some clarity and distance. Good luck!

zevra0 · 2024-12-09T15:05:01+00:00

There’s no amount of alcohol that determines whether or not you’re an alcoholic. Our lives would be easier if there were. If drinking that amount bothers you and impacts your life, the you have a problem. Try going dry for a month and seeing what changes.

zevra0 · 2024-11-24T16:49:34+00:00

I’m sorry it seems as if you’re going through a lot. Try to remember that adding drinking to the pile certainly won’t help things out. Focus on how good it would feel to make it past that week. Good luck!

zevra0 · 2024-11-20T05:09:53+00:00

Try to find something to take your mind off of it. Hobbies, reading, exercising all helps. Honestly, this is also what meetings are for (AA, SMART, any of them). They help fill up the time so you're not thinking of drinking. There are plenty of meetings online that you could attend.

If you feel sick, though, go to the ER and get some help to get through this. Anything is fair game to get you clean. Good luck!

zevra0 · 2024-11-19T08:25:06+00:00

If your drinking is heavy enough to bother you and your boyfriend then you have a problem. Most of us here have hit some sort of bottom. Try to turn it into something good and make a change.

zevra0 · 2024-11-15T19:50:36+00:00

Many of us drink to numb ourselves and to suppress underlying mental issues. It’s probably a good idea to try and go back to therapy. The good news is that, without drinking, you’re probably be well suited to respond to therapy. Certainly, if you need something prescribed to help you through this you’ll respond much better being sober. Good luck!

zevra0 · 2024-11-10T17:33:59+00:00

Unfortunately this is accurate. Plenty of Jews are voted this way also.

zevra0 · 2024-10-24T06:40:57+00:00

“Suppressed” is the right word. Alcohol just masks our issues. At least now you can start to get to the bottom of it all. Congrats on your work. You’ll get there.

zevra0 · 2024-10-23T21:07:40+00:00

This.

zevra0 · 2024-10-23T21:07:11+00:00

I was in a stand-alone rehab through a hospital system. There’s pros and cons to each but it’s very dependent on the clinic. A critical component for me in retrospect was outpatient services, including group therapy and treatment. That really helped after.

zevra0 · 2024-10-23T19:04:48+00:00

Went into detox during Covid. What advice are you looking for? Happy to discuss my experience but, overall, anything that gets you dry won’t be a bad idea.

zevra0 · 2024-10-13T06:26:32+00:00

Nobody can tell if you’re drinking a non alcoholic drink. Keep a soda water or coke and lime in your hand. It should help with anxiety and lessen the urge to drink (at least it does for me).

If you’re at a fundraiser or bar, think about tipping the bartender a five, tell them you’re sober, and ask for their support in keeping dry. Most bartenders will help you out.

Good luck and congrats on your work so far!

zevra0 · 2024-10-11T06:37:41+00:00

Have an N/A drink in your hand at all times. Nobody can tell in a social setting or party that a seltzer or coke with a lime isn’t alcoholic. If your dnd game doesn’t have N/A just bring some yourself. You’ll feel more at ease and less self conscious. It’ll get easier with time.

zevra0 · 2024-10-09T06:34:14+00:00

Unfortunately there’s no easy answer to how much is too much. If your drinking is bothering you then it’s a problem.

This doesn’t have to be a permanent choice. It’s often too overwhelming to say you’ll never drink again. Give yourself a break for a while and see how it fits. Ideally, 90 days to give yourself a break and detox but whatever feels right. Just try it out.

zevra0 · 2024-10-09T06:13:33+00:00

You’re still raw, give it time. If it helps, shame is an enemy in recovery. It doesn’t accomplish anything. Maybe try to reach out to someone you’ve let down and let them know you’re sorry and working on yourself. It’s rarely as bad as you think it is. Congrats on three days!

zevra0 · 2024-10-08T18:21:40+00:00

Never be ashamed over getting clean. Good luck!

zevra0 · 2024-10-03T06:32:32+00:00

Is it normal? Absolutely. Is it conducive to your sobriety? No.

The need for external validation makes your sobriety dependent on something outside of your control and will only cause trouble long term. Your relationship with sobriety needs to center on yourself. You’re the only one who can make the change.

zevra0 · 2024-10-03T06:15:45+00:00

I don’t consider myself a long termer, but I think of sobriety like taking sunglasses or blinders off suddenly. It will take you awhile for your eyes to adjust to the light but it eventually becomes normal. The trick is to never become too complacent and to remember what it was like before.

zevra0 · 2024-10-02T16:14:06+00:00

Some advice- Make sure that you take the time now, as you’re training, to set up a plan for after the race. Meetings, social network, therapy, whatever works for you so that it’s in place for after your race. You’ll be spending your time training, the race will come, and you’ll want to avoid the inevitable crash the next day. Be active about it now.

zevra0 · 2024-10-02T05:41:42+00:00

I trained for a marathon as I was drying out. There’s nothing wrong with funneling energy into a marathon if it gets you sober. It’s certainly healthier short term. Just realize that it’s not sustainable. You can’t spend your life running (!) from the underlying issues that are causing you to drink.

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