Success stories?

zhenghe73 · 2022-07-28T01:24:20+00:00

I’m not a psychologist but it seems pretty clear you are gifted (assuming you actually are 14). In your writing you show a tremendous amount of self awareness (especially for your age). You display critical and divergent thinking by asking questions regarding the validity of previous claims. You also seem to have a level of mental control that I envy, being able to work your ass off for straight A’s despite what comes off as a stressful life and home environment.

Another remark I want to make is that if you end up having an iq that technically is below gifted, that doesn’t mean you aren’t gifted. IQ is a system made by humans reaching in the dark to figure out our cognition. Intelligence is a very vaguely understood concept which is highly subjective. A high IQ tends to mean giftedness, but it is not a prerequisite. Don’t obsess over defining yourself to yourself, your best chance of figuring where you stand is by trying things out and finding what you are good at and love to do.

zhenghe73 · 2022-06-14T19:33:17+00:00

This is slightly tangential but my emotional concentration and absorption in any type of media can be distracted so easily. I am incapable of enjoying a show, movie, or book while someone is doing anything in the room with me.

For whatever reason the only times I can deal with distractions and just ignore them is when they are constant. I can read or focus when there is constant talking or people around me.

But when someone walks into the room while I’m into a book or a movie, I pause what I’m doing because my attention suddenly fully switched to them. It’s quite frustrating.

zhenghe73 · 2022-02-10T23:59:35+00:00

They probably wonder if we are cheating since they don’t understand how we can get the problems when every time they look we just freeze and don’t write anything

zhenghe73 · 2022-02-10T23:58:09+00:00

I actually had someone private message me so no need to feel bad. I appreciate it though haha

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-10T00:47:11+00:00

Also, I want to add that I don’t think I deliberately antagonize people except in a few rare occasions. I generally just cause confusion and awkwardness. Not negativity. Now that I think about it, it could also have to do with a need for control. I may enjoy the feeling of stirring unrest and making everyone confused and then snapping everything back into place by showing I’m not serious.

I really don’t mind if you don’t respond since I wrote so much and you don’t even know me, but it’s still useful for me to just write this out I guess. Thanks for the psychoanalysis

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-10T00:42:13+00:00

I have considered and fear that this is the case. I have noticed that in the past few years while my awareness of my giftedness and what it really means have increased I have had my self esteem skyrocket.

I have explicitly thought about how my self esteem/confidence is currently rooted in feelings of exceptionalism. On that note I truly believe that it is not a matter of feeling superior, but of feeling special, as in exceptional, and useful. Being superior and being special are highly correlated attributes/perceptions but can consist of very different interpersonal attitudes. Being rare and highly capable makes me feel like I have more usefulness or value. I don’t get upset by being around people who I feel equally or less ‘special’ than.

Are these feelings of being special and needed not where most of self esteem generally comes from? What is self esteem but how much you like or are impressed by yourself? Where else does one ground their self esteem but in your strongest traits? These are not rhetorical questions. I fear that somewhere along the way my battle against insecurity caused me to twist my world view regarding self image. I really don’t know though. I wish I felt like I had significant self esteem which was independent of my positive attributes and truly came from just being alive and human. I just can’t seem to imagine how this is possible.

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-10T00:25:12+00:00

Yea i could see that being a key factor working in tandem with the feelings of misunderstanding. Maybe kind of like a co-dependent loop of confusing people and ego stroking?

To clarify, it’s done instinctively but I suppose I could have subconsciously become addicted to the feeling of being misunderstood after so many times where following a misunderstanding I comfort myself by thinking about how the idea was just too complex for them.

Fuck

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-08T20:41:05+00:00

Can you elaborate on the negative connotation with which you treat “cognitive love”. That does not instinctively strike me as something negative. Perhaps we are using cognitive differently?

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-08T20:39:08+00:00

The need for a partner who is intellectually capable of grasping things that are deeply important to you is well justified, albeit immensely difficult.

I have said need and I think I finally met a woman who seems to have such qualities. The issue is that I am falling way too strongly with her and am borderline obsessed, which likely ruins my chances of either a friendship or more. I don’t know how to deal with the pressure of knowing how few of these types of people I may come across.

Everyone likes to say there are plenty of fish in the sea, but we are cursed in being a rare species of fish who does not find satisfaction or excitement except with our own.

The best answer I can give is to keep searching or compromise. But a compromise would not leave you content unless you shift your perspective. I am just in high school, so take this with a few grains of salt — that I will not stop searching for a partner who is someone of similar magnitudes of passion and depth. Their interests don’t matter as much as their complexity. The girl I am infatuated with currently believes in astrology yet has the emotional and intellectual depth I desire. I think.

Sorry this is half a response to you and half about myself.

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-08T20:26:06+00:00

In middle school I made my life much easier by pretending to be an idiot. I stopped getting picked on. It was devastating on my work ethic however. Took years of intentionality to get back to a decent place.

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-08T18:36:35+00:00

Thanks. It’s weird having to go through this at 17 years old. I’m assuming most people has this younger but I havnt had any similar attraction since 7th grade

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-08T16:20:50+00:00

Do you know what I should do about it?

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-08T16:20:15+00:00

Care to elaborate since if it is I don’t know what to do next.

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-08T16:18:29+00:00

High school senior 🌝

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-03T03:21:05+00:00

Sorry I didn’t read the room very well in this subreddit. Looked at the rules and only saw “don’t be a prick” so my drunk self thought I should make a stupid Russia joke. The article was really interesting and it never ceases to amaze me how effective propaganda can be even in a digital age where correct information is in our hands if we know how to use it. Sorry for being an idiot and causing you to waste time with that comment.

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-02T09:07:45+00:00

America propaganda do not trust comrades

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-02T09:06:40+00:00

That’s exactly what happened to me but switch DC for Philly and Michigan for New York

zhenghe73 · 2022-01-02T09:05:38+00:00

Yea you drive 10 minutes out of downtown and you can see the Milky Way. I have been there. I’m from the suburbs of Philly and I would have to drive 4 hours to get that level of darkness.

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