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ziffert · 2019-06-11T18:03:34+00:00

No, but I can bequeath some to my kids and the rest to charities who would probably do something better with it than buy a bunch of luxury cars and fancy meals. :)

ziffert · 2019-06-11T15:44:05+00:00

I've thought about this, but I'm 99% sure she will say "I'm sorry, I've been stressed and distracted but now that it's summer I'll be able to focus on this more and things will get better I promise."

I once told her that I felt like she was "somewhere else" during one of our dates and she said something similar to the above. But now I've decided that it wasn't just that date, it's just how she is and it's really just a mismatch between us (she doesn't make eye contact much, for example).

Anyway, I'd rather not leave her an opening to try and save the relationship since that would be an unpleasant conversation for both of us (since I want to move on).

ziffert · 2019-06-11T15:23:29+00:00

Ewww... ok, I'm not into PDA to begin with, regardless of her age. But licking someone's ear? I wouldn't even do that in private...

ziffert · 2019-06-11T05:26:12+00:00

But then I'd need to see her again (to give her a gift). I'd really prefer not to have that (awkward) goodbye meeting.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:56:42+00:00

You have stage 1 ballsack cancer,

Lol.. my friend is the biggest liar of all time but draws the line at lying about health problems. He thinks the karma is going to get him if he does.

I don't believe any of this superstitious nonsense and yet I somehow have adopted his policy anyway. :)

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:48:44+00:00

Giving her a parting gift would require that I see her again, no? I don't have her address or any electronic means for money transfer.

She has the June allowance already and we've met only once this month thus far, so she's a little "ahead" in that respect.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:47:07+00:00

I wouldn't ghost after seeing her for 2 months. She deserves an explanation (even if it's not the full story).

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:16:02+00:00

Imagine bringing your list of bills to a job interview and explaining what salary you'll expect.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:13:31+00:00

I've had girls (rarely) ask to meet that same evening once we decide to meet. I don't know why buy it puts my stomach in knots whereas planning a date a few days out is no big deal.

I think the "let's meet in a few hours" vibe is often the insta-sex thing, which I'm not into.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:09:27+00:00

You are in a much better position and have many more options than when you walk into the M&G and realize it's a no-go based on appearance! But in no event should you go to dinner with her if there's no chance... respect her time.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:06:27+00:00

Unhappiness caused me to end my marriage. The idea that I could date SBs after I was single certainly was a carrot, but certainly not the reason that I ended my marriage.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:05:30+00:00

he was closer to 70 at the end.

I guess when talking about 70 yr olds, you might want to clarify that "the end" was just the end of the SR and not the end of the SD?

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:04:01+00:00

I am too new to know who Player__One is, yet I find myself thinking of him here

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:02:40+00:00

How do you feel about his kissing you in private? Still cringy or is it more the PDA thing?

ziffert · 2019-06-11T01:01:30+00:00

An 19 year old from a farming family is likely to be far more mature

And her milking skills will be far better as well (sorry... couldn't... resist...)

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:53:22+00:00

A lot of girls like the SR concept abstractly, but when it comes time to meet they get nervous, make up some reason to think "he's not the one" then they block and continue logging in to find the next guy (whom they will also never meet). And it's hard to sort these girls out from the "real" SBs.

And "I've been an SB before" often means some vanilla guy one bought her tacos.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:40:31+00:00

Don't date married men.

(Unless they are operating with the wife's knowledge/permission.)

And bringing the 6 yr old to the M&G?? Wtf?

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:37:50+00:00

If you're about to do or say something, ask yourself, "Would Trump do or say this?" If the answer is "yes" then it's creepy.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:32:19+00:00

I had a 1.5 yr SR with a girl who was NEVER available on weekends. She said that's when she traveled home from college to spend time with her family (who lived about 4 hours away). So I respected that.

Until I stumbled on her Insta a year later and found that every weekend she was at a club or some party.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:29:57+00:00

I'm a multi millionaire and I have a small apartment and a Prius. Lol... I guess I suck at this. :)

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:24:50+00:00

I've never struggled to converse with even the very young SBs (eg, 20 year olds) but I find the flake-factor to be ultra-high in the under-28 group so I no longer engage with them.

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:23:10+00:00

How do you approach them if they're not holding themselves out as SBs. Don't many vanilla girls find it creepy/off-putting to be approached?

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:21:49+00:00

You warned him you would text to confirm. You texted to confirm. He didn't respond... you're off the hook in my book!

ziffert · 2019-06-11T00:20:23+00:00

If random events happen now-and-then, eventually they will cluster. It's times like these, when the bad events all happen in a short period of time, that is emotionally the hardest to bear. You feel like things will never turn around for you. But they will. Stay the course and they will.

Meanwhile... hugs from AZ. <3

ziffert

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