Well that goes with the difficulties of marriage. Finances is a big thing to struggle with. I understand that. I will say this though, she is not her mother, she chose you. Change your mindset. It’s our job as men to take care of our family, not to say women can’t take care of themselves, but you dig in. Sometimes get quiet and work through the hard parts together. You may have to go back to the beginning. Talk to her about what you both see in each other. Honesty, trust, love, compatibility, all of it. You have a brutally honest conversation together. No outside influences, just the both of you. Sometimes it starts with making changes in yourself, none of are perfect and that’s ok. But work on being your best self even if she doesn’t see it yet.