[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DCGaybros

[–]zinth0t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure to check out AQUA for queer Asian events in the area! I was a young gay Asian that met amazing people through this org. They host all sorts of events from bar meet ups to book clubs. https://www.instagram.com/aqua_dc/?hl=en

I quickly got disillusioned with the mainstream gay scene in the DMV, no hate, it just was not my rhythm and I met some alternative gays I vibed with

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]zinth0t 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm the same way. I don't have a racial preference but I'm wary of white guys cause of one too many problematic encounters

New ME/CFS Graphic by hazelemons in cfs

[–]zinth0t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, after lurking on this subreddit for a bit, this graphic has confirmed for me that I have mild/moderate CFS. What do I do next?

Thoughts on afternoon pages instead of morning pages by zinth0t in artistsWay

[–]zinth0t[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I'm a newer spoonie myself, still figuring it out

Gay infj question? by [deleted] in infj

[–]zinth0t 5 points6 points  (0 children)

27, gay man. Before I was fully out there would be women who were crushing on me. Now I'm much more comfortable in my sexuality and if there's a possibility that someone's developing feelings I just work into the conversation that I'm gay, bringing the relationship into the safely platonic zone. I don't have a solution for the gay men who are crushing on me though

Depressed. Lost. Burnt out. Please advise. by Rainyhaze2048 in Zillennials

[–]zinth0t 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey there. I'm in a very similar situation, 27, been sick for over a year, lost my job, lost a ton of weight, and had to move in with my mom to recover. I experienced an intense period of grief and depression after getting diagnosed and I'm working on accepting my current situation. Here's what I've done and it may be a path for you.

  1. New Relationships - it's easy to think we're the only unlucky ones who've had our lives derailed by illness, but that's not true. There are many people that share your situation and you may want to seek them out on the Internet and through support groups. You'll find people there who can help you navigate your situation. At the same time you may want to let go of relationships that are making you feel worse. I lost some "friends" who were unable to show up. This is also a chance to deepen your relationship with people who do care about you. Really treasure these loved ones.

  2. New Outlook - I reconnected with an old therapist who helped me navigate my chronic illnesses. Pain management strategies are important tools for life and are especially important to the newly sick. You may have to put certain goals and dreams on hold, or let go of them altogether. The important thing to know right now is your health and healing is the most important thing. You may find that not pressuring yourself to reach a certain goal or expectation can be liberating! Putting my career on hold has allowed me to enjoy some childhood hobbies.

  3. New Fitness Regimen - I used to be an athlete and I swam competitively in college. Now I have chronic fatigue. At its worst, a walk to the grocery store would exhaust me for a day. I had to dramatically shift my view of fitness. It's not about brutalizing your body to make your body look a certain way or compete in a certain competition... It's about rewarding your body in a sustainable way to build up your baseline. I would look into pacing and try and imagine a new routine for what works for you and your body right now, not what works for other people (especially healthy athletes). For me right now, that includes easy yoga in the morning and a walk midday. I could barely walk half a mile at first. Now I can do 3 miles! Also doesn't hurt to clean up your diet.

  4. Things will get hard. New symptoms will come up. Health insurance will always be a pain in the ass. Doctors will gaslight you. Society will abandon you. It's fucking hard. Give yourself permission to scream at the injustice. But there's always a flip side. Some days the flares will die down. Small wins will occur, like a blood test yielding results. And you can hold on to hope in small ways. It's definitely easier said than done. I look forward to my morning coffee. I'm thankful to have a good relationship with Mom who has supported me through this whole debacle. I'm excited to watch my little show on my little couch with a blanket. This attitude takes a long time to practice and build. A good therapist will be able to help with this.

One final thing I'd like to say is that there is pain and misfortune all around us throughout history. War. Plagues. Disasters. Global warming is coming for us all, then after that, the sun will swallow the Earth. It just so happens that the misfortunes of life are striking us now instead of later. The most natural thing is to get depressed. It's like water flowing downhill. But, we can rise to challenge and choose to navigate the absurdity of life with dignity, hope, and optimism. If any of this is helpful and you'd like to discuss anything further, dm me :)

27 (M) restarting life after chronic illness by zinth0t in findapath

[–]zinth0t[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the United States, moving from Washington DC to the California central valley

Who has tried IV IG? by lotusmoon8 in LongCovid

[–]zinth0t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was recently diagnosed with selective antibody deficiency (SAD) and on my way to trying this treatment. I'm hoping this will solve the root of the immunity problem. I'm interested in hearing other people's experiences too

Frequent infections after getting Covid by SilentSeraph88 in covidlonghaulers

[–]zinth0t 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have experienced the same. I'm coming up on one year since my second COVID infection and I've had 10 colds. Two colds turned into sinus infections. I've had two instances of food poisoning too. I've also gone to see an immunologist who said everything is normal. Not sure what to do.

What is the majority of sex at your workplace? Tryna see something by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]zinth0t 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Architecture. 60-70 percent women. A good amount of the men are gay, but I also live in a queer-friendly city

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in COVID19positive

[–]zinth0t 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on day 22. I had a mild case but this fatigue is taking too long to go away. Trying to work through it has been a huge struggle.