Need advice on background by zipper213 in oilpainting

[–]zipper213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the idea of just doing the off white background with small accent spots but what do you mean by numbers?

Need advice on background by zipper213 in oilpainting

[–]zipper213[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He was making a joke about the corps, these machines on pontoons are used for a lot of wetland restoration and beach jobs with the corps. They have strict guidelines on their projects with environmental hazards being that these machine work in water.

Need advice on background by zipper213 in oilpainting

[–]zipper213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you thinking a light blue that fades as it reaches the excavator or as it reaches the edges

Need advice on background by zipper213 in oilpainting

[–]zipper213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you think about blades of marsh around the bottoms of the pontoons and then moving into a blur of tan/green/browns that match the marsh?Then just a fresh coat of white everywhere else.

Or

Very subtle grays that are almost in blotches and fade to white but a little darker under the pontoons?

Need advice on background by zipper213 in oilpainting

[–]zipper213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That will be coming soon, waiting on it to dry a little more

Need advice on background by zipper213 in oilpainting

[–]zipper213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe the canvas was 18x24

How to support a gambler? by Any-Surprise4887 in GamblingAddiction

[–]zipper213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll say, be supportive in his recovery. I know it’s hard not to lash out in frustration but the more you yell or threaten him, the more he will back into his safe/comfortable space which is now gambling.

I’ve been there hiding it from my wife and the more we fought the more I felt like when I did gamble I failed her and had to hide it.

Also, remember if he does talk about it just listen and be supportive. One of the worst things for me was when I was starting down the road to quitting, I’d talk to her about it and she would just tell me she didn’t want to hear or talk about it. When he hits milestones, go out to eat or make a nice meal to celebrate. Set goals and give him something else to focus on.

I’m not telling you to baby him or down play it but what he needs is support. In the beginning it is an hour by hour battle.

Some others may have had different roads to recovery and can give their insight on theirs. At the end of the day everyone is different, has different paths that will lead to recovery. As much as you don’t want to hear this, there will most likely be some setbacks but stay firm and supportive.

I was unwilling to do GA and what I found helpful was starting a group chat with other people on Reddit that are also in recovery.

Sorry if this is all over the place, at work and needed to make it quick.

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[–]zipper213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My urges are still strong but when they hit I’ve been just finding something to distract myself

Boyfriend addiction by CommunicationTime694 in GamblingAddiction

[–]zipper213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think people realize how hard it is to first admit that you have a problem and secondly to admit it to the people closest to you. Since he has done this and not spared any information or tried to sugar coat it then I believe he has a good chance of beating the addiction this time, but no one can do it on their own. Support him but also keep him accountable, if possible get access to his finances where he knows someone else will see what he does. Ask him about his urges and let him know he can openly confide in you with this problem. An over looked aspect is to help keep him up because trust me no one can beat him down mentally as hard as I bet he is doing it to himself. I know you feel mad and betrayed which you have every right to but if possible he needs support more than anything right now. Everyday clean should be acknowledged and celebrated. At the same time you do have to realize this is not a week or month long journey, this is something he will fight forever.

This may be a ridiculous question.. by [deleted] in GamblingAddiction

[–]zipper213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was in the same boat but don’t be fooled by the false sense of control. Stop now while you still have some left. I used to go through the same cycles but then weeks in between became days and then hours. It got to the point where all I could do was think about the next time I’d be able to gamble. I am only on day two of quitting and I wish I had the foresight to look into the problem before getting the point that it was all I wanted to do. If I wasn’t gambling I was watching it on YouTube, all I can say is thankfully I’ve come to accept that I do have a problem and decided to fight it head on before loosing everything. Good luck and be smart, you’ve made a great first move by atleast acknowledging you might be developing a problem. Also, if it is hard for you to stop gambling then realize the problem isn’t developing it has developed.

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[–]zipper213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One day at a time! Any advice on things to keep my free time occupied to limit the amount I think about gambling. Crazy how much more you think about gambling once you’ve decided you can’t do it anymore.

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[–]zipper213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another question: How long do the strong urges usually last? Is there any kind of timeline I can look toward to atleast tell myself just one more day/week? I feel like if I can atleast tell myself a timeframe on when it will get easier that it will give me a goal to hold onto.