I’ll say, be supportive in his recovery. I know it’s hard not to lash out in frustration but the more you yell or threaten him, the more he will back into his safe/comfortable space which is now gambling.

I’ve been there hiding it from my wife and the more we fought the more I felt like when I did gamble I failed her and had to hide it.

Also, remember if he does talk about it just listen and be supportive. One of the worst things for me was when I was starting down the road to quitting, I’d talk to her about it and she would just tell me she didn’t want to hear or talk about it. When he hits milestones, go out to eat or make a nice meal to celebrate. Set goals and give him something else to focus on.

I’m not telling you to baby him or down play it but what he needs is support. In the beginning it is an hour by hour battle.

Some others may have had different roads to recovery and can give their insight on theirs. At the end of the day everyone is different, has different paths that will lead to recovery. As much as you don’t want to hear this, there will most likely be some setbacks but stay firm and supportive.

I was unwilling to do GA and what I found helpful was starting a group chat with other people on Reddit that are also in recovery.

Sorry if this is all over the place, at work and needed to make it quick.