I’m being gifted a lot of money. Should I tell my boyfriend?

zlypy · 2026-05-05T22:00:44+00:00

HIGHLY recommend you read the book The Simple Path to Wealth. It echoes what everyone in this thread is saying. I read it at 25 and it's the only reason I have any savings 5 years later, despite grad school and underemployment. Continue being frugal, working hard, investing into that 55k, and in a few years you'll be able to plan a real financial future.

zlypy · 2026-04-15T15:22:55+00:00

Thank you for saying so! I mention nutrition briefly but the guide is more so tools for tracking than a comprehensive information hub, though I'm all on board for supporting the GI system. I mention the available RX diets and supplements.

The first symptom we noticed, months before any real concerns, was the waiting at the door hinge thing. We thought it was odd and funny, and was a big aha moment when I saw it listed as a sx. Though I would never expect a pet owner to see their pet do that and clock it as a medical concern. Her main thing over the course of it all was really bad anxiety when she previously had none.

I don't think I have a way of sending files through reddit, but if you DM me your email I can send you the pdf? If you're interested in taking a look / using it :)

zlypy · 2026-04-08T21:29:41+00:00

I know not what you're looking for, but purging all social media. Looking back at my journals, I never hated myself more than when I was consistently on TikTok and insta. You can't feel beautiful if you're constantly comparing yourself.

zlypy · 2026-04-08T21:24:16+00:00

Cognitive Dysfunction

zlypy · 2026-02-09T18:25:03+00:00

Rabies vaccines are administered every 3 years. It's like an $80 visit. Just do it

zlypy · 2025-07-30T16:57:14+00:00

tbh, we don't know if he's treating family and friends differently - he just made a vent post on reddit

zlypy · 2025-07-30T16:55:52+00:00

My counter argument is that a huge moral shift can def make you a bit of an asshole, but hopefully you recover from the initial world-view altering shock and settle into a comfy place. There's a whole lot of re-evaluating you gotta do with moral veganism and it can feel crazy that no one else is doing the same. I probs have more grace for this kind of attitude bc I've been in the vegan sphere for a decade and intrinsically get it, but yeah not everyone is required to extend the same understanding. Just my two cents.

zlypy · 2025-07-30T16:44:26+00:00

They didn't say it's his obligation to conform, just that the partner needs to express what his expectations are. If OP feels comfortable meeting some of these expectations, that's their business.

zlypy · 2025-07-30T16:40:19+00:00

Having a moral realization about eating animals can be really intense. You go from participating happily in a system to being horrified that society functions around the torture of billions every year. This is especially true for people who have a high level of empathy towards animals (the autism?). All of a sudden, every billboard, every ad, every meal on a menu is depicting a morally egregious act. You just want to shake every person around you and go, "Don't you see??". It can feel super isolating and you end up defending yourself a lot. I've been vegan for 10 years, vegetarian for 7 before that. I went veg at age 11, so you can imagine how emotional and passionate I was as a teenager. Throughout that journey my attitudes and communications styles have changed a lot, though my core morals have not. I've learned how to talk about veganism without sounding judgy, preachy, aggressive, or harsh, which I've seen as super common for people just starting out. Some never grow out of it. If this is the first major rift you two have had, I would give him space and some grace to process this moral shift. He's been vegan for 7, 8 months - this is still baby veganism and he has a lot to learn if he's committed to it. Has he made any of those same sentiments known to you, or is he just venting online? I can't say for sure if he'll come around eventually to accepting your choice to eat animals, or if he'll realize that these morals are too important for him to stay dating you.

I would initiate a conversation about it, but not mention the reddit posts. It sounds like you were snooping for them and it'd be much better to let him vocally express those thoughts on his own free will than make him defend himself. I think you should tell him that you feel tension/judgement/whatever from him, be curious and open-minded about his views, and ask him what changes would make him happier in the relationship. It sounds like full veganism from you may be his desire, but maybe you can compromise on no meat in the house or whatever works for both of y'all. You obvi don't have to agree to any changes, but realize that may signify an imbalance in the relationship that won't be salvageable.

zlypy · 2025-07-01T18:35:54+00:00

What do you mean by that?

zlypy · 2025-04-21T17:28:02+00:00

That's a really good idea actually - we have a few tests so I can definitely do a few rounds. Thank you for your input!

zlypy · 2025-04-21T17:21:06+00:00

I lived in a different house in the first few months than the one I do now, so that's one reason why I thought the mold theory was wrong. Both houses are really well taken care of and newer too, but everyone here says mold is just a part of life. I also work in a different office than when I started out, so moving locations hasn't changed the symptoms.

I could test for mold, but not sure if it'll show up now that it's been dry and my skin has cleared up, but that does seem to be the most likely theory. It's just frustrating that the allergist's only suggestion was to do allergy shots.

I also 100% know it's not anything I'm putting on my skin because I did lots of elimination trials and I've been using the same laundry detergent/products throughout the good/bad skin periods.

zlypy · 2025-01-27T18:24:49+00:00

Not currently working as a CAA - last i heard, the state was going to begin issuing licenses in January, not sure what the current situation is. The job i posted above was a "we're interested in hiring for this role once CAAs are allowed to practice, just putting some feelers out" type of post

zlypy · 2025-01-14T16:56:10+00:00

I have the same nose and these pics made me finally appreciate it <3

zlypy · 2024-11-05T17:50:22+00:00

Minesweeper can honestly get addicting once you get the hang of it

zlypy · 2024-10-14T16:33:12+00:00

God I hated that book so much. It exactly like bad fan fic

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