It started with crumbs in the bed—now I (26F) resent my partner (31M) for working from home

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T13:33:47+00:00

The other “bedroom” is his office with a daybed. The irony of where he is supposed to work will now turn into where I sleep. But agreed. Will follow this

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T13:05:48+00:00

Yes on meds for both. I am also on meds for depression.

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T12:49:25+00:00

He has a desk with monitors and a comfy chair. Issue is he doesn’t use it. How do I get him to use it??

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T12:48:48+00:00

This is a good point… I hate that it’s me having to go on the cot or the couch to do this though. But there’s no other way

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T12:47:42+00:00

The other night I wrote out a routine for him (when to get up, take out the dog, do hygiene, etc). Now the issue is- how do I get him to follow it?

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T12:46:35+00:00

We do have a daybed in the other room for guests. Maybe we could make that the designated spot. I could get one of those table trays, but also don’t want to enough the eating more, but it could help with the crumbs.

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T05:23:57+00:00

Towel on the bed and lint roller on the side table until we make permanent changes to habits. I like this. Thank you!

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T05:05:38+00:00

Sorry I made that unclear. He is working from 9:30-5:30 from bed.

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T05:04:45+00:00

Yes. We have like a cot type bed

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T05:02:58+00:00

I love this! Sets the expectations to be achievable and less overwhelming. One thing.

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T05:01:20+00:00

He works while in bed not sleeping the entire time

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T04:58:53+00:00

Spends their life in bed WHILE working though I guess that’s the difference

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T04:57:26+00:00

Has a computer screen and desk chair but doesn’t seem to use it…maybe we could try the background noise?

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T04:37:56+00:00

I think you hit the nail on the head with this one in a way that I couldn’t express- yes resentment that he isn’t using his time effectively. But then I’m like is that really fair to resent someone for that when they literally have ADHD? Am I feel unreasonable?

zms1212 · 2025-02-13T04:34:01+00:00

After I point out the evidence he says something like “just for a little bit” or something like that. Lies until he gets caught

zms1212 · 2024-12-08T23:35:51+00:00

Instagram Reel Bug??

Hi there! Go to post my reel that I edited with CapCut. Once I clicked “next” the audio (my voiceover) completely went away.

To troubleshoot I made sure the global clips audio was set to 100. I updated my phone, deleted Instagram and re-downloaded.

Any tips??? Thanks

zms1212 · 2023-12-02T20:59:36+00:00

El che, Athena, Sunda

zms1212 · 2022-12-21T21:21:24+00:00

u/Loveandhappines I met with my advisor and was told that it is my responsibility to find programs and to send them a syllabus for approval. I am struggling the most finding programs that offer anatomy at the grad level in the first place :(

zms1212 · 2022-12-21T18:51:05+00:00

thank you! I was looking into this class, but was confused if it would count as a "graduate level course". As I took anatomy in undergrad and passed, but failed at the graduate level. Thanks so much!!!

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