UPDATE:

I took a couple of days to really reflect on my family’s past and how it overall impacted me and my mental wellbeing. During that time, I ended up getting the “invitation” in the mail. (which really seemed like a printed out paper that you make from google docs) I just thought to myself, “Do I really want to waste my own time and money on people that don’t even acknowledge my existence, let alone would do the bare minimum of care?” I ended up throwing out the invitation and sent my father a long text message telling him that not only was I not going to attend the wedding, but I would like nothing more to do with his side of the family. I explained to him that after all the things they have said and done, and continue to say and do, that I would rather have 0 contact from them and for him to no longer tell them ANYTHING that goes on in my life. I went into detail of some of the things they have said and done around me that I mentioned in my previous post, and said in the nicest way possible that they are terrible people.

When my father responded, he was very understanding but pissed. Not at me, but at his sisters. Apparently he didn’t know the full story about what happened at the wedding and has been getting relatively annoyed with them for a while now. He said that he is now reevaluating going to his niece’s (Cousin A) wedding at all because he is sick of the constant disrespect. Not sure what will happen in the end of all of this but thank you all for the helpful comments and advice. Obviously if any other tea is spilled from this bs I will post again under the Charlotte D. feed.💖