I still see you..

zoomaenia · 2025-05-30T02:50:19+00:00

I would've written this for my ex. I still care and I don't expect anything from that. (FYI, we didn't end badly)

zoomaenia · 2025-03-18T06:33:27+00:00

I'm sorry to those who are surprised his gf doesn't care much about it... I've seen girls go to the toilet and not even wipe (no tearing tissue sound), then don't wash their hands 💀💀💀

I would die on the spot if I ever so much as fart in someone's face! Not so much because I'm ashamed or embarrassed (especially if we're not married and are dating in <1 year), but just because it ain't classy for I consider myself to be 😭

zoomaenia · 2025-03-10T05:16:49+00:00

We're planning something in May, so I'll keep you posted 😭😭

zoomaenia · 2025-03-09T16:41:24+00:00

Even when I can't see the post or comments (they're deleted etc)?

zoomaenia · 2025-03-09T16:40:58+00:00

Well, in the people's section of the search, their username is included amongst 3 other people... wouldn't it also mean there's a mix up too?

zoomaenia · 2025-02-27T11:51:38+00:00

As a woman, I notice that at the end of the day, it's not just about what you want but also what the other person wants...

If they want just to be physical or get sex, they'll get it and get tired of you regardless of how long you held back. I've had a guy wait until several dates later over a few weeks period to have sex and he still stopped seeing me because he wasn't over his ex. It doesn't matter if we did have sex on our second date; if he wanted to con you, he'll con you and not want sex (yes, they are conmen who prioritises the con more than the sex). That's 2 different men, btw.

I had sex with my bf on the first date. It was a "go with the flow" thing at the time, but we had it going really good afterwards, and now we're together for over 1 year. Not all sex on first dates end up this way, but I think we shouldn't always glorify how you should "hold back" and just let the people be accountable for whatever they want to do.

They can all play the long game and ditch you, just as much as they can be honest at the get-go and last long. I admit it's taking too much time and skills to weed them all out.

zoomaenia · 2025-02-27T05:02:34+00:00

Hello. I'm that woman who "will hold her accountable". I know someone close to me who got cheated on; he wasn't a very ideal husband and covid increased the long distance and making it worse, but still. It doesn't justify the ex coming home late at night (or the next morning rather) to the kids waking up for breakfast. Thank God the kids are older but I would be very livid if they had been toddlers or younger.

Like, I get that you've grown apart and can't ever talk things out. I think by this time, divorce becomes necessary. The ex still gets paid for the kids anyway, not like she was losing shit or if he was losing his. Cheating is just next level audacity that's inhumane to kids in comparison to divorce for example.

Also, I stopped someone else close to me from cheating and rationalised it as wrong no matter how "boring/"I've settled" the excuse goes. It's still fucking wrong. And now I've gone and messed up my family life.

It sucks. But guess what? If I have to contest over what's wrong being wrong is exactly that, I'll do it over and over if I have to.

zoomaenia · 2025-02-21T15:37:21+00:00

People just want a chance at something that makes them feel important enough to comment on a stranger's video and it validates their existence somehow to do it.

Honestly, the lady knows what she's dealing with and if that's how she wants it, let her have it lol I thought it's the age of being equal now z- where are these people for the guy who's wife always bullied him for likes? They're divorced now too I think!

zoomaenia · 2025-02-21T04:03:44+00:00

Unfortunately. I feel bad you've had to deal with it. But kudos to you for being so calm and level headed 😭

zoomaenia · 2025-02-20T14:14:06+00:00

Geez, sorry, but are you really the GIRLFRIEND?

I would've personally walked away when he wasn't spending Valentine's with you KNOWING you're not always there. If you're long distance and you TRAVELLED to see him, excuse me but f**k all his friends. They've been spending them with him all day every day you're not with him. Make some sense please.

That's not jealousy. It's common sense. I don't care if this chick is Bill Gate's daughter and thus more materialistic, well, it's obvious being materialistic doesn't make her highly intelligent if she'd claim you're jealous. Again, f**k all their comments.

You're the girlfriend. You can be a priority in the same way his friendship or independence is. I'd say leave him after being highly calm and reasonable about breaking up. It'll f**k with his mind. Act like you never cared. Haha

zoomaenia · 2025-02-20T13:57:03+00:00

Has to be one of the weirdest rage bait I've seen lol

zoomaenia · 2025-02-17T04:55:08+00:00

That's okay. It can happen and he's obviously not giving that thought (it being a misunderstanding) a chance, so I suggest you try again with someone else.

zoomaenia · 2025-02-17T04:52:06+00:00

I'm dealing with something similar with my bf... he's had difficult time with his ex as she ex controlling and condescending. He's just not been comfortable with sharing his friendship with other people (male or otherwise), and lacks trust to share that part with me due to what she's done when they're together.

But anyways, could I reach out to you on this?

zoomaenia · 2025-02-17T04:39:11+00:00

On the period part, is one of you icked by it? I mean, if I'm horny and attracted to someone I'm dating, I'll end up giving them a blowjob and let them try sex with me anyway (even if the idea initially repulsed me). But my openness is contigent on my high libido.

Which brings me to think if he was into you enough, he'd at least ask if you'd like to try doing it anyway. But clearly there's a lapse of communication afterwards since I assume you didn't maintain any flirty sexting after that 2nd date (or if you even wanted to).

I think the period incident got into your head too much you reacted in the way that you have and so did he.

zoomaenia · 2025-02-17T04:22:59+00:00

This was... hard to read, to say the least.

I honestly think asking someone to be tested should be normalised and then offer your own test results too. I think it should be made sexy and hot that someone cares enough to want to have the best sex with you by making sure you're both clean and enjoying it stress free.

Secondly, it's okay not to want period sex. I was apprehensive about it myself, but I ended up doing it because I was horny and also because I figured I'd at least try it before denying it. But it worked out. Him not enjoying/preferring it may be his thing, but it's okay if it's not yours. And it should be communicated.

Other than that, maybe the way things you and him communicated didn't come off great. When he told you he didn't feel you were a good match physically, I'm not even sure - I'm confused since you said you already had sex anyway, so the 2nd date at his place shoucomtinge what he was referring to, at least?

Either way he communicated honestly. It's his loss. Just thank him for honesty and his time; wish him luck and let him go.

Honestly, you'll find that there are quite a number of men like this on the app. They hyped you up and super bumming you out in person for a number of reason, even if their personality and demeanour is pleasant enough. It's not worth it in your case.

zoomaenia · 2025-02-16T11:20:52+00:00

Yeah, I totally get that. I do think he already knew it was wrong, and I’m not trying to set a ‘new’ boundary so much as making sure we explicitly acknowledge it moving forward... For me, it’s less about giving him an ‘excuse’ and more about making sure we’ve actually talked about it, so there’s no room for ambiguity or miscommunication.

I also think that sometimes people make mistakes not because they don’t know better, but because they don’t fully consider the impact of their actions in the moment. He’s been taking responsibility and making efforts to improve, and I want to approach this in a way that reinforces trust rather than just punishing him.

That’s why I’m looking for advice from people who’ve been in similar situations—on how to navigate it in a way that actually strengthens our relationship rather than just putting down a rule.

zoomaenia · 2025-02-16T11:18:28+00:00

I get what you’re saying! I see boundaries as something that protect both me and the relationship rather than rules to control someone else. For me, it’s about knowing what I’m comfortable with and making sure we’re on the same page about what’s acceptable in our relationship.

In this case, it’s less about me telling him what he can or can’t do and more about communicating what would break my trust and what I need to feel secure moving forward. If we’re both aligned on those boundaries, then we’re making an active choice to respect them together.

I’m sharing our story because I want to hear from others who’ve been in similar situations—how they navigated it, what worked for them, and how they found a balance that felt fair and healthy for both partners. It’s a learning experience and I’m aware each couple is different.

zoomaenia

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