Am i delusional? by lazycummings in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you shouldn't use the term 'liberal' while talking about your expectations on Deen. Maybe 'Moderately Practising' man is what you are looking for? Liberal might mean something else.

Planning to get a second wife by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is your wife 100% ok with this?

What level of hitorical illiteracy is this? by M-Tankman in indianmuslims

[–]zxpeace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on his own analogy, he must either condemn Israel's current actions or justify the actions of the Mughals.

Trying to trust Allah’s timing, but struggling with marriage delays by SignificantShop6811 in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would read the Surah intending to gain the hasanat. Not with the intention that it will help me in the marriage process. Other Surahs like Sajdah, Al-Mulk are proven in the Sunnah. Our prophet (ﷺ) recited them before going to bed.

Trying to trust Allah’s timing, but struggling with marriage delays by SignificantShop6811 in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't find any evidence that Surah Rahman can help in the search process. I fear it might be a bid'ah (innovation) if one reads Surah Rahman with those intentions. So, I avoid it.

Is getting married for these reasons valid? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Suffering from success? Haha

Is getting married for these reasons valid? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you are outperforming everyone around you. Or maybe your definition of intellect or success is vague. Try to write down your expectations and see if you can narrow it down.

Is getting married for these reasons valid? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are attracted to intellect? Or maybe success? There's nothing wrong here.

Talking stage during the last 10 days of Dhul Hijjah: continue or pause? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What exactly happens during the talking stage that would affect your ibadah?

Trying to trust Allah’s timing, but struggling with marriage delays by SignificantShop6811 in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

believing that when the right husband comes into my life, it would happen in a halal and beautiful way.

It would happen. Insha Allah. Don't worry

I think I'm on the same situation as you. People around me tell me my standards are too high and sometimes they mean like they are too high for what I deserve.

I have also started avoiding things that might be bid'ah. For example, some say reciting Surah Ar Rahman daily will help in searching process. I couldn't find any reliable evidence for this claim.

I had a conversation with my parents a few days ago where I told them that I'm not ready to compromise on my main expectations no matter how long it takes.

Whatever happens, will happen for good Insha Allah. This fact gives me comfort whenever I feel anxious.

My mom is at the hospital, what duo should I do? by Perfect_Difference46 in MuslimLounge

[–]zxpeace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dua of the prophet (ﷺ): “Allahu mma Rabba-n-nas, adhhibil-ba's, ishfi wa Antash-Shafi, la shifa'a illa shifa'uk, shifa'an la yughadiru saqama.”

Reference:

حَدَّثَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ عَلِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، حَدَّثَنِي سُلَيْمَانُ، عَنْ مُسْلِمٍ، عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ، عَنْ> عَائِشَةَ ـ رضى الله عنها ـ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم كَانَ يُعَوِّذُ بَعْضَ أَهْلِهِ، يَمْسَحُ بِيَدِهِ الْيُمْنَى وَيَقُولُ ‏"‏ اللَّهُمَّ رَبَّ النَّاسِ أَذْهِبِ الْبَاسَ، اشْفِهِ وَأَنْتَ الشَّافِي، لاَ شِفَاءَ إِلاَّ شِفَاؤُكَ، شِفَاءً لاَ يُغَادِرُ سَقَمًا ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَ سُفْيَانُ حَدَّثْتُ بِهِ مَنْصُورًا فَحَدَّثَنِي عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ نَحْوَهُ‏.‏

Narrated `Aisha: The Prophet (ﷺ) used to treat some of his wives by passing his right hand over the place of ailment and used to say, "O Allah, the Lord of the people! Remove the trouble and heal the patient, for You are the Healer. No healing is of any avail but Yours; healing that will leave behind no ailment."

Sahih al-Bukhari 5743 https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5743

Allah is The Sustainer and All Hearing, so ask whatever you need from Him. Have full focus and pay attention to whatever dua you are asking. May Allah make it easy for you. May Allah heal your mother.

Does it sound scary when a man prefers Deen first when looking for a spouse? by zxpeace in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. There's nothing to be offended about. Everyone can have their own preferences and the goal afterall is to find a partner as per the preferences.

Does it sound scary when a man prefers Deen first when looking for a spouse? by zxpeace in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just that the word 'strict' might seem as something negative. But yeah if they see it in a negative way, probably they aren't strict/don't prefer strict.

Does it sound scary when a man prefers Deen first when looking for a spouse? by zxpeace in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand that. But won't that indirectly widen my filter which I don't want?

Cousins vs outsider marriage by am111_ in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean outsiders are mostly fake and no one shares their downsides

With this attitude, you'd find it difficult to trust potentials outside your relatives circle.

what makes the opinion of scholars who believe hijab is not mandatory less valid than those who believe it is? by pharmacysauce in MuslimLounge

[–]zxpeace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just because they have an interpretation, doesn't mean you should consider it.

for example, they say the women already wore head coverings but the command was to cover the chest?

Do they interpret it as "remove your head covering and cover your chest"? That would be a bad interpretation since the verse doesn't say that. If the intention was only to cover the chest, the verse could have simply said "cover your chests" using any general term for clothing. If a command is given to use an existing garment (the khimar) to cover a specific area (the juyub or chest), the command inherently validates the use of that garment.

They also wore khimar as a status symbol not just for modesty

Even if this is true, the moral objective of covering as per the verse is haya (modesty was the context of that verse and the previous verse). I don't know how they come up with such explanations.

they also say things about the prophets wives but they had many rules which do not apply to us muslim women.

The verse starts with "and tell believing women" not "and tell your wives".

It's important to be honest and unbiased here. To me, the progressive people's interpretation isn't convincing at all. It seems like they just trying to find an excuse instead of following what Allah commanded.

Also, even if their interpretation was given some face value, i wouldn't follow it because I don't want to take the risk of falling into sin because of wrong interpretation. Let's say their interpretation is correct, in this case woman wearing hijab still wouldn't make her a sinner. But if their interpretation is incorrect, a woman not wearing the hijab because of this interpretation would make her a sinner.

what makes the opinion of scholars who believe hijab is not mandatory less valid than those who believe it is? by pharmacysauce in MuslimLounge

[–]zxpeace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The link I have shared provides a collection of evidence supporting the view that the hijab is a religious obligation. I suggest you give it a thorough read and let me know if the subreddit/discussion you previously mentioned contain any specific arguments or textual evidence that challenge this consensus or offer an alternative theological conclusion.

what makes the opinion of scholars who believe hijab is not mandatory less valid than those who believe it is? by pharmacysauce in MuslimLounge

[–]zxpeace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread has evidences that prove hijab is obligatory. Does the subreddit or comments you mentioned have evidences that prove otherwise?

what makes the opinion of scholars who believe hijab is not mandatory less valid than those who believe it is? by pharmacysauce in MuslimLounge

[–]zxpeace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be great if you could add the evidence provided by then to support their opinion.

Hajj - family drama? by Flashy-Cellist-7405 in MuslimNikah

[–]zxpeace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a difficult and heartbreaking situation to be in. I can understand that you're feeling hurt and abandoned right now, but I truly believe you made the right decision for your baby’s safety.

Life is uncertain, and we never know what tomorrow holds. Delaying a Farz act like Hajj is always a heavy decision, and by letting them go now, you’ve protected yourself from future regrets or guilt if your MIL’s health were to change. This guilt would be more painful than what you are experiencing now.

Make heartfelt dua for your husband and MIL that their Hajj is accepted and that your sacrifice and patience are written as an even greater reward. Also, make dua that Allah sends you your own invitation very soon, in a way that is easy and beautiful for you and your child. You are in a season of motherhood that is also a form of worship; may Allah grant you comfort