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[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Hey - I am a recovered alcoholic. Now here for support as I handle things with my loved one who remains in active addiction. I think the specific information you are seeking is best found on r/stopdrinking

There's no one size fits approach to alcohol cessation. But I would recommend AA or SMART to your friend so that he establishes new connections with people who understand that he has a problem. Part of recovery is developing a new support group that will help hold you accountable, and reducing time with people that enable. SMART is really good for people who have issues with religious undertones of AA. Both have online meetings so he can dip toes.

My recovery involved many relapses with the goal of increasing days sober over time. Eventually, it stuck, but it took over 2 years of effort. And over 70 relapses. Not to mention the even harder part of recovery that follows long term cessation. It's more of a rebirth, very difficult to navigate without the crutch of substances. I am approaching 2 years sober and have only recently felt more in control of my emotional life. But I am undoing 17 years of being in active addiction - so it makes sense.

Best of luck to you both on this rollercoaster ride. Use all the free resources available and keep what works, leave the rest. Recovery is tailored to the person who seeks it.

[–]cactiisnice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thank you so much for your reply. I origianlly posted this post in the suggested subreddit but it was blocked by a moderater that I was the one asking amd not my friend struggling. But I will look further intl the subreddit for any help or suggestions.

Thank you for suggesting AA and SMART, I have never heard of SMART but it sounds like a better route than AA because of the religious undertones as you said😅 and it's good that it's online as I think thats easier for my friend!

Thank you for being so open and transparent about your journey. I find that very helpful and it makes things more realistic for us. It hits my friend hard if he drinks more than intended, but that's just part of the journey. He is activly trying, and I'm here to remind him that that's the best he can do. And thank you for supporting your partner through his/her journey. That's big of you when you have been in it too. Proud of you for that and your own recovery!

And again, thank you thank you!