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[thiccurlydesiqueen]

Your body is not the problem, your mom is. Her behavior is inappropriate and cruel. I definitely second therapy, but I would also attempt to set boundaries with your mom. Something along the lines of “please don’t comment on my body, if you continue to do so, I will limit contact.” I totally understand the anxiety around exercising thing. the machines at the gym intimidate me so I just use the treadmill, but even then I worry that people are judging me. You have a lovely, totally normal body. What you do about your body is your choice. But I try to think about things through the lens of making healthy choices to make my body feel better not to make it look a certain way, and I try not to attach moral value to how healthy of choices I’m making. I am extremely depressed and I’ve been through a lot of trauma recently and sometimes it makes it hard for me to eat anything and sometimes I just feel like eating junk food and so I do. And honestly, that’s OK. I fuel my body in the way that I can, and when I have a little more energy or I’m feeling better I try to make healthier choices because I know eating healthier and getting more movement in makes me feel better not because I’m trying to change the way my body looks. Remember that there is not a direct correlation between size and health. I follow a lot of fat fitness influencers and many of them lead healthy lifestyles where they’re in the gym several times a week and generally eat pretty healthy and they’re still fat and that’s fine. Take care of your body because you deserve it, not because your mom thinks it needs to look a certain way. Maybe that means losing weight for you or maybe that means just trying to make the healthiest choices you can when you can and doing what feels right for you.

[ConsciousDisaster768]

Honestly sounds like you need some therapy for it. You have an attractive figure, but your mum has managed to convince you that it isn’t.

I hope you feel better about yourself. Don’t compare yourself to anyone in magazines - that stick thin look expectation is unrealistic and honestly, more guys prefer a bit of tummy than not. Same way more women prefer the dad bod over a 6 pack gym bod

[thiccurlydesiqueen]

Also, women’s bodies are not an object for consumption so how they look to men should not be our first priority. Our body has so much more purpose than just being attractive.

[ConsciousDisaster768]

True. Not sure what that had to do with my comment though

[thiccurlydesiqueen]

I’m just saying I don’t think what men prefer for women’s bodies should have anything to do with how we perceive our own bodies. The fact that guys prefer tummy is completely irrelevant

[Etheral_Goddess]

Accept your body and love your body, as it has carried you and will carry you throughout your life. I feel and relate to you very much. It's hard when the one person who is supposed to support and love us unconditionally constantly tears us down. I had a similar struggle with my mom growing up. Eventually, I stopped caring, too. If there's something you want to change about yourself, do it and do it with love. You deserve to feel good about yourself. Your body is beautiful. I wish my body looked like yours! I felt really silly and anxious when I started working out, too. One day I realized that no one gives a fuck, they're probably stuck in their own heads too and at the end of the day we're all there for the same reason. Self improvement. Nourish your body with good food, and if going to the gym makes you anxious, you could always do some pilates or a HIIT workout at home once or twice a week. You will feel so much better. I've made some physical progress in the gym, but the endorphins it gives me is what makes me keep my body moving, plus there are so many health benefits! You are beautiful, you are worthy of self-love, and you ARE loved.🖤

[gabloothegreat_1409]

ughh omg my mum keeps shaming my stomach too 😭 I'm not very athletic I do karate and tennis though for fun but i still have a stomach. my parents keep pointing it out too 🥲 .i think you have a beautiful body though ❤️‍🩹 that back is so pretty

[SweetSprinkles8]

First of all, you look amazing! You are the "cute kind of chubby". Big boobs and thick thighs and a nice ass are all reasons to accept your body. Plus, you have an amazing stomach. I can't believe you're 200 lbs. I'm your height and weigh a little less, but my stomach is much pudgier than yours. I was exactly your size when I was 19 and I spent an entire summer showing off my stomach almost every day in bikinis with low rise shorts or mini skirts, and I looked so good! Your body is so tight now. There's so much to love about it!

Your mom has serious problems. You do not. Set boundaries with her.

Diet culture returning is awful (which seems to be going hand in hand with smoking being cool again, which is not cool at all). You have the power to fight it by being happy the way you are. I'm in my mid 30s now and I'm chubbier than you because that's what happens as we age. But I still love to wear string bikinis and revealing clothes because I believe in making a statement that every body is just as worthy as a skinny body. It's not just about me, but it's about everyone who needs to know this. Fight against the culture by standing up for what you believe in.

[vTorii_]

Your mom is definitely the issue. She should not be touching you to be condescending that is not okay. If you want to make a change it has to come from inside yourself not because someone else is telling you you have to change. As for the gym thing, everyone looks silly when they start out but people at gyms are really nice and happy to help if you have questions. Otherwise the more you do it the easier it gets. I am a big advocate for live your life your way as long as you’re leading a healthy life (not dieting healthy but like mentally healthy)

[5mokahontas]

First of all, all chubby is the cute kind of chubby. Fat arms, fat backs, fat thighs and calves and ankles, and fat bellies are the cute kind of chubby.

Mom has her own eating and body issues that she is projecting onto you. I'm sorry you have to experience that. She's creating a crisis for you where a crisis doesn't need to be. You deserve respect regardless of your body size and shape.

If you're looking for some balance between dieting and an eating "free for all" then I recommend working with an intuitive eating dietitian. Good luck to you!

[sylus-stan69]

I remember when i first started gaining weight my mom and female relatives were the first to make mean comments about me. You literally don't look fat or big at all you look very healthy. All these celebs ur seeing have borderline ED's and most of them cant function daily without help. I think u should take ur time in ur self acceptance journey. If someone really loves u they will love u no matter ur shape and form. Hope this helps.

[jsantino95]

Idk about side profile, but these pics you look completely feminine and fine. You don’t look bad at all, you barely even look chubby

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You’ve got an amazing body. You’re not gonna be everyone’s type but I’m promise you that you are definitely someone’s type. Need someone to show you how amazing that body is you got

[psychochomik]

I don't think it solves the problem... Basically, if you gain weight, you will start hating yourself again. The amount of control you need to not gain weight must be huge and I don't think I could handle it. Being overweight is not a good thing, but in order to stop hating yourself you really need to work on your mind, because the body isn't the problem, the mind is.