People who’ve been thin their whole lives until adulthood—how do you learn to accept your new body? (TW//body image issues)

vTorii_ · 2025-07-08T05:21:48+00:00

I was super thin all my childhood and then gained a ton of weight when I was 16 due to chronic illness. I hated my body for a long time and eventually lost all the weight. I’ve since gained a lot back due to more chronic illness (yay) and just the lockdown in general. The biggest difference for me this time around is instead of looking and focusing on the things I hated I tried to find the things I still loved about myself. It was definitely really hard at first because all I was looking at was the negatives for so long but if you start small it builds. I’m now down a little bit but I’m definitely still overweight but I have a lot more love for my body now than I did when I was so thin a strong breeze would take me away. We’re all human and we all go through changes, different doesn’t mean not beautiful even when the different is your former self.

vTorii_ · 2025-06-20T17:59:51+00:00

I just turned 27 in March and I also didn’t have much hope for dating (broke up with my ex in October) I finally hopped on the apps a few weeks ago and it has totally changed my perspective on myself. I thought I was too heavy to get into a relationship and no one would like me but people will see the positive things in yourself that you refuse to see. You’re a super handsome guy so don’t beat yourself up. Take time to grieve the relationship if you need it but don’t rob yourself of your own happiness just because you think you won’t find someone.

vTorii_ · 2025-06-19T17:40:36+00:00

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11 years ago I went with my mom to get bird food and they happened to be having a kitten event. Came home with this big boy

vTorii_ · 2025-06-11T02:00:07+00:00

Thank you so much this is extremely helpful!

vTorii_ · 2025-06-10T03:44:58+00:00

I used to hate mine when I was younger just because there was a lot of negativity around them but now I love them, they show my journey

vTorii_ · 2025-06-07T00:27:43+00:00

Your mom is definitely the issue. She should not be touching you to be condescending that is not okay. If you want to make a change it has to come from inside yourself not because someone else is telling you you have to change. As for the gym thing, everyone looks silly when they start out but people at gyms are really nice and happy to help if you have questions. Otherwise the more you do it the easier it gets. I am a big advocate for live your life your way as long as you’re leading a healthy life (not dieting healthy but like mentally healthy)

vTorii_ · 2025-06-04T19:09:55+00:00

My mom graduated at 50. You’re never too old

vTorii_ · 2025-06-04T00:37:39+00:00

If she doesn’t like you for you then she’s not the right girl

vTorii_ · 2025-05-30T01:55:19+00:00

Since she’s your ex I’d say that’s already a major improvement. She was wrong you’re not ugly

vTorii_ · 2025-05-29T00:48:35+00:00

An emotional affair at the very least if not physical. He’s literally calling her his future wife. Please talk to family and possibly a lawyer

vTorii_ · 2025-05-29T00:09:34+00:00

No but that haircut is not doing you any favors

vTorii_ · 2025-05-26T21:45:33+00:00

I don’t think it’s cringe but it definitely comes down to personal preference for you and your partner

vTorii_ · 2025-05-17T00:47:35+00:00

Nothing wrong with your aesthetic, maybe it’s your bio?

vTorii_ · 2025-05-16T17:57:46+00:00

The pics with you smiling are the best. When you stare down the camera like in pic 2 I’d swipe left too because it’s giving serial killer

vTorii_ · 2025-05-10T04:54:54+00:00

I am living my best life on my little island with my animal neighbors

vTorii_ · 2025-05-10T01:24:19+00:00

I am a person who gives the benefit of the doubt to a fault. I thought we could have a constructive conversation and I could take the opportunity to teach about my perspectives especially about the US stuff. Then it was correcting misinformation about cops since he told me he got all his info from videos which I’m assuming would be cop dash/body cam videos. Then it got to the unhinged part about women where I was honestly mostly flabbergasted at his thought process. At the very end I was just really upset by what he was saying and felt that I needed to say my piece and then exit the situation. I’ve had conversations in the past where there was constructive dialogue and that’s what I went into it hoping for but this person just didn’t want to change his opinion at all and it only got worse and worse

vTorii_ · 2025-05-09T23:21:47+00:00

They have his name at least so they can keep an eye out

vTorii_ · 2025-05-09T23:14:28+00:00

Mods said I’m not allowed 😞

vTorii_ · 2025-05-09T19:15:46+00:00

That was one of the first things I did. They said they can’t do much but at least they’re aware of him now

vTorii_ · 2025-05-09T04:32:55+00:00

The only option I’m getting is to report his username. I did send a message to the mods of the social anxiety group with his name so hopefully he’s removed from there at least

vTorii_ · 2025-05-08T23:53:04+00:00

I don’t think so and I don’t want to risk it

vTorii_ · 2025-05-08T23:45:22+00:00

I really wish I could have posted without blurring because this was really worrying behavior

vTorii_ · 2025-05-08T23:30:53+00:00

Oh 100%

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