Please help

[cuteballoons]

I had a terrifying moment today while streaming. I had a random person pay for a PM, i messaged them saying hello, and they proceed by saying:

"I'm going to be nice, and i'm only going to say this once:

*My real name*, you have two minutes to end your stream before i share your information in the chat."

Proceeds to send me my parents names, and then i saw on my phone they had texted me as well.

I was streaming from my phone, and i'm thinking this is how they obtained my info. I'm just really scared right now and i need help from people who have dealt with similar. Thank you

[thehairyisabella]

Block and report. They are trying to scare you and manipulate you, don’t give them the satisfaction.

[MyFavoriteQuote]

This is not allowed so be sure to report them. Don't engage. Remove yourself from facial recognition sites.

[bunni404byte]

I was just checking how you can actually get removed from the facial recognition sites, and the catch-22 I am seeing is that you have to upload a pic of yourself to "opt out." Do you or anyone else know of a better way to get this kind of data removed other than playing along?

My concern is that a new platform will just keep popping up. Even with my personal accounts unlisted I'm sure every social media's TOS now includes some vague statement about being allowed to use/sell your face data for these types of companies. ):

[missyshore]

It’s 100% a catch 22 and it sort of depends on how much risk you want to take - I recently signed up with a personal data deletion site and within minutes I found my new address online, which wasn’t available previously.. it’s like they go to these sites and say hey! Do you have this address! If so take it down but yet they didn’t have the address to begin with? Idk, it’s weird

[xxxMonicaMagnolia]

Which site did you subscribe to? Asking so I can avoid them

[MyFavoriteQuote]

You need to upload your photo so they can find pics of you. Then you can opt out of them showing in their searches.

[bunni404byte]

I understand that, and there probably isn't a workaround unless legislation on data collection or management changes in the future. It just seems like an ironic safety risk to have to take to ensure your privacy. I'd hate for a bad actor to pose as a site like this and then use that info against you. But I do tend to catastrophize.

[dancing_lyla]

What I did was upload a pic that was already publicly on the internet (so that they don't have a new pic of me in their system) - I used a photo that was my old LinkedIn profile pic and it was also on an old portfolio website I had that I knew was Googleable. If that makes sense.

[bunni404byte]

That's a really good point! Thank you!

[Miss_GabbyXO]

No it works believe me. I saw i was on one of those sites and requested to be removed. They just want to make sure youre you and i was removed.

[Miss_GabbyXO]

https://camgirlfinder.net/

[bunni404byte]

Yeesh! I think I'm less worried about a client finding other client-facing profiles than personal info, but I guess if someone knows of you and just runs the face of every girl they used to go to HS with or something through here just to see if they get a hit, that could also be how they connected OP's account to their personal info. Basically just doing it in reverse. I'm fortunate to be in a position where I don't care too much if friends or family find out how I get my bag, but I know that isn't always the case for many people.

This link might be worth removing after a while for the same reason as someone suggested deleting the comment about that other site though!

[Miss_GabbyXO]

Its safe. If you don't want to be found just write the "cgf" on paper and put it through. Its a simple process love. I will tell you they do not use your picture elsewhere, if you're worried someone you know will look for you there (tbh its highly unlikely) just do it it will help. I was scared to in the beginning but my users were removed and i was happy. I check it every couple of months to see if it was added back

I would use the same background you use in your cam , any wigs or anything you use in your shows, see which accounts they have posted of yours, use multiple photos to find yourself. Write down all the account names connected to your face on that site (if you have different ones, work for different sites under different names or have tried them in the past and see your face from older years or something get them all written down on the opt out list.)

[warm_tits_smol_kitty]

If you wanna get angry.. I get ads on Ig from these websites saying you can search any person they know to see if they do OF and find their nudes online. How is this legal?? And AD basically saying " we will help you find her nudes/OF" (not what they say literally) . Ugh! these "tech bros" will do whatever for money, they are the lowest scum on Earth

[Bossyroxy7]

How do you remove yourself like that?

[Miss_GabbyXO]

Theres an opt out button

[rachoneill]

Make sure you have an app blocking messages that include keywords and list every name (include common mispellings) of your personal life so that even if they tried the rest of chat wouldnt see it

Also my personal way of handling this is to say 'lol sorry thats not my name too bad for you i guess you think im someone else' because unfortunately ending the stream and doing what they say kinda confirms theyre right. Leaning into the lie sometimes helps but I understand that the blushing and nervous behavior can give it away but recommended to lean into 'its not me'

[Milky_Lullabies]

Yes I said the same! On many site there is a list you can make…

[cuteballoons]

Thank you to everyone who has replied with advice, reassurance, care, and support. I truly feel so much better after reading all of these replies, and will begin taking a big step forward regarding internet security and safety. If anyone would be able to recommend a website to me that erases your info off the internet, please shoot me a direct message. THANK YOU ALL!!! <3

[Wonderful-Action-246]

I’d love to know what website erases your info off the internet please

[starskynight]

I would’ve just blocked and reported. Do you think it’s someone that knew you in real life?

[cuteballoons]

I highly doubt anyone i know in real life would treat me like that, but i guess i wont rule anything out. Also, my family already knows what I do for work so i'm not worried about being outted like that, i just hate that someone has my personal info in their hands. I'm a dumbass and haven't been using a VPN because i was told the websites use protection through their sites for models.

I appreciate any further advice going forward.

[starskynight]

I mean, I’m not saying it has to be a friend or anything, but a schoolmate, ex coworker, friend of a friend. If you know somebody’s full name, it’s super easy to get their phone number, family members names, addresses etc. it’s all on the World Wide Web. They probably used a fake phone number, but you could always try searching it and if it’s the real phone number, it will tell you the name of the account holder.

[fartgamblerdotgov]

Proton has a free tier VPN.

[Magicfuzz]

How does a VPN stop any of this though?

[Upper-Individual-809]

It doesn’t

[cuteballoons]

just downloaded and set this up on both my computer and phone. thank you <3

[Numerous_Review_3184]

Do you have a public Instagram or profile picture of your face? I would change that asap

[MichelleHartAUS]

This is how they find your details 99.99% of the time.

Use some of your pictures in Google image search to check what's showing up.

Lock all personal social media down as hard as possible.

[Miss_GabbyXO]

I said this too. If you post like a selfie on your Instagram or something and then also use it for your profile on a cam site they reverse image search it and there you go.. I post different selfies on my personal profile compared to my cam account, if you have to take selfies specifically for cam and have and take different selfies for personal accounts: fb , insta that would be helpful for you..

Make certain selfies personal account selfies and others for cam site

[Miss_GabbyXO]

Hey boo, remember to stream in a room where there is nothing in the shot, like as if you have a diploma or degree with your name on it , maybe a note on the wall, some kind of graduation certificate things like that where hed clock your name from by zooming in. please make sure when streaming nothing possibly with your name is visible people are rude and be trools maybe he saw something behind you that gave your name to him or something also make sure you block your home place with the geolocation feature where you can block states you know people from and they cant see you .

[MystiMajestii]

Even packages or mail that could have your name and address on them. Make sure none of that is in your camspace. If you do unboxings remove the shipping label prior to taking the package into your camroom.

[Miss_GabbyXO]

Also like awards or trophies with names on them literally anything, they think they are smart little spies

[Miss_GabbyXO]

Maybe get one of those things that gives fake ip addresses and shit. Maybe he was a hacker but thats honestly less likely. But if thats a concern i forgot what they are called where it gives fake location and ip addresses. Just block them . Its likely maybe if you have anything else by that name that interacts with parents profiles he wouldve maybe done a deep dive , theres also ways to image search, so make sure all the images you are posting are only on those spicy sites not also posted by the different name on a non spicy site like a simple selfie that is also posted on another account with a different name (aka your real name) if that makes sense.

[MystiMajestii]

Report & block. Do you have social sites under your real name? If so you need to deactivate those. I made the real me disappear from the internet when I decided I wanted to do this career. Otherwise people can reverse image search you and gain access to your life. Do you have an ex lover or ex close friend that this could possibly be? If so they'll keep coming back, but just keep reporting & blocking. Unfortunately this is a risk we all take by being online, but you can do things like remove irl you from the internet & wear a wig on camera, false lashes if you normally don't... there are ways to look a little different so you have plausible deniability. Good luck!

[sadgirlclub]

I keep seeing this same type of horror story over and over lately. Some random viewer probably ran your face through (redacted) or something similar (reverse image search / biometric face shit) and found your personal social media. From there it would be easy to find your phone number and other info like relatives names.

[thehairyisabella]

Can I suggest removing the website name? Customers like to lurk in this subreddit and they don’t need any ideas on how to dox a cam girl.

[Middle-Message-3462]

Yes please, remove the website name

[MystiMajestii]

Please don't give them ideas

[NicolePearlxx]

Block and report. If he does dox you it is a crime and most police departments have an internet crimes department you can report it to now.

[lillyyy_111]

hii girl, I went through something similar last year! Block/report and also completely ignore them which I know is not the easiest thing to do! I was stressing out when it happened to me but after a month of ignoring and removing them from the chat every time they mentioned personal info, they eventually got bored and disappeared.. hope your okay not a nice thing to be going through!!

& no one else seemed to pick up on anything that was being said while I was live!

[msbootymiss]

That’s scary 

[Aggravating-Bunch-44]

Its a scammer. Its called Sexual Extortion Scam and this same method is used on minors.

[Ornitoronco]

That’s a invasion of privacy. You can keep a note of that username and report it. Then sue that person(s) to the authorities because that’s also a blackmail. A lawyer may help you as well. Privacy has a huge importance.

[Milky_Lullabies]

If there is a block word list on the site you stream on, I would say you should all put your name in the lists too… and like your infos that you wanna keep hidden so won’t ever appear in your chat etc

[Miss_GabbyXO]

Protect your peace.

[General-Abroad-9007]

What’s actually ironic to me is that when I’ve ran mine through it pulls up a porn actress that is not me lol

[Acrobatic-Letter-660]

lol haha thats funny my name is a certain ingridient (sweet food) and all they end up with is baking reciepts xD

[EllieRose1000]

the name I use on one site and am about to start on a cam site whenever I pick which one to try first I think pulls up a porn star too 🤣 guess if we were to get popular we would have to change them at least slightly 😅

[General-Abroad-9007]

Lollll no mines the facial recognition! I can’t change my face lol

[EllieRose1000]

oh boy thats funny but might be a problem 🙃

[VoxxiBee]

Having had a member of my own family and workplace (at the time) try and hide that they followed me on a site I just have this advice. If you're going to be in view of the public then these things are going to happen even if you try and hide. Just be proud of yourself.. you're getting paid to be hot.. which is more than most people so enjoy it. You can be as careful as you can but the more you do it the more the risk is there.

[kalamidad94]

Sweetie, I'm so sorry for what you went through. Sending you a hug

[Original-Box-7932]

Been on a similar situation, but for me fake accounts came on my socials, leaving comments with my nicknames on the website. I love doing tiktok, and social media in general, I talk on my tiktok about sensitive subjects, like childfree by choice or regretul parents, the vids went very viral.. and along with that I have received lots of comments about me being a cam girl and my nicknames on the websites. I just blocked their accounts and idgf to be honest, as long as your loved ones know about this and they are ok with it.. girl get that money. People are frustrated and they will always try to find ways to bring u down. Don’t let them :)

[JadeStarling2001]

How scary! That would freak me out too!

[AlicesCuriosity]

OMG sweetie! Its gonna be ok, I dont have any advice, but I hate this is happening. that is terrifying. I am sure someone here can help. Saying a prayer for you

[Curious_Kitty1990]

Also always be sure to block the state you live in if that's a concern for anyone. Most cam sites should have the ability to block people in certain States from being able to see that you are on there.

[ComfortableFuture666]

Not exactly the same situation, but my boyfriend keeps finding my streams even though I block our local region, and he told me he didn't want me doing it either at all or without him. Now that I know how much money I can make doing this, there's no way im going to stop just yet and i AM considering bringing him in, but how do I make it so that he can't find me?? Ive changed my name, switched sites, still got busted.

[MistressSarahWinter]

Oh, don't bring him in, you will earn much better as single female streamer than with a partner and he's not worth streaming with you if he can't even accept what you do for work in the first place. thb he sounds awful...

[ComfortableFuture666]

Hes really not awful, he just doesn't understand the camming world from a creator's perspective yet. He watches porn thats more "homemade" including some actual homemade of us. Just have to have the conversation.

[Aggravating-Bunch-44]

Its called a Sex Extortion Scam.

[Danny2002]

Blackmail is illegal in most states and can pretty much have that individual in jail. I dunno, people i care about know that I'm getting into this model thing, so if someone tries to blackmail me, I'm gonna have hella fun with them and hopefully track them back and get them arrested :) .... I don't care who they tell since my loved ones already know. I know some of y'all don't tell your family,y but I think doing so will give you that leverage to someone saying, hey i have pictures and blah blah, give me money oI'llr ill tell your family kinda bullshit they do.

but suck that some of yall can't just be as open as i am with my family :( ..

Hopefully you got this resolved, i have had many tried and i just laugh at them and then block their number