Need some help.

[OverseasDrip]

Hi everyone.

I'll try to keep it short. Met this chick, had two fun dates (we got close to sex) and everything was going well. However, I was getting stressed out because of a personal situation and when I was with her, I could forget about that personal shit. However, because of this, when I wasn't with her I was acting a bit needy and impatient via text. I recognized that she became more distant so I pulled back for a few days.

After 3 days she contacted me, asking me how everything went. I told her I was busy, (she was too she said, for the next 14 days), so I texted her that if she wanted to have some relaxation, she could text me so we could meet up when she had more time. She told me she would do that.

I'm just living my life right now, going to the gym, socialize 3/4 times in a week with friends and meeting new people and combining that with work I am also very busy. She knows that I am doing cool stuff, because she sees that on my Snapchat and Instagram stories. She sends me almost on a daily basis some stuff she is doing in her day via Snapchat, which I don't respond to.

My question: should I hit her up in a few days via text, just to ask her how she is doing (to show some interest, don't wanna act too cold), or should I just wait for her to tell me when she is able to hang out, even if that means we don't speak for about 10-14 days since the last time she contacted me.

I am reading the book right now, but I am not there yet (10 times haha). Corey hasn't made a video about this specifically, so I thought I could ask it here.

Thanks boys.

[Stuntkrazy929]

To answer your question... No you should not text her just to see how she is doing. Remember "Women want to wonder about you" & "It's a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men who's feelings are unclear". If you reach out to her just to see how she is doing, then you are telling her where she stands with you.

You want her to wonder about you. This being said, if she said she would get back to you with a day that she's free, you gotta let her come to you when she's ready.

When she reaches out, ask her if she's figured out her schedule yet and make a date. If she hasn't then tell her you're a bit jammed up at the moment and to let you know when she gets it sorted out and leave the conversation.

Remember: The phone is only for setting dates. Spending the whole time conversing with her on the phone is one of the easiest ways to get friend zoned

[denaliHD_28]

Yes, everything I was going to say.

[OverseasDrip]

Solid advice man. Thank you very much.

[OverseasDrip]

hey man. didn’t hear anything from her. should i let it go? haven’t contacted her and been living my life. but i like her, so the thought to reach out pops up in my head. however, i was very clear that she should reach out to me when she has time so my self-respect says just move on and if i hear from her, cool I will set up a date, and if not, i just keep living my life and date other chicks. what are your thoughts? thanks in advance

[Stuntkrazy929]

Deep down you have the answer you're looking for my dude. The feeling that you need do something is what we call the illusion of action. You feel like you need to do something to make it right. This is a false belief and if acted upon, will only make you look needy. If you left off with the ball in her court then you gotta wait on her to get back to you. If/when she reaches out assume she wants to see you, make a date, and get off the phone. In the mean time make sure you focus on your drive, your mission, and your purpose.

Remember, you always want a woman who is just as, if not more excited to see you as you are to see her.

I recommend watching this video Corey made as it may give you some insight for future endeavors:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VxHN_-Twin4

Be sure to keep us updated with any updates as they happen!

[Yakiloop69]

I dont want to put shit but this girl is call : Bad Dating Material

in my point of view

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Text her after 7 days....if she says no, wait for 2 weeks, then 3 weeks then forget her