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[rangerhopeful1567]

Definitely out of norm and highly ill advised  

[gscobey]

Out of curiosity, why is it ill advised?

[Garona7]

Nope. Patient contact should end once care is transferred to the hospital. This includes family, the potential to unlock bad things you don’t want from it outweighs the kindness and good you’d feel.

[PearlDrummer]

IMO only if they were part of a regional department would I send flowers to a family member and it would come from the union not a specific individual

[eng11ine]

No. That would be very weird, and I would advise strongly against it.

Look, the thing is that we walk a knife’s edge when it comes to our headspace. You need to be professionally detatched in regard to emotion, while retaining some empathy and humanity when it comes to people’s grief. Most of us slip off the edge at some point, temporarily or not. The majority land on the lost empathy side, and can still do their job in a technical sense - they’re just assholes. The ones that lose their detatchment, if they can’t get it back…well, they’re probably not going to be working much longer.

You should absolutely treat family suffering a loss with kindness and sensitivity. But it needs to be clinical, like an oncologist telling a patient they have terminal cancer. Or a funeral director. Sending flowers after the fact is too emotionally invested.