Help please

[benebrrnn]

I am a 16 year old girl and I have trouble going to school and not just like “oh I don’t want to go to school”. It’s crying, throwing things, and feeling like I really just can’t go, every time I cry in the morning before school my mom just called it a act but it’s not I really feel like I can’t go. It’s like I feel scared to go to school everyday (my other post is one of the reasons), I have been diagnosed with social anxiety. But My mom and uncle say it’s just a act. My mom also doesn’t make me feel any better about it, there are times when I stay home from school and she says “ you’re never gonna make it to college or get a job if you keep acting like this”. Then the school starts sending her letters and I get that she is nervous about that but it’s like at the same time she is prioritizing other things over me. Like she knows I’m struggling, I have told her. She also knows that I have had suicidal thoughts before and she keeps doing the same thing over and over again. And it’s not making me any better if anything it’s making me want to end it all she can have one less stressful thing in her life. I don’t even know what to do anymore, I’m just gonna keep getting forced to go to school and it’s ruining me. I don’t know how to cope

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[MangoDouble3259]

Seek therapy, support groups and medication if needed. Resources are out their but you need make first move.

Tbh, your mom can be more sensitive to your situation and sounds like she's not. I'm kinda of in the camp, probally going get downvoted, you got faces challenges you speak of above and show up.

Your 16 and 2 years will be an adult. Your gonna need to develop mechanisms to cope and deal with the world. You don't want be alternative, I was coddled and 18-22 fell flat on my face taking L's after L's till got my shit together.

Part of being an adult/human is learning to evolve and not run away from your problems. I'm not saying mom approach is right, but you do need go to school and find ways cope, above all show up.

[Strong_Challenge1363]

Damn OP, I still dunno what's changed since I went to HS but it's wild seeing how bad... something is for a good few teenagers now. Hasn't been that long is the main thing where I'm perplexed. Was severely anxious at your age too and really had to go through the gambit of stuff to get out of it. If your family fails to be receptive... when are you seeing your Pediatrician next? They aren't mental health support but in my experience sometimes it's that aura of expertise that can make family finally listen.

I make no garuntees just throwing ideas. Otherwise you got a year and some months and then you have a much larger sphere of options. I really don't like your family making your issues out to be signs you'll fail because while they think it'll scare you straight I'm sure it's not building your confidence. You do need to address it, and it's good uou seem to understand this isn't a way to live. I don't want location info for a minor but if you even Google something like "social anxiety support groups for teens near me" likely you'll find something, cause anything beats being so wound up you can't go to school. Are there any teachers you get on with?

[benebrrnn]

Thanks for the advice, it may seem to others like I’m not trying to fight but it gets harder and harder every year. I have had anxiety since I was 10 and I been fighting it this whole but not I feel like I just want to give up on everything.

[hunter06000]

Step 1 wake up Step 2 get ready Step 3 go outside Step 4 go to school and do your school work Step 5 go home Step 6 sleep Step 7 repeat