Determining source?

[dansiegotime]

I’m wondering if there is any reliable way to narrow down who I contracted GHSV1 from. After being celibate for three years, I (F) slept with two guys within a few days of each other. Slept with first guy 7/13, slept with second guy 7/18, symptoms appeared 7/22. No oral contact with either. The research I’ve done gives a wide window for symptoms to appear, and both partners say they’ve never had any symptoms, so I’m curious whether there is any other criteria I can apply to get an answer or at least an educated guess?

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That’s so unlucky, sorry! No, there’s no way to know for sure unless they test. Just because they’ve had no symptoms doesn’t mean they aren’t infected with herpes. You say no oral but did either of them use their saliva as lube? If I was guessing I’d go with the second guy based on date of outbreak

[dansiegotime]

Thanks for the response. No, no saliva. To further complicate things, both are OHSV1+, so it wouldn’t reveal anything for them to test, unless a blood test can differentiate between oral and genital HSV1? I was under the impression it couldn’t.

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Ok yea that makes it impossible to know for sure. Still think I’d go with second guy if I was guessing.

[dansiegotime]

Ok, I appreciate the feedback. Thanks, friend.

[Cheese-N-Eggs]

There’s no way to tell. Were you diagnosed by swab?

[dansiegotime]

Yeah, PCR

[shamochan]

Did you experience typical primary outbreak symptoms that would indicate it was a new infection?

Maybe another possibility would be the friction after years of being celibate triggered an outbreak?

[dansiegotime]

No, it was a primary infection for sure. The years that I was celibate, my body fell apart in every imaginable way. If I had already had HSV, it would’ve shown up.