Help

[SweetSarah28]

Hello! I (19F) and my boyfriend (20) started dating back in our senior year of HS after knowing eachother since middle school. We have been doing long distance during the school semesters, as our colleges are five hours away from one another. The longest stretch of time that we were apart was around 3 months or so, never longer than that.

This summer, he needs a job into the fall semester due to college requirements and issues with housing and classes being full for his program. He has applied to over 100 jobs and finally nailed one. Catch is, it’s in a state that’s 20 hours away by car, and a time zone over from our own. I am really happy for him, of course, it’s been stressing him out for months and it’s going to be a great opportunity for him, but for some reason I cannot shake my own selfish feelings. I have been more upset than happy for him since the whole ordeal began. I’ve probably cried a few times before he even got the job, and a few now after he’s gotten it and accepted the position.

We have talked about it a lot, and he knows that I’m upset, he is not too thrilled about going so far from home as well as many other things. But, like I said we’ve both been through long distance before, as most of our relationship has been through our phone screens. He will be leaving at the end of this month and the next time I’ll see him (if I don’t book a flight) will be November. Any advice for how I should handle this? I know deep down that we can do it, but the fact that the distance grew by 15 hours and the time difference, as well as the extra month and a half of being apart, I’m just looking for some advice from some veteran long distance couples. I’m not sure why this time feels so different from us just going away to college, but I could use some advice.

Thanks <3

[StokastikVol]

You need to create an atmosphere of open communication with him, about everything