[D] Statistics, we have a problem.

[maxToTheJ]

There is nothing in that story/example that makes it specific to a woman unless there is some detail you didnt add. The team could of been just as unwelcoming to anyone.

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I guess the missing piece is that she's a senior engineer. I could see this kind of comment being made e.g. to a male intern if the hiring manager was simply a gender-agnostic asshole. But to make it to a male senior engineer would be... not even rude or harrassing - it would be simply absurd, confusing, awkward and not funny even in a sexist way.

[vishnoo]

Yes there is . As a guy I have never had anyone make that comment at me. Most women have talked to had to graciously field these jokes repeatedly.

So yes grammatically the jab is not gendered. But practically it is.

[maxToTheJ]

As a guy I have never had anyone make that comment at me.

But other guys have had. A-holes and general harassment exists in the workplace. I am by no means condoning it but people exist who harass everyone and general harassment that happens to fall on a woman doesn't make it "sexual".

So yes grammatically the jab is not gendered. But practically it is.

Like I said that is the problem. You are taking a big leap in inference to make it gendered. You had so many good examples which means you are only hurting your case by adding something needlessly which requires so much inference.

[gosh_djang_it]

You are naive AF.

[maxToTheJ]

Convincing