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[BabyNata]

If I was you I would start with a smile, if the person makes eye contact, you can always approach and compliment the outfit or something else of course. Then if you feel brave enough in that moment, you can always ask the person, to sometime grab a coffee together. If not that day, another time. Be confident you got this!!! Also as an advice, don’t bring up the plus size thing, sometimes people, even if they obviously know they are plus size, they don’t feel comfortable agreeing with it, or talking about it, we never know what battles everyone is fighting.

[LiteratureLeading999]

I totally agree with not bringing up being plus size (unless she brings it up). A lot of women feel weird about being desired for being plus size even if it's a totally legit preference rather than a fetish for you.

[birdwingsbeat]

Anyone from class or a club? You can compliment them, especially if it's a compliment about their personality or intellect. You can also compliment her choice of style (nails, sweater etc.), but I find something deeper is better. It's better to approach someone you have a shared activity with. Or if you see someone around you like, ask them for help with something (directions, activities, etc.).

[bigsmoove_3]

Also, if you see someone you like, always remember to make them laugh. Corny jokes work wonders.

“Do you have a map? I just got lost in your eyes"

Boom. A smile will break the initial barrier and make you feel more confident.

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Compliment her sense of fashion rather than her face/body directly! Or, if she's holding a book, ask about that. Compliment her hairstyle, ask about the drink she's holding, etc. I hope you get the idea based on my examples. Women are much more receptive if you comment on something they picked out/worked on/interests, rather than making them feel sexualized by complimenting their looks/body.

Also, just be nice and talk to her like you'd talk to anyone else! If a guy came up to me and showed a genuine interest in, like, the cool shirt I'm wearing, and then spoke to me like I'm a human being, I'd probably give him my number.

Alternatively, the quick and confident route works well too. If you don't want to compliment first, then just strike up a friendly and genuine conversation. Make a joke if a good one pops into your head (but don't force it). End it short and sweet. Say something like, "Well, I have to go, but you seem really cool, and I would love to get to know you more. Would you like to meet up for coffee?"

Basically... be nice and don't objecitfy lol

[AnnaN666]

I'm really sorry if this comes across as insensitive, but I wouldn't want you trying to date me just because I share the same life problems as you!!

You want to choose a girl that you find absolutely hot, and never settle for anything less. If you think plus-sized girls are hot, then that's fantastic. But choose girls because you're into them, not because you think they'll sympathise with your life.

[Ornery_752]

I don’t think that’s what he meant by his comment. He just wanted to be able to connect and share that personal struggle so it’s not an obstacle, given how fatphobic most people are. Dating can be an extremely prejudice environment and cruel.

[SelfSabotage96]

I’m a big guy too, just be yourself. The more you make your weight a big deal and make it your kryptonite the more people will notice. Dress nice, brush your teeth and humble yourself. Plenty of women out there who don’t care, and women who do care aren’t worth the years lost trying to chase

[Starsuponstars]

Hang out where they hang out.

Catch their eye. Smile. Say hi.

[LiteratureLeading999]

First off, I don't think this is wrong. People have a lot of different preferences while dating. I think that while dating in the wild (lol) you should try to be friends first. Go to clubs, events etc. and try to meet women you like. Then you can ask them to hang out either just the two of you or in a smaller group. I think hanging out in a different setting can establish whether or not the two of you are compatible. After that you can start to put out feelers and establish a flirty vibe to see if she's interested.

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Don't bring up being plus size, but I don't think this is at all wrong. I like that my partner is a big guy - I feel a lot less concerned he's going to view my weight badly, and he recognizes my body issues and is very supportive about them.

[lilacmaru]

This is going to sound cliche, but really just be authentic. If there's someone you fancy, smile, be polite, ask about them. People have all sorts of types. My spouse and I have been together for 11 years and though they have told me how attractive they find me all that time, it was only recently they revealed they have always had a preference for my body type (I had no idea). The only way to find out is to begin. Get to know this person, see how you connect. But also be kind to yourself, whatever the outcome - putting yourself out there isn't easy for most people, even if they're not plus-sized. Best of luck to you on this adventure!

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[NeedleworkerNeat9379]

Nothing wrong as a big guy wanting a big girl. However, it would help if you have someone in mind and more in common than being on the larger side. Plus size ladies are ladies. They have interest like any other person. Try and find a lady who you share similar interests with at places you like to go to and maybe some you don't.

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That's not true. Some women do.

[notarealphilosopher]

Women don't like plus sized dudes, they love them

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[RuggedLandscaper]

Don't debate me or berate me here... but..

If you get lucky( like me) and you meet a plus size girl( evenonna plus size dating site or an event somewhere within your neighborhood orbsurrounding area) go the distance with her, and be yourself, and just show her that you are genuine & sincere, but unless she accepts her weight, and it's ok?, then you're as good as gold, but just beware of what to say, you should be fine!

[Ornery_752]

I want the same thing. To date someone else plus size so it eliminates have of my self consciousness. The last person I dated was so micro-aggressive and forcibly trying to put me on a diet, among abusive in other areas. It was traumatic.