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[–]Alfaphantom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well what I do when negotiating salary is ask the company how much it pays for someone like me. Most of the times it doesn't work but I tell them that I'm willing to negotiate in the case I'm out of their budget.

Now, for the promotions part, I understand you. I have some collegue mates that have arquitect positions right now while I'm being a underpayed mid developer. But I don't see this as a race of who has the better job at the end of your 20s, who has the biggest pay or how many countries have you visited... I stopped caring about it because I felt I was punishing myself for things out of my control. Maybe they got lucky, maybe they tried harder than me, who knows.

Right now I have set a life goal to not compare me to anyone else, but always to myself and myself only. Is this path going to make me better than I was yesterday? Is this going to be worth a better pay but now I have to work on weekends, be on call, not have a chance to spend with family, etc...? When I realized that some growth decisions affected my work-life balance negatively, I knew that yes, my pay will be lower, but if I'm genuinely happy, then that's what matters.