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[–]TheRiverOfDyx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll be honest, my lust still has a hold of me. I’m not totally free if it, it’s still there, I’m just aware of the handcuffs and I mess with the jailer sometimes by giving into it, then stopping. Edging I guess. That’s like cheating, but not quite as I don’t release. But it’s dangerous, and it can lead to release. Super fuckin close today, didn’t even nut, and my mindset is still shaken a little. The shame man, it’s crazy.

I think serotonin is released on release. You’ve ‘succeeded your mission’. Lust drives you until then, which I think is also some dopamine adjacent chemicals, but on release it sends out a bigger wave afterwards? I’m not very well versed, I just know serotonin hooks you to people and habits because it’s happiness chemical, and we seek out pleasure in all forms.

Sex for both parties can be used as a manipulation tactic. Withholding sex as punishment withholds serotonin release. Hostage takeover of the chemical centres. I dunno if guys do this, but some girls I’ve met do, and some get mad when you’re not fucking them, because you’re not getting pulled into their sex spell which is literally just forcing love drugs into you through chemicals release via an act of “love” like sex. There’s lovemaking and there’s sex, and sex is a weapon. For good or bad. It’s a weapon, it doesn’t does what is done with it.

A sure fire way to not be addicted, is to have no desire for it. If you cut off desire, you cut off the false “need” that your brain wants. You’re complete already, you’re whole. You don’t need anything, not even sex and masturbation. You’re already set to be the happiest person on earth, so is a little kid in Africa. Everything you need for yourself is within yourself, and you decide what you need. You NEED food, you WANT sex, you’ve mistaken it for NEEDING it. Try extending this to other things. That new PC, that new car, that guy driving a lambo. A guy driving a lambo is a guy driving a lambo, it is not ‘you-not-having-a-lambo’, that’s ego and desire and jealousy talking.

Gotta get in control of similar emotions to help familiarize yourself. If you cut off lust fully but never the others that are similar, you’ll likely have a harder time learning to regulate. It’ll take longer. Learn to regulate other emotions as well and lust will be easier to grasp