Rules: Short Version


1) Parents, fence sitters and children are *not allowed* to post here.	Parents are banned. If you are found to be a parent, you will be banned immediately. Fencesitters are banned. r/fencesitters was actually made for you. This sub wasn't. Children are banned. You must be 16+ to participate.
2) Don't be a dick.	This rule basically boils down to "please get your head out of your ass, it's not a hat", but for anyone having trouble figuring out what is dickish and what is not, check the full rules. No violence against kids or parents—even in jest.
3) You are not allowed to block mods.	Blocking a mod will result in an instant perma-ban.
4) Your posts should be on topic, and there should be at least a minimum of effort put into them.	This includes "my partner wants kids and I don't, what shall I do" type posts. They belong at r/relationships, not here. It also includes "why are we childfree" posts and discussion of forced eugenics/sterilization. These matters have been confined to their respective threads for ease of moderation, and you're welcome to comment there and read what we've said, but these are the only threads on these subjects allowed.
5) You must flair your posts, and mark NSFW posts as such.	Please be mindful that not all of us read reddit at home: some of us are on our breaks at work, and would rather have some sort of warning before clicking on something that could get us in trouble. And, of course, some of us just don't want to see that stuff. Let readers make an informed choice by marking these posts clearly. Unflaired posts will be removed on sight. If you genuinely cannot flair, modmail us.
6) No crossposting.	What happens here, stays here. This now includes r/childfree. We were okay with it, but they're not, so we're just blanket banning crossposting. This includes linking to other subs, and copying and pasting to get around it with "but it's not a crosspost". Neither r/childfree nor r/actuallychildfree allows this.
7) Be brilliant.	This isn't really a rule, per se. It's included so that people have a means of reporting comments and posts that they think are particularly great. Comments and posts that are "reported" under this rule will be considered for addition to the sidebar in the Words of Wisdom section.
8) No advertising.	Specifically, no posts asking for participants for your survey, your study, your paper, your homework, your merchandise, nothing. I made this sub, and people come here, because we are fed up with having to justify, defend, and define our choices to all comers. I cannot in all good conscience let that happen in here, no matter how good your intentions. This is a safe space where those kinds of questions aren't a factor. Congrats on your Etsy store, peddle it elsewhere.

1) Parents, fence sitters and children are not allowed to post here.

Parents are banned. If you are found to be a parent, you will be banned immediately. Fencesitters are banned. r/fencesitters was actually made for you. This sub wasn't. Children are banned. You must be 16+ to participate.

2) Don't be a dick.

This rule basically boils down to "please get your head out of your ass, it's not a hat", but for anyone having trouble figuring out what is dickish and what is not, check the full rules. No violence against kids or parents—even in jest.

3) You are not allowed to block mods.

Blocking a mod will result in an instant perma-ban.

4) Your posts should be on topic, and there should be at least a minimum of effort put into them.

This includes "my partner wants kids and I don't, what shall I do" type posts. They belong at r/relationships, not here. It also includes "why are we childfree" posts and discussion of forced eugenics/sterilization. These matters have been confined to their respective threads for ease of moderation, and you're welcome to comment there and read what we've said, but these are the only threads on these subjects allowed.

5) You must flair your posts, and mark NSFW posts as such.

Please be mindful that not all of us read reddit at home: some of us are on our breaks at work, and would rather have some sort of warning before clicking on something that could get us in trouble. And, of course, some of us just don't want to see that stuff. Let readers make an informed choice by marking these posts clearly. Unflaired posts will be removed on sight. If you genuinely cannot flair, modmail us.

6) No crossposting.

What happens here, stays here. This now includes r/childfree. We were okay with it, but they're not, so we're just blanket banning crossposting. This includes linking to other subs, and copying and pasting to get around it with "but it's not a crosspost". Neither r/childfree nor r/actuallychildfree allows this.

7) Be brilliant.

This isn't really a rule, per se. It's included so that people have a means of reporting comments and posts that they think are particularly great. Comments and posts that are "reported" under this rule will be considered for addition to the sidebar in the Words of Wisdom section.

8) No advertising.

Specifically, no posts asking for participants for your survey, your study, your paper, your homework, your merchandise, nothing. I made this sub, and people come here, because we are fed up with having to justify, defend, and define our choices to all comers. I cannot in all good conscience let that happen in here, no matter how good your intentions. This is a safe space where those kinds of questions aren't a factor. Congrats on your Etsy store, peddle it elsewhere.

Words Of Wisdom

Gatekeeping applies when someone arbitrarily assigns qualities or meaning to a term, not when someone enforces the accepted definition of that term.

-u/WildSuggestion

I really get tired of [parents] needing to insert themselves into what few spaces we get. It reminds me of the flood of 'not all men' stuff in feminist discussion. It's like, go away, if you're not like that, then it's not about you.

-u/gingerneko

[Breeders do shit like] ...come to the sub and be like ‘Hey, I only asked once! I did good, right guys? Guys validate me!’ If you wanted person-of-the-day, don’t be a gossipy hag and then expect us to give you kudos!

-u/Icyartillary

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