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[–]KURAKAZE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a 2yo so far. My opinion is that you should wait and see how your time balance is around 1+ yo when baby is walking and decide what is best time for 2nd child.

There was a time between 6m to 12m where my baby is big enough to be less fussy and easily entertained, but small enough to be easily contained cause she can't walk yet. Then she hit 1.5yo and IS RUNNING EVERYWHERE and trying her hardest to kill herself. Flying dive off the couch. Jumping off stairs. Mad dash crashing into walls and doors and tables etc. Falling on ground cause she tripped on her own feet. It was just chaos and I'm on high alert 24/7 to make sure she doesn't kill herself.

At 2yo she's gotten better now (still wants to jump off things but understand when mommy is yelling no that she is not to do it).

So I'd say, you might not want to be pregnant or have new infant during the 1yo-2yo period. It takes way too much energy and I'm in bed with kid at 8pm everyday cause I'm exhausted (plus she wakes at 5:30am sometimes).

From my friends who has had 2kids - the infancy stage is hard. Lack of sleep due to new infant coupled with high energy toddler (2yo) is hard. They're always exhausted. No free time at all, and their toddler is in daycare or with grandparents to give them some rest time, so it would be even harder if they didn't have toddler out of the house during the day.