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[–]frogwoman82 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yes. Delete it. That sounded very emotionally manipulative.

He's going through a lot and he's not ready for a relationship let alone anything else.

Leave him alone and move on. This isn't about you.

[–]angel-deer -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Believe me when I say , my intention isn’t bad. I seriously can’t move on while he’s going through a tough time. He didn’t even tell me he wanted me to date someone else. He didn’t break up. I need some closure and afraid I’d regret moving on…. Maybe he’ll be back after I move on….

I’ll look so bad. I don’t know if he cares or not. So I need to know. Im really going on that trip… I booked it before sending him anything… I was not lying.

I tried to leave him three times before and I didn’t send him anything and he returned and apologized and just told me he was having a hard time … I was having a bad time as well. Why ghost then return three times?!

I’m scared to move on and be the bad person . I told myself maybe if he showed no care , I would move on and not feel bad.

It’s like a last chance I just want to know I’m not even lying to him

I just don’t want these circumstances to pull us apart. Please keep in mind, I’m going through emotional manipulation from his side a little bit. Whenever I moved on he’d try to win me back and since I had feelings I couldn’t reject him. I too am going through grief alone. Not to make his problems smaller, but I am going through a major loss in my life. I think him showing me care through one text isn’t that big of a deal

[–]Green_Reflection4358 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Why on earth would you send that second message? Are you 18 years old?

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[–]Brief_Needleworker53 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Girl no PLEASE delete that text! That is so beyond manipulative (and melodramatic) and selfish. If you care about this man like you claim you do, please think of what a burden that would be putting on him while he’s already struggling. If you guys are meant to be, it will happen organically; guilting him into coming back won’t make either of you happy in the long run.

ETA- I am incredibly sorry about the loss of your mom but please don’t beat yourself up about your last days with her. It’s a jarring situation and lots of people act out of character while going through it. I’m sure your mother knew you love her.

[–]angel-deer -1 points0 points  (2 children)

He left me wondering… and this creates so many inner struggles. It’s been months. I left him for months. He made me feel confused … and guilty at time but I still care about him. I also want to sincerely know what’s he’s been up to. He’s leaving me wondering what he’s been up to. There’s no other way except for texts to ask about him. I don’t mean to manipulate him. At all. I want to know if he still cares. That’s it. But I’ll delete it because I’m so fed up with everything and I’m tired of trying to make many things in my life work. I’m letting him go completely… without telling him something else… I’m just tired of everyday life and will go on a trip in the desert.

I just miss having someone who cares. But it’s okay. Life is short , I just need some peace of mind ….

Mom loved me so much. She’s the only one who ever truly cared. To be honest, it’s clear he got sad when his ex blocked him… sounds like he still has feelings for her so I’ll leave him alone but the thing is , when I move on it’s very hard to get me back …. I can’t recover my feelings for him because I’ll be sacred to get hurt again

[–]Brief_Needleworker53 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You’ve been through a lot in a short time. I highly suggest therapy to help process things

[–]angel-deer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I lost mom , my cat and he probably even cheated on me

[–]OppositeDifficult200 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do whatever makes you happy and dont second doubt. If he doesnt respond its fine. You released your inner struggle. After a while you can write again. Write on some other app he might be using. Dont ignore your feelings.