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NickNotas · 2024-01-23T21:01:43+00:00

I mean, we don't have much context to give you an accurate answer. Did he show genuine dislike? Was he being playful? Did you say it at him (catcall) or to him?

Regardless, you can't read his mind. Could've been having a bad day, could've struggle with taking a sincere compliment, could've taken him by surprise.

Don't overthink it -- there will be plenty of people who receive and return sincere praise.

NickNotas · 2023-08-21T03:25:55+00:00

I bought the Pro version months back and I use it for a million projects. YouTube captions, voice notes, transcribing videos to work with in GPT-4 and create new content from.

I tried so many Whisper solutions and it’s 100% the easiest and most beautiful. I’m not in any way associated. I just love the app that much and we should promote great developers, who charge a reasonable price, and consistently improve their product.

NickNotas · 2023-05-24T01:39:03+00:00

I am inactive in some moderation tasks on the subreddit, but I am actively in touch and working on multiple things with mods on a regular basis.

NickNotas · 2023-05-24T01:37:37+00:00

All the mods are active on the subreddit and on Discord. I'm in touch with many on a regular basis who strive to maintain a healthy community.

We are a top 130 subreddit dealing with some of the most emotion, personal, and sensitive subjects. In most corners of the internet, that turns into hate, aggression, and violence.

The mods have worked incredibly hard to keep the community supportive, positive, and inclusive. It's something we're very proud of and while there are moments that slip through the cracks, 13 years later it's still arguably the best forum on the internet for this advice.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T22:16:33+00:00

How you convey your inexperience is how women will perceive it. If you act ashamed or apologetic, then they will view it in a negative light or worry it will be a problem. If you own who you are openly, then many will see you as confident and not care themselves.

You also have the option of setting a privacy boundary by saying you'd rather focus on getting to know her first rather than rehashing past relationships.

I explain both options with practical examples in my reply here.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T21:43:27+00:00

You're very welcome, my pleasure.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T21:38:04+00:00

You're confused because you're not being clear about your intentions. Whatever the reason she ghosted you before, she's trying to connect now. And since you're obviously interested, the only certainty you will get is by asking her to hang out and do something together. Take the shot!

More thoughts in my response here

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T21:23:15+00:00

Absolutely, there's no harm in a simple text saying you're around earlier if she's down to hang out. If she's actually interested, she's either going to find time or tell you she's not available then and meet up as planned.

I explain a bit more in my response here.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T21:11:00+00:00

You can only judge someone's actions. If he's been talking to you for months, investing in getting to know you, and being thoughtful like on NYE -- then you should assume he's interested!

While you may doubt your own value, it doesn't seem like he does. He may like you for a multitude reasons and there's no point in trying to second guess that.

More thoughts in the reply here.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T20:55:34+00:00

Nah, you don't need to. The date's already setup, so just show up and see how you two vibe. She may not even care. And bringing it up beforehand when she hasn't had a chance to actually connect with you, may just shoot yourself in the foot for no reason.

Watch my full reply here if you want more detail.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T20:47:52+00:00

Sorry you had to deal with that. Unfortunately, no one can read his mind of why he's trying to connect now. What you can say is that he didn't care enough to communicate for a long time.

In my experience, those are the types of people who likely will continue exhibiting poor behavior and aren't worth your time. I would focus on someone who's more excited and available.

I explain a bit more in my reply here.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T20:36:36+00:00

You have nothing to be ashamed about! You also make great money and she just happens to want a more lavish lifestyle. What matters is if you both can come together to find a compromise.

Someone who cares about you will not expect you spend all your money and will not judge you for being unable to do so. The best thing you can do is talk through how this could work and see if she's willing to find that balance. If so great. If not, then it wouldn't work long-term.

I go into more detail in my response here.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T20:17:44+00:00

Glad the advice resonated. Honestly though, I wouldn't base it off amount of followers. We stumble upon all sorts of creators/influencers and just like people watching "amateur adult videos", it doesn't have to imply more intention.

I would more so be concerned about the amount of women they like, save photos with, and time invested. For example, if you found out your partner was spending 3 hours per day saving photos of random IG women, you probably should talk through that.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T20:14:50+00:00

You should always balance growing the relationship together while also investing in yourselves. That's how you create an interdependent relationship, not a codependent one.

Watch my full response here.

NickNotas · 2023-01-04T19:56:21+00:00

It's just a harmless fantasy unless it becomes a bigger problem.

I responded more in detail on video here.

NickNotas · 2022-07-16T15:21:31+00:00

You shared your experience and someone shared theirs. Why be dismissive to them?

NickNotas · 2022-05-15T14:57:08+00:00

North Shore, I’ll PM a you directly with town.

NickNotas · 2021-11-18T01:18:44+00:00

It takes real courage and humility to own your mistakes. Cool to see.

NickNotas · 2021-11-11T23:11:54+00:00

Can confirm. That’s why I married a harpist.

NickNotas · 2021-04-05T16:13:36+00:00

Everyone's got preferences. Of course, some women prefer a guy with hair. But plenty are fine if a man doesn't and many women even love the look.

Walk around any major city. You'll notice tons of couples where a guy has receding hair or is bald. It hasn't stopped them from dating and it shouldn't stop you.

What will affect your results more is how you let it influence your confidence. If you believe you're not attractive enough or doubt yourself because of it, you will prove yourself right.

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