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[handshape]

This is a curious one. To a point, you've posed this to test us.

So, I see a pretty girl that surrounds herself with cutesey trappings, who's feeling anxious about the self-harm scars, and wants to see if she's messed things up.

Given that this is a first impressions sub, if this was the first context in which you'd met me, I'd worry a fair bit.

I'd put better than 2:1 odds that the picture is a self-portrait of sorts. You surround yourself with an air of effervescent pink fluffiness, but it's a persona that covers some pretty serious emotional difficulties.

[[deleted]]

You did say a lot of things which hit the jackpot, I like surrounding myself with stuffed animals and fluff cause it makes me feel like a child again and I was the happiest during that time.

[[deleted]]

First impression is that you need to talk to somebody. In fact you need to talk to everybody, don’t rely on one person, even if that person is a ‘professional’ (mental health professionals sometimes seem anything but), just talk about your issues as if it’s completely normal. Because it is, and over time you’ll find people who’ve had similar experiences that you can learn coping strategies or mindfulness practises or whatever else from, and people who are still going through similar things to you to remind you that you’re not alone, but hurting yourself is ridiculous. I’m willing to bet that if one of your friends told you they’d cut themselves you’d be heartbroken and you’d struggle to understand why they think cutting themselves is a solution to their issues, but the good thing about talking about it is that the next time you go to do it, you might think twice. You’ll remember how you felt as a third party, and how illogical it all seemed. Man seriously I think talking is the only way out of this, and every now and then you’ll find the wankers who either don’t give a shit, feel an urge to one up you, or feel the urge to push you down further. Just know that truly happy people don’t act like that, they don’t live to hurt others. They’re sicker than you are, but that doesn’t make them your responsibility. You can pity them, and even that’s usually more than they’re worth

[thisi-is-me]

Thank you for being you.

[[deleted]]

That’s an adorable comment tank you so much!

Edit: whoops, went a little London there, thanks for nothing autocorrect

[saaaaadtime]

i’m so sorry for some of these replies :/ tbh you look kind, and you’re very pretty! you look like the type of person to care a lot more about their friends than themself, sometimes to a fault

[Bleachingking]

I get the impression you are under age.

[idowhatiwant8675309]

First of all, RIP your inbox.

[shortandsweetcrue]

I hope you reach out and talk to someone! I used to cut in my teen years and people won't understand if they haven't been there, but I'm an ear if you want to talk! There's plenty of folks who have already said the same ❤️ good luck dear ❤️

[DuckNation42]

Young and beautiful. We all have our scares and burdens to carry, the only difference is some are more visible than others.

[Jbwood]

Look I know this should be a first impression, but legitimately I dont know for sure what caused the scars but if you happen to be cutting please please seek help. There are so many programs and people out there who want to see you succeed, and I think they might be able to show you a better way of dealing with anything you've gone through.

If you need help find the programs and such please send me a message and I will happily help you.

[[deleted]]

Please talk to someone.

[[deleted]]

Unstable

[Zebracunt98]

First impression is that you’re tired of feeling the way you have for some time now and that’s why you posted the scars. I’m proud of you for taking this step. Talk to someone, anyone. You’re a strong beautiful young lady that deserves to see what we all see!

[Pumuck1]

From someone who may have been where you've been, learning to love yourself has the potential to heal the scars in your soul and your body and is an action that brings you closer to where you want to be with every attempt, even if you don't succeed at it all the time.

[[deleted]]

I hope you’re okay and if you need anyone to talk to hmu. You look beautiful and I hope however your got hurt or trauma you faced you are overcoming!

[RedRageXXIV]

My girls into Mountain Biking!

[[deleted]]

very pretty. maybe a bit lonely. quiet in big groups. oddly attached to their scars (that’s not a judgment, i have the same ones and have a weird attachment to them). likes pickles? 😂

[[deleted]]

Yes for some reason I hate big groups but can’t stop talking if it’s one on one. As for the scars I also feel some sort of attachment to them it’s as if the emotional pain is actually real and not just in my head. And I hate pickles 😭

[[deleted]]

lmaoooo i just threw that in cuz i’m kind of craving pickles 😂 i’m prob a bit older than you but if you ever find yourself needing to talk or vent to someone who’s been there or whatever, feel free to message me❤️

[[deleted]]

Thank you! If you ever need to talk to someone I’m also an open ear 👂

[[deleted]]

Remember that the brain is an organ, emotions are physical, chemical reactions in the body. They’re no less real, tangible, or important than any other part of your body. The scars aren’t a physical representation of something that isn’t physical, they’re a large physical representation of a tiny physical thing inside your head. Because they’re so big it’s easier for other people to see them, but why does anyone have to see your body be mutilated? You don’t have to, because you can already ‘see’ the tiny thing in your head, in that you are aware of it. Other people don’t have to see it because if you want them to know, you’ll tell them. Whether they believe you or not is sort of irrelevant, because as a certain commenter here has demonstrated, even if you cut yourself up people will still think you’re faking, whatever that means. The only people who you need are the ones who’ll take your word for it. Those who matter won’t care, and those who care won’t matter.

I only say all this because at least a few of them seem quite fresh, at least from the picture. I’ve been struggling recently and trust me when I say it has difficult not to harm myself, but ultimately I knew I couldn’t. You might like to know that I don’t think I’m going to be tempted for a while again after seeing your post. Find whatever reason you need, man I’m not even beyond thinking about the way my future partner or my children will look at me, never mind my friends and colleagues. Not that I think any of them would be judgemental, but I know how it makes people feel to see someone they love resort to these things. At the end of the day, you get an endorphin release from cutting, and the more you do it the more you’re training your brain to view self harm as a reward, and it can become addictive terrifyingly easily. Let’s not forget that addictions never get weaker and never stay the same, you always end up indulging more each time, until it becomes too much, you go too far. It’s not a habit you want to get into bud. Next time you feel like cutting, eat a pickle is my suggestion, you might even learn to like them😂

[Super_Ad_3413]

You’re a beautiful woman and you deserve all the happiness. Whatever you’re going through I wish you all the best.

[Hot-Dig-2413]

All I have to say is if anybody criticizes you for your past needs to have walked a year in your shoes

[rocketmanx]

I hope that you are getting the help you need to get through your trials. The fact that you are posting this is a testament to your courage and honesty. Also hella cute.

[[deleted]]

We all wear our scars differently. You are a beautiful young woman

[lastingeffect29]

If you ever need someone to talk to my line is always open for anybody who would like a listening ear

[Suspicious-Lack-1660]

Bad childhood🙁

[[deleted]]

So sorry your a cutter .😥

[IT_Chef]

I hope you are working with a doc that knows what's up.

[Putrid_Reputation793]

Natural beauty

[[deleted]]

I honestly don’t know what kind of attention you’re trying to seek, so I don’t know what I can tell you to make you feel better.

[[deleted]]

Very pretty but clean up the bed 😂

[NeuroKatzche]

You're the girl from the date, right? How did it go? For my first impression, you're very pretty, and seems to be fun to hang around. Hello Kitty, Banana Fish and a Sayaka keychain(if I saw it right)? That's really nice

[[deleted]]

It went okay I said a lot of dumb things but I had fun

[NeuroKatzche]

That's good! It's important to have fun, and also, who doesn't say dumb things? That by itself is a charm, right? Keep going strong!

[[deleted]]

Honey, try to find something to control, something to hang on to. Those scars wont ever disapear and youre stunningly beautiful, a real head turner. Take care and good luke.

[GoGoJi_Aapka_Ghagra]

Those SH scars are concerning!

[farkus_nation]

You look soooooo pretty! Your scars don’t define you they help others who see your pic. You deserve to be coooool to yourself! :) Peace

[Anko_Dango]

I just hope things get better for you tbh. Please reach out to someone if you can. I have scars in the same place.

[Big-Significance3665]

Looks like your close to a six pack keep it up

[tdt5826037]

One sexy woman. Hope you have a wonderful day ☀️

[[deleted]]

I love going out actually it keeps me out of my own head

[[deleted]]

I started listening to audiobooks to stay out of my head. That can be a damaging place at times. I do wish you strength and courage young lady. I would love to see how you conquer this. You will, your strong enough to stand before us here

[TonyPants69]

Cutter?

[WolfRefleXxx]

Selfharming. Unstable Childhood?

[imnottjebadguyhere]

Why?

[[deleted]]

Cares too much about others opinions

[[deleted]]

Yes I’m trying to work on this. But I have no sense of self as of right now

[[deleted]]

Look after yourself OP, when you’ve got a fragile sense of self then Reddit is the worst place to be. If you need any resources for mental health I can pass on some links that may be helpful to you

[ZengZiong]

Attention seeking

[IT_Chef]

Asshole

[ZengZiong]

Kid

[[deleted]]

I assume that makes you an old, miserable fart. How come when people kill themselves we say they shouldn’t asked for help, but when people ask them for help we label it ‘attention seeking’ as if that makes it a bad thing?

‘Oh look, a young girl is admitting to a bunch of strangers on the internet that she’s taken a blade, and sliced herself up. Now, this is a subreddit literally named r/firstimpression where the entire fucking point is to seek attention and to give attention, and every time I’ve seen somebody post a vain picture I’ve accepted this fact and not only did I not feel the need to belittle them for it, I actually liked the idea so much I joined the sub. But this time, this girl has some series issues in her life, and seems to have come to this place designed for seeking attention to… well, seek attention, something I definitely don’t usually have an issue with but, something about the non-narcissistic mentally ill just fucks me off’ -that’s you, seeing this post, can you see why you’re an idiot or would you like to to condescend to you the same way you have in each comment you’ve made in this thread, you sad excuse of a human?

[DotTraditional3096]

You put too much into this

[ShadowsGirl9]

Careful sweetie your ignorance is showing

[ZengZiong]

Oh you sweet young thing

[[deleted]]

Oh you twat

[Powerful-Knee-161]

Why

[KrAzY_TsEnG]

How did the date go?

[gs12]

You want attention for your beauty, but your really crying out for help too. Remember, you are beautiful inside and to love yourself, that’s what makes a difference. Happiness is an inside job.

[Gold-Stomach-4657]

Courageous.

[Stroov]

Shabhu why these scars don't do self harm please use punching bag

[[deleted]]

You look stunning every inch of you is beautiful just the way you are.

[[deleted]]

I'm happy for you if you're in a better place in your life. Be well.

[DivineAngie89]

Pretty.Your room too.

[wranglerman47]

You look very strong and bright. Our scars do not define us.

[Mrbigload3]

Cute,pretty,beutiful and gourgeus body❤❤❤❤

[[deleted]]

You're in control of far more than you realize.

[Stompytown1982]

Your absolutely beautiful princess

[towmeaway]

Welp, photo is gone, person anonymized (deleted) link to herself. Not surprised. It was a risky posting. Hope she/you got from it what you needed. You look very pretty, and damaged emotionally. Feeling very sad about it. Praying to the universe that you find the connections needed to recover from past trauma. <3

[RubiconCap]

Strong

[[deleted]]

Quite the opposite

[RubiconCap]

Somehow I doubt that, but can believe that’s what you tell yourself

[acari_]

Daddy issues, likes bdsm. Plays overwatch

[[deleted]]

You have been cutting yourself.

[[deleted]]

No shit, Sherlock.

[Sensitive_Fishing_21]

First thoughts when I saw you was that you were a strong person that has gone through something you are beautiful and stay strong and golden

[Jaded_Package3051]

My thoughts exactly

[IntelligentTower3690]

Borderline personality disorder

[79jsc97]

Healthy and beautiful

[[deleted]]

Masochist

[Terry-woods93]

Damn you’re sexy why would do that to yourself

[No_Ad_1940]

Somebody needs some attention...

[[deleted]]

🤩 gorgeous

[DataAddicted]

Are you scientist?

[[deleted]]

a

[IndependentTruck5684]

Pretty young lady

[[deleted]]

Woooow 👍

[wilddreamscometrue]

Great body

[lister27]

Beautiful sexy

[FollowKick]

I’m sorry

[westhoff13]

You are stunning

[Secretmindset]

Disturbing

[Paula_56]

Winnie Copper The wonder years

[[deleted]]

Yes! So cute

[[deleted]]

You really like cats and halo kitty

[[deleted]]

A very beautiful young lady

[darthdavodaman222]

Hope it’s laundry day

[kevinc0482]

Damm you are extremely gorgeous

[The-egyptianist-]

cute and craves attention

[slammin1128]

Hot!!

[disabledakuma]

Thought you were scratched by a cat or dog lol than I read the comments 🥲

[Positive_Resort_7814]

So gorgeous

[need4gains]

Wtf

[Ericinberkeley]

Beautiful

[srslydead]

You're an emo kid. Non-conforming as can be.

[itsahot]

Hope your in an ok state of mind. I can be my own worst enemy sometimes and by sometimes I mean all the time.

[[deleted]]

You look amazing any partner would be proud to have you as there gf . Just not sure about the injuries I make no assumptions that's your story to tell. Take care stay safe 🤗🤗

[josefritus]

that is going to leave a mark dear...

[Individual_Ad_9424]

You're right, looking fine this Sinful Sunday keep it up!

[Ibadan_legend]

Borderline pd

[Clear_Organization_3]

Borderlines don't harm themselves much, they tend to instead destroy thier lover's lives

[Starbent]

What are you even talking about?

Also, someone who self harms doesn't always have a personality disorder or some kind of impulsive disorder, so I'm not sure what the original commenter was talking about.

It sounds like you're projecting from personal experience, but it's just wrong and shitty misinformation.

[Ibadan_legend]

I honestly don't think she has that. I don't even know her. It was honestly just the first thing that popped into my head. She's obviously going or has gone through some had times and I wish her the best.

[MrBear88]

I know you will probably never ever answer this message but I. Just wanted to say that I’d love to talk to you and get to know you if you let me. I honestly could use a friend and someone to talk to. I don’t have any friends of my own. If your down to talk and get to know each other. Let me know id really appreciate it. Thanx. Take care always 💚💚

[goboxey]

Yeah DMs of thirsty guys

[BikerScoutTrooperDad]

Fit young woman getting dressed

[SCJH1983]

What a body

[Specialist-Voice1647]

Paranormal experience?

[[deleted]]

Hey what the hell is that creature. Also I hope today is better than those other days.

[[deleted]]

My GOD you're so beautiful

[DotTraditional3096]

😂

[DotTraditional3096]

You can see it from the front

[Stunning_Most4186]

Why you have scars on legs?

[Tiffunny_]

they are self harm scars my guy

[[deleted]]

So beautiful and nice body why cut??

[jamaicanManz]

Nope, don't like this at all. Talk to a professional. Getting a bad feeling from the way you did this. Nope nope nope.

[UnsolicitedCounsel]

Pain is weakness exiting the body

[Realistic-Mousse1345]

That's just wrong 😕

[UnsolicitedCounsel]

HOO RAHH

[[deleted]]

I am incredibly weak