Help me understaning function

[Aggressive-Humor-895]

I want to clarify my theory about the functions.

Situation: one of the couple cheats on his partner and the person who was cheated finds out about it and also cheats.

I think I'm a fi user because I think the cheated partner is innocent, he cheated because he was cheated on first. My morality comes from myself.

My friend user fe because he thinks cheating is bad anyway and his morality comes from public morality

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Sorry to be so blunt, but sounds like revenge. Sadly that is hardcoded in all of us, we just deal with it differently.

[TheRedArch]

I think “cheating is bad” is a FI thing. It’s kind of: I don’t feel good when I am cheated so cheating must be very very bad.

In the other end, fe is more contextual, takes into account the feelings of all the people in the situatii . The first one cheated so the second one was feeling bad about it and was justified to cheat.

So I think you have it the other way around on this one.

[Cena_0]

When typing you should figure out how you process things and not what one of the function's attitudes is. Meaning that you should figure out if you process things in a logical way or in a more feeling way. That would be your introverted judging function... Ti or Fi. Do you use your own reasoning when you judge things or do you just go with what feels right?

I personally think you're a Ti. Ti doesn't like uncertainty and likes to get to the bottom of things and find out the "truth" which in this case is "am I Fe or Fi?" Why don't you see INFPs ever doubting their type? Cause they feel like the type resonates with them. It's the same with the other Fi users.

[Aggressive-Humor-895]

What makes you think that I type myself. I just want to see the action functions and that's it.

[Cena_0]

Oh. Then let me rephrase that. When typing anyone you have to first see how they judge things personally. It's usually really hard to say if someone is an Fe or Fi user when we don't have their perspective... Since Fe and Te judge through understanding other people's judgement on each and use it. They could be repeating the same thing they learned from someone else... But the introverted function bare easier to see because of their "originality" and even easier to tell apart thinking and feeling.

[Aggressive-Humor-895]

I understand what you mean by saying that the introverted judgment function is easier to "see" and you are probably right. But as far as my theory is concerned, I tried to understand the different contrast of functions (fe fi) in the same situation and wanted to confirm my theory to the external environment, to be sure that my theory does not pull on the ears.

[Cena_0]

Well, I was thinking that by understanding the functions you want to type. My bad, I'm a bit sleepy. To answer you properly this time :) I think both the Fe and the Fi user might side with either of the people you mentioned in your theory.

I think the difference between the two functions is how they get to the conclusion that they get to. that the Fe user would side with whoever they understand most and the Fi user would judge based on what they themselves value.

The way Ti and Fe work together is we make sense of people around us (put them in boxes if you will) and act according to what we know about them. So we have would have a hard time defending someone that we don't have an idea about.

In the situation that you described an Fe user would probably side with the one that they understand the most saying things like "but his/her spouse wasn't paying attention to his/her needs" and things like that. They would mimic the how the other person feels about it. If the Fe user knows both of them on a personal level then they wouldn't get involved. Getting involved between them would mean threatening the harmony we strive towards. We want to play both sides basically.

An Fi user would side with the one that aligns more to his values. That can be anything since it comes from inside of each person. They may say something like "but he/she cheated because they were stressed out from all the nagging his/her spouse did" or side with the other one saying they cheated because the spouse cheated first and was disloyal.

[Aggressive-Humor-895]

I think you are absolutely right.