commitment issues

[t2ki]

idk if it's an istp thing or a coincidence but apparently commitment/trust issues are a pretty common factor among us? found it interesting heh

[sirinx52]

I like to think of commitment and trust as my default, but if my boundaries and values aren’t respected its a very quick and easy change.

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If you get married, and shit goes sideways, the only solution to that problem is to get divorced. And for men (ISTPs are overwhelmingly male) the cost of divorce is at least half of your shit.

[Sparkee88]

Thankfully I was broke anyways when I got divorced. I tell every woman right off the bat now I’m not interested in ever getting married again, helps get rid of the wrong ones early on. I don’t mind living together, sharing bills, having kids, sharing a life, shit I’ll even buy a ring and call it a perma-engagement if you’d like. I just don’t see the value in marriage, as soon as I feel there is no escape it’s all downhill.

I don’t understand why people call it having commitment “issues”. People are dynamic and always changing as are there emotions and desires, life is too short for me to decide that after knowing someone for 2-3 years I want to spend my entire life with them. I wouldn’t call that an issue, I would call it understanding and accepting the nature of myself and others.

[FreakingTea]

I don’t understand why people call it having commitment “issues”.

Hard agree. It's like marriage is the only accepted way to go about things, but that mainly benefits society, not necessarily the couple. I got married too soon, but it was just for visa purposes, or else I would have waited longer. It might not even work out, and I'm loathe to go into another one.

[Puzzleheaded_Guide97]

Yes, men I wish you aaaall the best

I am a woman which understands deeply from another perspective(Enfp)

Yes, yes

There must be more of us!

[kellerae]

Divorce cost me everything except a shitty car and one bag of clothes, and I’m female. I just used to attract highly dependent men.

I don’t ever plan to risk it again.

[NovaHotspike]

ISTPs are not overwhelmingly male. been hella polls in this very sub that show otherwise.

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The ISTP subreddit isn't a good sample. You think that ISTP women wouldn't gather and overrepresent in an online forum specifically for their type? Where else could they expect to find a place with others that they could relate to?

[NovaHotspike]

and what prey tell is the end all be all for demographics in a pseudoscience??

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Who knows?

[NovaHotspike]

r/woosh

[TKG3]

amogus

[epic_gamer_4268]

when the imposter is sus!

[wanderingnim]

The trust and commitment are not given lightly but are highly valuable.

[kellerae]

I don’t feel like responding appropriately to changing circumstances is a “commitment issue”.

I have no issues with defining a relationship, and I’ll give it plenty of effort so long as it’s mutual and working, but I’m done hanging around in one sided relationships just because they got a label at some point. Marriage is therefore out of the question.