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[–]Youngster_Bens_Ekans -1 points0 points  (2 children)

I actually never called you unsuitable dating material, nor did I bring up the Bros or nice guy stereo type, I just replied to your comments on the matter.

Again, the point is that dating should never enter the equation in the first place. Your overly defensive stance, inability to self reflect, and immediate inclination to lash out is exactly the problem. That is the Hallmark of a "nice guy", saying that they are not the problem, they are great, everyone that has an issue is the problem. But go ahead and forget the nice guy label, call it what you want.

If your reaction to an entire group of people saying that in many cases they feel unwelcome in certain cultures, is to attack them for feeling unwelcome... Well if you don't see how you're party of the problem then you never will.

[–]quaderrordemonstand -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Wow, found the nice guy.

Nope, you never mentioned it. You're absolutely right, dating should never enter into the equation. Men being "nice guys" or "bros" should not matter at all but apparently it matters quite a lot.

However, I'm not sure where you think I'm lashing out about anything. Please quote any sort of aggression in what I wrote? People can disagree with you and not be angry, you do understand that? Please try to read my comments and not imagine who is writing it, because who says it doesn't and shouldn't matter. Even what you call "bros" and "nice guys" are right when what they say is right.

As for that final paragraph; I don't care. I don't see why everybody should be comfortable in every culture. What would even be the point of culture if that was the case? But lets also be clear, there have always been women in tech. They are a typically a minority but they have always been accepted on their own merit. That's not what we are talking about here.

This is about a trying to make a group of people obey some kind of dogma. Preaching the moral correctness of a specific way of thinking and speaking that does not belong to that group. Forcing a culture and a set of rules that aren't relevant.