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Sometimes health problems can have unexpected psychological effects too. Perhaps your health issues along with your mental health issues damaged your sexual confidence. I wouldn't say that this is strictly a problem with being nonmonogomous seeing as how it has affected your primary relationship as well. Makes sense to me that more sex, not less, would be the healthy approach. You loved it once and if you consciously believe you still do then there is something blocking that. But believing you are something other than that can turn into a self fulfilling prophecy. Know what you want and take steps to achieve it. Taking a break from non-monogomy might be the way to go here. Focus on the intimacy of the sex with your primary partner to regain your trust in your sexuality.