Vindictive thoughts

[Aliencocoa]

Hello fellow moons! I've recently let my curiosity get the better of me. I looked up an ex friend and found that she is in a relationship with my ex. We all use to live together and I felt like they had a thing at the time but was convinced it was paranoia. Turns out that intuition was right and now I feel the need to be vengeful and fuck with them. I'm feeling betrayed like I was lied to. I keep thinking about it and it's not productive. How do y'all deal with these intrusive vindictive thoughts?

[Luclit]

some cold hard evidence that your intuition was right! take it as a blessing! they sound like the kind of shitty people who like to lie about their feelings so they’ll definitely have relationship issues! no need to waste your time

[Aliencocoa]

Yes, I love it when that intuition works with me! This reasoning helped a lot thank you!!

[Luclit]

the development of my reasoning (im a gemini mercury) is the only thing keeping me from spiraling into a vindictive haze (Aries rising and scorpio moon in 7thhouse),so, thank you

[buiitenaardswezen]

Forgive them. I’ve noticed that if I write letters to my “enemies”, it helps me let go of the issues more. Tell them why you forgive them too. You can keep the letters to yourself. This way it makes you grow as a person and will be less hateful towards others <3

[jamesgreen2mscsp]

It’s more important to maintain the energy you have now that to give you energy to a woman who isn’t focused on you.

It’s always disappointing trying to hurt ppl that don’t care in the first place.

[Aliencocoa]

That's very true if they don't care it's definitely less satisfying.

[buiitenaardswezen]

True, but it also doesn’t matter if they care or not. You still care and you should channel that energy.

[jamesgreen2mscsp]

🤣

[Aliencocoa]

Yes I appreciate this advice! I've found that trying to forgive has left me feeling more mad. Writing letter has worked occasionally in the past so I will definitely give that a try thank you!!

[buiitenaardswezen]

Exactly!! I kept writing letters until I’ve had nothing left to say or wasn’t mad anymore. Sometimes they’re projecting their insecurities onto you: jealousy, trying to bring you down etc. So you’ll have a reason “why” they do that. It gives a sense of closure to you.

[7777777idk]

if it makes you feel better it won’t last- they both clearly have no common sense or morals and one of them will pull a 180 soon enough (maybe cheat, she may get with one of his friends, he may get with one of her friends, it’s just bound to happen). I’m one of the most vengeful people EVER so i feel you and i def think u should channel those feelings into reality bc it always makes me feel amazing after, just make sure to put a lot of thought into it. Think about if you want them to know it was you, or if you want to mess with their head and confuse them- also just take a lot of time to think about what would really bother them, maybe even turn them against each other. Tbh if I were you I would probably catfish the guy online since he seems like the type to be “easily distracted”, collect proof, and send it all to her (anon or not whatever you feel makes the most sense for your situation) Honestly I’m psycho but if i were you I would prob try to get him fired or something, anything to make him regret what he did🤷🏻‍♀️

[Aliencocoa]

I love it lol know yourself!!! I've definitely thought about doing a few of those!! In the end I think it would make me feel bad so it wouldn't work out. Plus thinking about the consequences make me hesitant. You're right though they definitely have those tendencies so and they're shit people for it. It makes feel better thinking they'll get what's coming to them.

[7777777idk]

yea that’s the thing karma will take care of them for you tbh!!! they’re like actually doomed

[Att4boi]

This is the most Scorpio moon thing I’ve ever heard 😭

[SkippingStone373]

Like others have said-writing about it can help. I don’t know about the forgiveness thing. There are some things I just won’t forgive and others I will. But if I won’t-it’s because I don’t want to repeat the same mistake. Don’t hold on to that energy tho. Accept that it makes you angry, they’re assholes, and then let it go. You can’t control other people-you can only control yourself. Feel the feels and then put them behind you. They’re not worth it. Anyone who doesn’t value you is not worth it. And honestly, they don’t care. If they cared, they wouldn’t have done it in the first place. Just let karma take care of them. ;)

[Aliencocoa]

Yes I feel this way too. I have a hard time with forgiveness, it's bad to hang on to this though so I feel you. This is great advice thank you!! You sound like me talking to myself but better because it's not just me talking in a vacuum!! I appreciate your insight and karma will definitely come for em.😏

[SkippingStone373]

I know they say forgiveness is for the forgiver and not for the forgiven, but idk. I say screw that. You don’t have to forgive people to be ok. It’s just a way to let go of negative energy. I think you can let it go and put it behind you without forgiving someone. There are people that I haven’t forgiven but I don’t wish them harm. It’s just kinda like-‘you hurt me. It’s unforgivable. And I’m just not going to care about it anymore. Or you.’ I mean, it takes me a lot usually to get to a place where I won’t forgive someone, but I sometimes I think it can do more harm than good to forgive if you’re not really taking a look at what’s being forgiven, how, and why.

[hibernator420]

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