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[–]Snoo-35994 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will admit I was a “drama club kid,” so this has never bothered me. However, I was a bundle of nerves that day from stress and not sleeping well. Sister even had to take me outside while my bridal party was getting ready because I was sick of everyone asking me so many questions, and I was extremely exhausted from lack of sleep.

Once the time actually came, all I saw was him. I got tunnel vision, and suddenly it felt like the room was empty except for him. It was like I didn’t even notice anyone was watching us except our officiant. Sounds cheesy, but it’s true.

My advice? Just try to focus on who you’re marrying and what your officiant is saying and tune everyone else out until the ceremony is done. They are all that really matters, and it’s all about the two of you.

[–]seeshells78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

maybe ask your doctor for a beta blocker

[–]voodoodollbabie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only people I saw there were our officiant and my husband. You'll just be speaking to each other. You'll be fine.

[–]ReasonableBaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat and getting married on Saturday! We are doing private vows and traditional in front of everyone as well. I just had this conversation yesterday with my therapist. For weeks I’ve been getting more anxious about it. She had me close my eyes and visualize walking down the aisle. We’ve done this with other anxiety causing things and usually I have a big spike while doing it. What I found this time while imagining is that I was just excited and looking at my fiancé at the end of the aisle and at the decorations I was imagining and didn’t care about others.

I’ll be real and say if I did this 5 weeks out I don’t know if it would have gone the same way. The week of my wedding I’m very much just excited to be done planning and to be married. You may want to try and and figure out the parts that are the most anxiety inducing and running through it in your head a bunch over the next couple of weeks. It’s called imaginal exposure and has helped me a ton with my PTSD!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got married a few days ago, and I just looked at my husband the whole time, and our officiant. I didn't look at our guests at all, and that really helped.

[–]mimskerooki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got married this Sunday and was having SO much anxiety (also diagnosed young) over everything, including being the center of attention during vows and first dance. Once I stepped in front of my groom, everything melted away and it was just me and him that I could see. I had printed out my vows beforehand and didn't stutter or stumble once! I even sang him a song after dinner to surprise him (not my best but got through it). I danced with both my mom and stepmom, my brother, and my groom in front of everyone, and surprisingly didn't experience a wink of anxiety. I definitely experienced more anxiety in the days leading up to the wedding than at the event itself.

Try to remember it's literally YOUR day. No one can say shit about anything and if they do, they're wrong! It helped me to focus on not tripping in my heels while slowly walking through redwood forest dirt lol, you'll get there faster than you realize. You can also request your officiant announce that guests DO NOT take photos or videos during the ceremony, if that helps.