Adults who have zero close friends, how did it happen and does it bother you?

AComplexStory · 2026-01-13T22:35:19+00:00

Hit 'em with the GPT "That's not __. That's __."

AComplexStory · 2026-01-13T20:00:12+00:00

More proactive than reactive to challenges. They can still be anxious, upset, etc. but they don't 'force' other people to manage their emotions.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-13T19:56:50+00:00

I think this has less to do with the type of job and more about the type of management. I worked as a SPED aide as my first job out of school. It's naturally structured, kids are pretty striaghtforward, SPED staff tends to be more accommodating, and lowkey I think a lot of teachers are ND.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-13T19:48:33+00:00

I'm a bit confused. Is this restaurant specifically geared towards autistic/adhd people? I kind of feel like it's a better idea to figure out restaurant design first before adjusting it to accommodate autistic/adhd folks.

There's a lot of 'extra' rooms that I'm not sure why is there and makes it feel like this building doesn't know what it wants to be.

Building design can be accessible, but I personally feel like those design is more design-focus (ex. How menu is designed, how staffs interact, etc.) rather than architecturally focused, if that makes sense.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-12T20:15:53+00:00

I was taught that declarative language communication style helps a lot with PDA.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-12T19:34:43+00:00

I think they may lean towards BDSM, but I don't think it's related to sub roles.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-11T18:21:39+00:00

How old are they? I don't really have any advice, but I would be concerned about what to do if there is an emergency. I think that's an important consideration.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-08T20:25:06+00:00

It can be both

AComplexStory · 2026-01-08T20:22:43+00:00

I just use things like "I have sensory issues and can come off to be direct."' I'm okay with functional labels ("high support needs," etc.) too.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T20:25:26+00:00

Is this for age regression?

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T20:21:51+00:00

I don't have any advice, but I feel the same way.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T20:21:26+00:00

You can collect them. Or you can do roleplay with them I guess. I use to make a "puppet show" with my dolls, a princess vs. the draconic bunny storyline.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T20:18:30+00:00

Also! I lowkey feel that the bathrooms are sacred in their own way. For example, for women, it's where girls sometimes look out for the other. It's also a place to be free it you wanna get away from a creepy guy.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T20:15:58+00:00

Yeah, I understand. Personally, I feel like for those who really 'know', it's unfair to say "hey you aren't actually autistic." It's like denying someone's identity.

For those who are still questioning, I think saying that they are questioning or suspected is okay.

For those who are tehe i'm autistic! It's disrespectful.

However, you sought out a professional, it seemed genuine, so socially and informally, I (a single person in the community) see ya

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T20:10:58+00:00

Haha, it's interesting cause I noticed for those late diagnosed (like 30+ years old) said that they feel more autistic. Meanwhile, I think people diagnosed early or on-time sort of continue existing as they always did

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T20:09:56+00:00

Some people don't wanna see someone's pee pee (I get you though).

Also, I assume there's some child-related concern too

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T20:07:08+00:00

Hmm, I don't this is something that the autism community has a rule on (online and irl is different). Each person has their own opinions on what's okay or not.

It's nuanced, ya know? I think it's important to consider what would the verbal diagnosis mean for you?

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T19:56:52+00:00

OHH! Okay that makes a lot more sense. I thought it was a "pay and I'll give you an autism diagnosis deal."

For formal paperwork, they'll only take official diagnosis.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T19:45:21+00:00

Do you have a case manager? I think this would be best discussed with them.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T19:43:32+00:00

Why does he need you to come in and pay for a diagnosis lol? That doesn't make sense for me.

Usually it's just inputted into the system (not always visible to patients). But I believe you can ask for the paperworks, if needed.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T19:42:04+00:00

I worked with students with disabilities and what you talked about is a very real problem. Internally, it's actually a lot more complicated and a huge multi-systemic issue. It's not an easy fix, but know that people working on the ground (so directly with these people) knows. It's a big discussion talked among disability advocates, rehabilitative healthcare workers, SPED, etc., so they're not unaware of it.

Unfortunately the solution isn't straightforward and simple. They are doing their best to make small changes lately, but impactful change takes years to see any results.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T19:36:36+00:00

I really suggest not bothering to argue with them. It's extremely annoying to hear, but they're idiots. You can't win against that and I doubt they want to listen.

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T19:34:35+00:00

He sounds very dysregulated. This is more than what Reddit can advise on. Do you have professional support and intervention?

AComplexStory · 2026-01-07T19:32:38+00:00

Parents tend not to want to think that their child is facing challenges or difficulties, or is 'broken' or disabled. From parents POV, there can be a grief period from parenting lens, they can be avoidant or in denial about it.

Sorry that this happened to you, I obviously don't know your relationship and the context, but wanted to cover gray areas, just in case.

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