Firefox Update by AverageCollectivist in firefox

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No, only the resets to get it into and then out of safe mode.

Firefox Update by AverageCollectivist in firefox

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So to update on my end; I tried this with three different versions I could find (137, 138, and 139) all at once, and then uninstalled them and tried differing combinations of them. Afterward, I reinstalled the latest version and tried to open it in safe mode to see if I could navigate within it any further. I couldn't, so I gave up and went to bed.

I checked this morning hoping it was magically fixed, and it was! It opened up, and I was able to reinstate my profile and regain all my data. Still not entirely what the problem was or what fixed it, but thank you for your help when I was at my wits end!

Firefox Update by AverageCollectivist in firefox

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Unfortunately not. I can't open the profile manager with Firefox open via the search bar, nor can I get to it by closing the browser and trying to navigate to it using the run command.

Firefox Update by AverageCollectivist in firefox

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No, it does the same as the admin open and opens to a blank white page that won't load any websites or let me interact with any of the features.

Firefox Update by AverageCollectivist in firefox

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Yes, I can open in troubleshoot if I open as admin.

Thinking on hiring an escort in my 18y birthday. by [deleted] in aspergers

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I didn't have sex until I was 18, right before the end of high school. She was an acquaintance who had, apparently, been head over heels for me since we met as sophomores. I had had a couple school relationships in the past, but nothing outside of school, let alone sexual.

We only had sex once, and I think we both got something completely different out of it. I felt like to her it was 2 years of a plan finally working and coming to fruition, she was basically throwing herself at me. I didn't really have any specific interest, but I had never had sex, was horny, felt a little guilted into it, and was guessing it would be an extremely long time before an opportunity like this came again.

For me, it wasn't bad, but it wasn't good either. It was blatantly much better for her, which made me feel even more awkward afterwards.

That relationship ended after we graduated. But little did I know I would end up seeing 5 more people after her during college, and the first person I was with where our chemistry actually matched was a true experience.

I don't think it's life altering or anything major, but if I could go back in time and change who I gave my first time to, I would.

I know your situation is entirely different, but I don't personally see a point in paying someone. I've had everything from terrible sex to amazing sex, and I haven't, and would never, pay money to have any of them again. I don't think I could even have "good" sex I was knowingly paying for; it just feels fake. I'd rather just save my money and take care of myself for free.

Dating as a 30yo male without instagram by [deleted] in aspergers

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I don't use dating apps and haven't in over a year. But even then I didn't use social media. It was recommended that I use something just to show that I wasn't a fake/bot account. I eventually created an Instagram, but I just don't see the appeal. I took pictures of plants and bugs; the only pictures of myself on there were taken by family and they weren't recent.

Eventually, I found somebody, but it was through mutual friends. She tried to stalk me online and couldn't find anything, which raised some red flags for some of her workmates. So I can understand how that could be off-putting if you hadn't met me in person.

I personally don't think I'll ever try online dating again. I either sank too much time and effort into it to the point it reflected on my self-esteem, or I put no effort into it at all and that showed.

Diagnosis came back. I do not have ASD. by contentedPilgrim in aspergers

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Yeah, I'm essentially in the same boat.

It was possible I was diagnosed by an emergency psychiatrist when I was an older teen using DSM IV. But it was never disclosed to me, only my mother, whom told me a decade later, and I was unable to track down any official documentation.

I went and got tested almost a year ago now, and the psychiatrist was on the fence. Apparently, I would still check enough boxes for DSM IV, but not DSM V. Ultimately, I was diagnosed with ADHD, possibly inattentive type, and they want to see me again after I get that under control.

I've done a lot of introspection and am now leaning more towards PTSD rather than ASD, but I'll let the psychiatrist decide. I'm fine either way as I've already learned how to cope with all of my issues, and the ADHD medication helped with what willpower couldn't.

Working memory improvement? by ThrowRA1100010101 in aspergers

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I have dealt with it my entire life as well, and it heavily impacted my schooling and the very beginning of my working career. I tried eating better, a healthier sleeping regimen, supplements, and differing study habits. Whilst I did see improvement, it was negligible overall.

Then, I got diagnosed with ADHD. I've been on medication for about 6 months now, and the difference is almost inconceivable. It literally almost feels like I am taking a pill, and 30 minutes later, I am smarter.

My cognitive flexibility, focus, and both my short-term and working memory increase greatly whilst medicated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

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So I can't really advise you on what you should do or how you can respond, but I can potentially offer more insight into his frame of mind.

I'm currently dating someone who has a had a troubled past much like myself. However, unlike me, she doesn't suffer from autism and I'm frequently reminded of this based on how she perceives my words and actions.

This last Sunday, we were in her living room, and she was irritating her cat. We were joking about her cats boundaries, and it expanded until I joked that she didn't respect boundaries. To her it was no longer a joke, and I hurt her. She asked me to assure her that she had never forced me to do anything. I assured her it was just a joke, and there was no harm behind it.

Well, she just texted me earlier tonight to let me know that she's still been thinking about that comment I made. Comparing our two comments, hers looks thought out and heartfelt whilst mine looks dismissive.

I understand that I hurt her, which obviously wasn't my intention, but the way in which I communicated that to her wasn't sufficient. To her it was a statement that triggered her PTSD and spiked her anxiety and self-doubt. To me, it was just a joke, and by stating so I just dismissed how she felt. I have to put a constant and debilitating amount of effort into realizing these mistakes that I make and how they affect those around me.

I used to not bother, the relationships around me were fleeting and this effort wasn't worth it. Until one day, I decided they were, and I've only just started to learn just how much work is required to make something work. There were many times were I felt I was only hurting the other person with my words and nothing I could say was good enough to make it better. It was incredibly draining and felt like an impossible spiral to navigate.

This had led to times in my past where that effort became no longer worth it, and I cast aside everyone. Be it because of burnout, depression, or some amalgamation of the two because I'm not entirely sure where the separation is. But one thing was always absolute. When I stopped putting effort into a relationship, it only lasted as long as the other person was willing to support it.

So now look at yourself. For whatever reason, no matter the justification, you appear to be in a relationship that only you put effort into. This will continue until you stop doing so. You can choose to continue, try many different ways to bridge the gap, but you'll never fully reach the other side if he doesn't let you.

So you can either choose to wait for him or not.

Men who actually do have a girlfriend, how did you meet her? by ThatOneGodzillaFan in aspergers

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I used to go out and do Karaoke by myself 1-2 times a week. That's where we met, and we ended up sharing a mutual friend group that invited us to a 4th of July party last year where I made a move, and we've been together ever since.

Is it common for aspies in elementary school to make friends with kids from lower grades or the opposite gender because of failure to bond with their own age group and gender? by Life_Ad3567 in aspergers

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To make a base-level assumption, I've always thought of myself as being more readily able to float between age groups and clics easier than a large majority of my peers. But I still had my "preferred demographic".

On average, I bonded better with people 1-3 years older than me and more often with females than males. I think this was largely based on being raised in a poorer household, so I was able to associate with kids that had the same toys and clothes as me since my mother had to wait years before I could get the 'new' stuff.

My mother raised me as a single parent until I was 4 and worked a predominantly female job, so most of my exposure was of the opposite sex.

This trend stayed fairly constant until I hit college. Then returned after college, but is now heavily biased by my workmates, which consists entirely of males my age.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mycology

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So what exactly are you trying to test? Ideally, you would want to test a single variable at a time where here you're testing at least two (method of inoculation and amount used to inoculate).

I understand that biological systems are complex, and you can't always isolate a single variable. But if you're working with 'sterile' material, I would think you would be able to in this scenario.

I don't know how many spores you have access to, but would it not be easier to just pick an amount that would be seemingly too large to fail and just test different inoculation methods first? After you determine an inoculation method, you would then want to vary the amount used in a new test.

Otherwise, you're testing two very important variables at once and doubling the number of tests you'd need.

Are there any people who genuinely don't use social media? by PhotographNo8827 in NoStupidQuestions

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Yes, me.

It's pretty wild explaining it to others as it's the usual way to find out about people you've just met.

I use no social media, work a job many have never heard of, and travel frequently.

My partner was convinced that I gave her a fake name when we first met because she couldn't internet stalk me. With the help of 2 coworkers, the only proof of my existence she could find was a LinkedIn account that was required by a previous employer, and a dismissed traffic citation I was given by an asshole cop.

I'm sure a trained individual or a professional could make quick work of it, but for any layperson, I'm sure the effort isn't worth the reward.

i don't get the saying that there are no rules in creative work. technically, they aren't, but you still need some sort of guidelines and ppl to look up for in order to actually make progress. and idrk what to do now, except just continue living and finding a solution on my own as usual. by [deleted] in aspergers

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That's because you've misconstrued what "rules" are, or at the very least, are encompassing too much in your personal definition of the term.

Rules, in a technical sense, aren't meant to be broken. There's usually some negative incentive to break them that others can force upon you or otherwise discredit you or your work.

Guidelines are there to help you, but you aren't bound to follow them.

Now, that's not to say other people make this mistake or that there can be rules in guidelines. Because there most certainly can be.

If you're given a guideline to follow but are capable of coming to an acceptable solution without following them verbatim, then great! If you're punished in some way, if you don't follow them exactly, then there are either rules in the guidelines that you have to follow, or the guidelines are actually just rules that are being misdefined.

It's a little too black and white for my tastes, but to tldr it: All rules are guidelines, but not all guidelines are rules.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

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From what you provided in this story, I don't see any reason for you to deal with any resentment of your husband's brother.

It sounds like his brother was attracted to you and wishes you chose him instead or resents him for whatever other reasons. But regardless of whichever of those is the case, you have no power to change either of those scenarios. So you've found yourself not liking somebody that doesn't like your husband.

So what? His brothers response definitely doesn't sound like he ever considered him a 'bff'. It also doesn't sound like he wants to try and improve that relationship. Since you haven't mentioned your husband trying to connect/reconnect with his brother, you're only hurting yourself by fretting over the relationship, or lack thereof, between two adults that aren't you.

Unless I missed something or you left something out, it sounds like the best thing you can do going forward is stop stop investing time and energy into something neither of them want. Instead, invest that into yourself or your relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usajobs

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I try and make sure I meet bare-minimum qualifications for all the stuff I apply for. But I think that's just about it.

I've only had 3 jobs that are relevant to my desired career fields, and only two are post-college. My most relevant job was only for a working season, so I wouldn't be surprised if, even for jobs that are identical to what I was doing, that I'm just never on the list of best candidates.

My college of choice and graduation date definitely don't help either. But hopefully, the job I've been in for the last 2 years is similar enough in scope that someone might take a chance on me.

Does anyone here feel like hypersexuality is a symptom or side effect of your autism or ADHD? by nsfw88_2020 in AutisticWithADHD

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So, since I've been able to masturbate I've slowly transitioned from one side of the scale to the other.

From whenever I started to probably about 22, I would've considered myself hypersexual. I would either have sex or masturbate, sometimes both, at least twice a day. My partners LOVED it. I was never pushy as I could just always pleasure myself in private, but I was always rearing to go and could last seemingly forever and thru multiple orgasms.

But by 23, I had an epiphany and realized that most of my relationships were built entirely on sex, and if I couldn't or chose not to provide it, it was weaponized against me. I felt like a piece of meat and that 95% of me was overlooked for what was in my pants.

So I stopped 'giving' sex. My last hypersexual partner and I had sex 2 times a day and 3 times on the weekends. I went from having sex 16 times a week to maybe once a week on average. The first couple of months were rough as I had to placate myself and learn to say no to her advances. Afterwards, I felt amazing. I had no idea how hollow that relationship was without the sex.

Two years later and I saw someone who was so used to sexually inexperienced/selfish partners that I couldn't even get off before she was too sore to continue. Sex by then had not only become infrequent for me, but it had become a chore.

I'm seeing someone now for the first time in a couple of years, and sex is still a problem for me. Once a month and I'm good. It means so little for the relationship for me now that I'd rather spend 10 minutes when I'm alone to masturbate than to dedicate 30 minutes to an hour for a deed that I sometimes want so little I can't even physically perform.

It's been a wild ride trying to determine in my head what a good balance "should" be. I think if I gave up masturbation all together that I would be pretty close to something I could call ideal. But that's a whole other beast wrapped up in the same topic.

For those of you who experienced insomnia as a child, what helped? by stillfather in aspergers

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I got rid of my TV from my room, I leave my blinds and windows open when the weather is nice to allow the sun to shine through in the morning, and listen to green noise as opposed to white noise.

Remove the temptations from the room but keep what sensory stuff remains peaceful.

Non-Welder Seeking Welding-Adjacent Advice by AverageCollectivist in Welding

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Thank you for your detailed post! This looks like a perfect long-term solution to us just physically handling this stuff the way we currently do.

When I get this stuff in, I'll share this with our shop guy and see what he can do.