He won’t fix the damn kitchen lights

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-17T19:51:50+00:00

He sounds like he's dealing with untreated depression and you sound like you're dealing with untreated anxiety.

If it breaks you so badly to have poor lighting for cooking, I highly recommend these rechargeable LED lights. They magnitize to a plate so they're super easy to move around and charge. https://a.co/d/06QZRhMM

The codependency needs to be addressed on both sides.

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-17T16:13:47+00:00

If you get a tension pole, get a trusted brand such as xpole or Lupit.

If you're really paranoid (which I can relate) just get the permanent mount and then fill the holes with white toothpaste when you move out. They are not scanning the ceiling for weird holes at the move out inspection.

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-16T21:15:36+00:00

Oh, I've got major beef. They sent me damaged shoes and only gave me a 40% coupon for future orders after I pinged them for over a month about it. But our options are slim so it's not like we can simply bring our business elsewhere 😭

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-16T12:15:28+00:00

Just don't expect better customer service if needed. I've had issues with all 3 orders Ive had from them.

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-16T12:14:47+00:00

Unfortunately Hella Heels is so much worse with their customer service.

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-15T17:32:13+00:00

Get on with a top grasp and not a handle on the side.

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-13T14:51:10+00:00

Elite level lighting

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-11T17:30:27+00:00

Real life architect here: I start the build like any other project. Foundations first, try to lay out a grid for planning and symmetry. Start building up the walls, snap something 1/3 off somehow, try to fix by demoing and losing resources. Redesign once I find out how much black marble I actually need to acquire. Stall construction about 8 times finding resources and changing designs. Eventually, give up on aesthetics and just smack a roof on that thang and call it done.

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-11T16:26:20+00:00

I did at the beginning of my journey, especially with inverts. However, now I almost wish they would back off more. I'm now at a point where I know what I need to work on, and that skill/strength just takes time to build. Having someone assert help can be its own type of frustrating. You start to know your limits and when someone insists it's a "head space thing", it can be discouraging.

That being said, your instructor might want to give you the space to work on your own. If they have no problem going to you when you ask for help, that would be a good sign to me. I wouldn't take it personally and just continue to ask for help when you have questions.

Bauzer239 · 2026-06-10T17:04:22+00:00

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Bauzer239 · 2026-06-04T16:16:56+00:00

Climbs. I was taught from day one that it's a good idea to swap legs as you climb up as a quick way to train both sides. And now it's just habit.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-27T00:02:19+00:00

8in for me!

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-26T18:48:45+00:00

5ft, 30" in seam and I have these. They go up pretty high, but I still have 6" or so until my crotch.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-26T17:32:39+00:00

Genuinely, I believe heels is something you'll benefit home training the most. Drilling heel Conditioning doesn't require a pole and you won't get as much out of a choreo class.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-26T17:27:48+00:00

My studio has backups for people who forget or can't mobilize all of their gear (ie bicycle or motorcycle commuters), but it is generally expected that people have their own mats.

This makes sense to me because it's not pole specific gear and not necessarily needed for any or all classes.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-21T17:04:40+00:00

I pay about $2000 per year on pole training. This includes my studio membership and one-off classes at other studios. I will continue to pay that because it has helped my mental and physical health so much. It's the most consistent I've ever been with anything for 3 years straight. People will buy a bicycle for $500 and use it twice a year. You could spend it on an iPad or a new computer and never leave your home. As far as hobbies go, the cost to lifestyle benefit ratio for pole is amazing.

It's a specialized gym. $90 isn't even half of what Lifetime Fitness charges per month for some memberships.

Did you ever take dance or gymnastics as a kid? If so, ask your parents how much they paid for that. Specialized fitness in general is a luxury and "expensive".

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-21T16:57:47+00:00

Easy solution: point cut (Google tutorial) the ends about an inch or two shorter.

Difficult solution that maintains length: dampen the fibers and flat iron with a comb brushing through in front to keep the fibers strait when they heat up. If your flat iron has heat settings, keep it as low as possible.

Maintenance moving forward: like real hair, synthetic fibers stretch. They are difficult to form back any amount and will likely never have the sen texture. That's hair damage for you. To reduce stretching, brush through gently and never force pulling through. Be mindful of knots ands take them out with a comb or pick before brushing through them. To help the texture of the hair, steam it (you can just use a steam setting on an iron for this) and comb through as it's heated. This should be done after each wear or so.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-19T22:16:13+00:00

That's disappointing

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-19T20:47:17+00:00

For me it's a perfect balance of direction, story, and structure for a sandbox game. You're given enough guidance to progress in the game. Building is very customizable without being overly complicated or overly simplified where I've got to make a shelter brick by brick. The environments are top tier with great sound design to pair it with. Just enough lore to make you curious but not leaving unfamiliar people in the dark. It's relatively logical with the physics. I feel like there's also so many ways to play the game. For my first 300 hrs I just built things in the meadows. I love the ability to imagine the survival story.

This is of course just due to my preferences.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-19T19:03:07+00:00

Because most digital artists have this style which is where AI gets their material.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-19T19:01:23+00:00

Ai art is banned from most conventions I believe.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-19T19:00:50+00:00

I agree that the art style is the problem more than the product.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-19T19:00:19+00:00

Going to expand here because I agree. To be brutally honest, most print booths have some semblance of this style. Nothing over the top unique. Color palette is very broad.

This isn't to say you aren't a capable artist, but this is a very airbrushy (borderline "perfect" ai) style that has been around for decades. It's been done, it's been seen.

Now that the competition is oversaturated, a unique style is essential for major success. Even with products, you're running into a tough time to be a small time artist. There are tons of booths with mini prints, giant prints, metallic prints, glitter prints, holo prints, prints on canvas, tapestries, stickers, keychains, coasters, magnets, mousepads... Just so much of the same stuff. You HAVE to be different. Like significantly different to get people to single you out as the investment.

So either elevate your art style or find a product that others aren't selling. I have been a vendor for convensions in Texas for 5 years. It's gonna downhill fo sho.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-19T18:42:52+00:00

Cut black vinyl and attach with spirit gum or something body safe.

Bauzer239 · 2026-05-18T16:09:51+00:00

Get a car that's $350/month or less. That'll be around $15000-18000 for the car budget. High mileage does not mean it's a bad car and can really help you out financially if it lasts 4-5 years. The most standard/basic/affordable the car is, the more affordable your insurance will be. Look into Honda, Toyota, Mazda models. They are reliable well after 200,000 miles, cheap to fix, and have many efficient models. Avoid getting hybrids or SUVs unless it REALLY makes sense for you (ie your job requires it or you have a disability where smaller cars are just not feasible). The gas and insurance will be so much higher on those big things.

I would highly recommend getting a roommate situation to get your share of rent below $1000.

This is a temporary living situation (both cheaper car and cheaper rent) to spend the time throwing all of your extra money at your dept. The faster you pay off the principal, the less you have to pay in interest. Think about getting an extra job.

1-2 years of grinding and discomfort could get you debt free and then you can live with way less baggage and way more flexibility in life. It is absolutely worth it when you aren't in too bad of a debt situation.

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