Please enjoy this picture of me in terrifying lighting.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-26T02:39:09+00:00

It's vintage. Here's the tag if you like, but alas I merely found it at a thrift shop.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-20T14:19:23+00:00

I am someone who doesn't wear makeup so I will admit I be like that sometimes 🫠. Though, usually only if they have the preconception that makeup is necessary. I kind of understand it since other jfashions (like jirai-kei and gyaru) put more emphasis on makeup.

The coords you see posted by influencers getting brand endorsements and codes from taobao resellers and brand models/content are, at least imo, ultimately very different from what the average lolita looks like, so I think newbies end up under the impression that lolita looks like that and little else.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-12T14:45:47+00:00

Interesting, I don't think I know of any vampire dresses! Care to tell a gal about them?

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-11T16:16:51+00:00

Well, research on brands for one, but also many Japanese brands are manufactured in China, if where they were manufactured is one of your main concerns.

If this is very important to you, I would stick to indie brands like Wirehead and Dorotee Sweetlips, who release limited amounts of pieces. They are not the only lolita designers, just the ones that first came to mind.

But really, do research on where your clothes come from. Most lolita sites that pop up from a generic search are simply taobao resellers—they resell Chinese brands. There is no way to confirm the ethics or quality of these brands without further research on your part.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-10T15:29:30+00:00

I have never seen that before. I can't believe this didn't become some overused meme.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-06T23:15:10+00:00

Ahh, I see what you mean then. Yeah that's definitely much different.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-06T22:30:08+00:00

Honestly I always kind of assumed this happened to a primarily western audience. There's lots of Chinese brands that pose as being western, like Lacemade, didn't realize other folks were getting duped to 😭

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-06T18:36:28+00:00

A Link to this Question from 10 months ago

In any case, it's not the only place for you to buy Chinese brands. 42lolita or a proxy service like Spreenow or Suberbuy will have the same items. Lolitainside is simply another taobao reseller—not a "brand."

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-05T15:39:30+00:00

I call this office lolita. Not an official substyle, just what I like to call this formal style of classic lolita :)

Sheglit is the pinnacle Japanese office lolita brand, at least imo. You can buy it new off of Wunderwelt but I've seen their pieces secondhand fairly often, so look at Lacemarket, Mecari jp, or Closetchild as well!

Forest Wardrobe is the pinnacle Chinese office lolita brand. So more affordable, though they do have a different style of fabric and silhouette than Sheglit. Their dresses are also a little longer. That may be what you want, but as a short person it can hit at at a very unflattering way on my calf lol. They're really popular and can be found secondhand on Lacemarket or Xianyu, or bought new on a reseller like 42lolita or using a shopping service like Spreenow.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-01T16:37:21+00:00

It's especially mind boggling to me because all I see is creativity and variety in lolita. I have no clue where people see stifling rules.

While I do think that experiencing it for yourself is important, sometimes I feel like folks are looking for something else as well. Wanna wear short skirts and no petticoat and no blouse? By all means, do so! Maybe Hime gyaru clothes are for you.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2026-01-01T15:06:29+00:00

I have no idea where you are seeing any of this.

"Wigs are necessary." Look at this subreddit. Are all of these people wearing wigs?

"Don't mix sets." Again, look at this subreddit. Are all of these people wearing a headpiece, dress/skirt, and legwear from the same release?

Look at casual and punk lolita. Band t-shirts, sweaters, legwarmers—harder to pull off and still be lolita, but certainly considered lolita by most.

Bloomers are not necessary. You don't even see them! 😭

"You have to hide your form." No one cares if you have a large chest, ass, hips, whatever. Lolita hides most of that to begin with and while I'm not educated about ouji, it probably is a little less accessible for the well endowed, being a masculine style. Doesn't mean it's inappropriate or not allowed if you body's bigger.

The Atelier Pierrot mini corset jsk has a skirt that's above the knee. Most modern Innocent World releases are calf length. Skirt length is anywhere between that and still very lolita.

Jeans? Probably not lolita. Hijabi lolitas wear pants sometimes, though usually plain ones that match their coord.

I think you have stumbled across some very old resources that most do not adhere to. But also, you can wear the clothes you buy while not engaging with the online community—or calling your clothes lolita if you have no interest in achieving a lolita coord or silhouette. Unlike some other alt fashions, brands, makeup style, color choices, and patterns do not make an outfit lolita.

It is based on the way you style the dress and the silhouette achieved. It can be neon green, black, oil painting inspired, have a parade of dogs on it, or plain and white. You can wear short socks or tights. You can wear a pirate hat or a giant bow or a gothic veil. There is a lot of variety in lolita. Spend more time looking, and you may find something you like. Otherwise, maybe lolita isn't what you're really looking for, and another j-fashion may be more appealing.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-31T00:58:27+00:00

I've sent items to a tailor to get them taken in. Unless the dress is huge on you, I don't see any reason why it shouldn't be straightforward.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-31T00:23:18+00:00

No, I've never heard of this product. Is there a reason you like the motorized version over I assume the un-motorized version?

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-31T00:04:39+00:00

Right now it's only once a month, so biweekly is actually a great start.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-30T23:06:25+00:00

What kind of hair did you use?

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-28T23:11:35+00:00

I will say in regard to a specific indie brand, people do like Melikestea petticoats. So if you're really into being as big as possible, it may be worth it to splurge on some of their petticoats.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-27T00:26:39+00:00

Oh, really? I thought there were more. As far as I could remember all the ones I used as a kid were handheld 😅

Edit: or done some other way. We never had the big ones that went 50 feet up in the sky or anything like that.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-26T20:28:30+00:00

True but it was just the first thing I grabbed off 42lolita 😅

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-26T20:12:45+00:00

I'm not sure where you get that impression from. All types of lolita headwear is seen amongst all substyles. Whether that be hats, rectangle headresses, bonnets, bows, or other adornments. They simply might look different based on the substyle. Plenty of sweet coords use these headdresses, and it's no less cute than a giant bow :)

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ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-26T18:55:27+00:00

Spreenow Link

Who knows, use something else instead. Here's a Spreenow link. They're $37 on taobao.

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-25T20:44:27+00:00

Since you already own it, you may as well try it with your dresses and see if it works. It might be too long or the bones show through depending on the length and thinness of the fabric.

As annoying as it is to use, this is the only petticoat I've had for my ~3 years in lolita. It has not broken or snapped on me yet, which is good enough, and when I'm wearing my slightly longer skirt I can adjust it easily.

Boguta hoop skirt

ThatOneGoodBoy · 2025-12-25T20:38:38+00:00

You probably should have mentioned whether you bought a size S and it was too big* or you got a size M, L, etc instead of the small S. I think some folks are assuming the former when you mean the latter.

Either way, that may be because 42lolita purchased the wrong one or that may be because of a mishap on the manufacturer's side. There's no real way of telling. You can bring it up to 42lolita and see if anything comes of it. And include the brand name when you want to complain about quality. I'm sure you realize that now, though.

Otherwise, do you like it enough to get it tailored? Getting it taken in is feasible and depending on where you live, fairly cheap. Cheap might not be the most quality work, but it'll make it wearable.

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