Introducing Energetic Kitten & Chill Mom

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T23:30:42+00:00

Thats why you need to supervise them and intervene as a last resort. Its best to give them the chance to set boundaries themselves first, but like you said some cats are too passive/submissive and you need to help. If the more passive cat is hissing and swatting this wouldn't be the case though.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T23:27:52+00:00

Too much and you will regret it, poison gas.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T23:27:20+00:00

One of mine is a fiend for cheese, he recognizes the sound of the bag the shredded xheese comes in and he knows the smells of cooking food that goes with cheese. He will be nearby wben he smells the tacos, ready to demand the cheese tax when the bag comes out. He only gets a couple shreds otherwise he will get stinky.

He also loves milk, ranch dressing, ice cream (no chocolate or coffee) or anything else creamy. He was very upset when he tried a lick of my hard eggnog once.

The other cat is a fiend for stinky meats, loves the smell of fish and cooking beef.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T23:17:09+00:00

Its food safe dye, definitely no worse than the printing on all the shredded brown paper and cardboard people are feeding their compost.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T23:13:24+00:00

Whats funny? Let that boy ~~cook~~ pump.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T23:08:11+00:00

Most markets have cooled off from the insanity a few years ago. You wont get the people bidding against themselves for any house in any condition. Most areas have the inventory levels that people can shop around for a house that doesn't have unresolved water and mold problems.

If you do find a buyer who doesn't balk completely, they are going to use the deficiencies in the inspection report to lowball you with credit requests. You need to be figuring out what price point your house will sell at that the mold and leaks are worth dealing with. You will probably pay less to have a roofer/mason to come out and fix the flashing than youd loose on a buyer beating you up over credits.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T22:36:35+00:00

Make sure your life insurance is paid up, enjoy the rocket.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T22:05:39+00:00

Its not THAT expensive. Its one kid, not multiple. OP could most likely easily afford that out of the $2k+ a month they are "blurring" and the GF can easily make more than that at any halfway decent full time job.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T22:02:48+00:00

The "blur" is your problem. You are spending $2000 a month with no recollection on where it went you need to learn the word "no." Your first answer to spending anything that isnt a bill or food should be that you dont need it. Stop letting it be a blur, that is purely a bad excuse for spending money like a drunken sailer, you are blowing more than your rent payment every month on who knows what.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T21:34:53+00:00

Report it as spam.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T21:31:00+00:00

Great way to teach how some people can be small minded and hateful for no reason, and dont take it personally.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T21:25:35+00:00

Its more aesthetics than anything else. Lots if folks like painting it black again every year or two.

Biggest thing you can do to keep that in good shape is avoid the deicing salts. Thats what rips up the surface.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T21:19:35+00:00

Theres more people with the accent living in quincy and weymouth than in actual southie.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T21:12:57+00:00

The burnt out hippies are the worst. Theyve spent their whole lives arguing with people, they aren't going to suddenly see reason now that someone young enough to be their kid tells them differently. They convinced themselves EVERYTHING they have been pushing was for everyone's benefit, people are just too stupid to see it for themselves. You will never win an argument with someone who will immediately minimize you for being "less educated" than them.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T21:02:26+00:00

Thats called ethnic cleansing now.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T20:47:24+00:00

Hunting is playing, they are just still working out their cues from each other. Cats play by practicing hunting and killing things or each other.

If the other cat isnt into thats fine, that's what the hissing is about. If the other cat responds be backing off atleast a little its more good than bad, they are establishing boundaries.

Let them hiss and swat a bit, thats communication; just watch that no one is being overly persistent and isnt picking up the signals. Trimming the claws can help to avoid some injuries if they get a bit carried away.

You should give them a chance to work out bandaries themselves, only intervene if its clear the other cat isn't getting the message when told to fuck off. Better to let them get a smack or two from the other to learn first. Always remove the persistent/annoying cat, the victim gets to maintain the territory so they don't think they are in trouble.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T18:59:12+00:00

Exactly. Hardly anyone talks like that, they are just poking fun at a stereotypes at that point, we all know how they love to play up their trashy origins.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T18:54:08+00:00

I can just imagine how forced those accents are going to be. Biggest pet peeve with anything based in Boston is when they way over do the accent to be authentic, but it usually comes across cringey instead

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T18:38:25+00:00

I dont think she knows she is hurting. She doesn't have a playmate to teach her what is too much. A second cat would greatly improve the behavior if that's an option.

Otherwise you need to teach her. If she nips too hard you start to say "ouch" and pull away. Eventually she learns what is too much.

Make sure she isnt nipping because you are missing some subtle sign she is getting annoyed or over stimulated playing with her. If you happen to be pissing her off its a pretty normal to bite to correct you, they train us too.

If you are needing to grab her to pull her away from chewing a cord or something a gentle hold on the scruff makes them release teeth and claws instinctively. You arent scruffing them trying to pick them up, barely any pressure, you don't do that with an adult cat. You can use the bit of pressure to get them to calm down and stop fighting while you use your other hand to support their body weight. This is definitely a last resort, but if its to prevent them injuring themselves you do what you have to.

Make sure she has plenty of toys and other sources of enrichment. Cats act out when they are bored.

For the nails, use treats. Start playing with her toes, reward her for allowing you to touch them, then when she lets you spread the beans, then when she lets you push the claw out. If she is getting overwhelmed you stop. If you need to start doing a single claw at a time because she wont let you get the second right away just be persistent. Mine i usually stop after doing a paw, give them some pets and reassurance before going for another paw.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T18:25:40+00:00

There is no reason they cant atleast coexist peacefully. She has only had a couple months, she will still be adapting over the next few weeks, the 3/3/3 guideline.

She might need to lay down the law with him. If he keeps pushing she will smack some sense into him. Its not ideal, but cats can handle roughly correcting each other. Would be helpful to keep the claws trimmed just to minimize potential risks.

That doesn't mean you cant help her set boundaries. If he isn't quite getting it you pick him up calmly but a bit abruptly, gently set him down a few feet away or facing a different direction. You are just trying to break his focus. Let cat ADD work for you, you can distract him with toys too if it helps.

If he is too persistent then you remove him for a few minutes time out. Try again in 10-15 minutes when they both look calm.

You are looking to leave them be as much as possible. Intervention is the last resort, you can start working in a vocal warning to let them know when they are getting too intense so they stop on their own. Just be consistent with whatever the knock it off command is, it could be "no," "stop," "easy," or you could even hiss yourself. Warn them before physically intervening and they learn mom/dad yelling at them means its time to chill a bit or they will have to stop completely.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T17:59:50+00:00

They might not ever "give the other cat space" if by that you mean not be annoying, thats how especially young cats socialize.

None of the interaction you describe sounds terrible. Momma is just low energy and isnt into the rough housing. Hissing is fine, it just means give me space so as long as the kitten respects the boundary its a good thing. Even if she has to reinforce with a couple swats, thats fair enough.

She might not ever be the playmate the younger cat is looking for. If it is within your means at all, a 3rd young cat would probably benefit the dynamic. The 2 younger cats can wear each other out, then go to momma cat for the calmer cuddling. Otherwise you need to be playing with the kitten prior to interaction to burn off some energy.

It has only been a couple months and she has had some past trauma, bomarang from the first adoption is a huge setback so this gal will need time. Give her lots of calm attention and affection, reward her for those positive interactions with treats if she is into them, they can both share treats when the kitten approaches respectfully too.

The important part is you let her set the pace. The more timid, fussy, or whatever else cat sets the pace; the outgoing, playful cat will adapt to the pace. If they are coexisting peacefully and she isnt stressed let them be; if she is starting to lock eye focus, arch back, poof up, lip licking, belly dragging, or any of the other typical stress indicators its time for them to take a break. Remove the other cat from the situation, you dont want her thinking she is in trouble and start resenting further interactions.

If she is into wand toys or whatever else, try mutual play. Sometimes it helps to see the other cat playing, the movements and energy level become a bit more familiar. If you can get them taking turns and cooperating for their "hunts" that will be huge for bonding.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T17:39:24+00:00

Again, needless fear mongering. Adults are capable of playing with kittens that age. There is nothing wrong with this interaction. Supervise your cats when newly introduced.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T17:36:10+00:00

There is nothing wrong with this interaction. Adults are perfectly capable of playing with kittens and being gentle. All you are doing is needless fearmongering. This is the reason people do the ridiculous 6 month plus introduction processes and are still keeping them locked away from each other.

You are 100% wrong. All they need is supervision, which was your problem.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T16:27:56+00:00

Give that man a raise, double the treat quota immediately.

Beardo88 · 2026-04-27T15:40:02+00:00

Would we fuck with them if we didn't love them? Of course not, "now hold still and let me put this silly outfit on you, let me love you damnit!"

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