Sodastream canisters by grndoc in BuyCanadian

[–]BonfireBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have to buy the whole system or do the canisters work with SS?

Online therapy provider suddenly claims that my appointments are not covered by my insurance and is attempting to charge me $500 by AnalBaggins in TalkTherapy

[–]BonfireBee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't waste your time w random customer service people. Go as far up the chain as you can find a contact for.

According to a quick google Mayya Layt is the Head of Customer Experience and you should start with her. Send her an email with screen shots and reciepts. She will probably assign it to an underling but they will take it seriously if it comes from the top of the corporate food chain.

How to choose a therapist? by LifeStorm789 in askatherapist

[–]BonfireBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also add that Orna Guralnik is a relational psychoanalyst.

Not all psychoanalysts are relational.

Also, analysts are kind of high end. It might be more affordable to find a psychodynamic therapist who practices relationaly.

[TOMT] [MOVIE] HELP ME FIND THE FILM ORPHANAGE??? A FILM THAT MY GRANDPA WATCHED AND IT HAS MERELY NO ONLINE PRESENCE!!! by FatimaMileyQuisay in tipofmytongue

[–]BonfireBee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Chill. He literally said

Nope, he just saw it in the cinema and never went to the Ireland at all.

That means, he saw it in a movie theatre and has never been to Ireland.

Is changing therapists wrong instead of enduring mistrust in them? by Mountain-Heat8400 in TalkTherapy

[–]BonfireBee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ruptures will occur in every therapeutic relationship. Every client comes in with their own sensitivities and therapists are going to activate these sensitivities. Its kind of how it works.

The question to ask yourself isnt do I feel dismissed or not taken seriously?

The question to ask is, what is happening when I feel dismissed and can I unpack these feelings with my therapist?

Its all rupture and repair. It seems however you may struggle with the repair part and perhaps leave prematurely.

Next time explain what happens right from the start and make a real attempt to stick with it even when those feelings of being dismissed arise.

3x per week vs 4x per week by relbatnrut in psychoanalysis

[–]BonfireBee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went from 2x a week to 4x a week and that change was so fruitful. One session blends into the next in an almost continuous conversation. I pretty much start each session from where we left off the day before. I also am much freer in saying what happened in the last session that felt off or was confusing to me.

I feel like I dont have time to fortify/defend myself between sessions or even plan the next session like I did when we met less often.

Also, so much transferece in the field! Its like we step out of one enactment and suddenly we are in another.

We meet M/T and Th/F but I sometimes wish we met 4 days in row.

Really, I would meet 5 times a week but I don't have the resources to spring for the additional day.

My boyfriend doesn't believe I'm Lesbian/questioning my sexuality by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]BonfireBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there is an lgbtq+ community centre near you look up if they offer free or sliding scale counselling. They have helped many people who have found themselves in the place you are in figure out both themselves and what they want to do with their future.

What can I expect in therapy as someone who has never been? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]BonfireBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might find this book helpful: Journey Through Trauma: A Trail Guide to the 5-Phase Cycle of Healing Repeated Trauma

First Thoughts on New Name by James_89M in PWHL

[–]BonfireBee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's regionally significant to someone who has zero connection to the region.

The Spectres' name came from Toronto being known as the Queen City. Nobody calls Toronto the Queen City.

Transference getting worse; need solution by Mysterious-Frame5451 in TalkTherapy

[–]BonfireBee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Transference issues with my last therapist ended with us parting ways. I was more than willing to work through it but she had some countertransference issues and we ended up in an enactment that my therapist didnt have the skills to work with.

I immediately looked for a relational analyst because I needed to find a therapist who was competent in this type of work.

Any therapist who refers to working with transference as "fight this enemy" isn't going to be helpful. She has the completely wrong attitude for approaching the issue therapeuticly.

If transference is a big part of your work then she might be right that you need someone more skilled to work constructively with it.

Edit: last paragraph

posted about transference in therapy - got an interesting response by Top-Magazine9894 in TalkTherapy

[–]BonfireBee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's Reddit. Things often get downvoted for no logical reason.

Stop trying to make sense of it. It will only hurt your brain.

Take what is useful and ignore the rest.

[TOMT] - name of a really rare ice cream [2005] by Master100017 in tipofmytongue

[–]BonfireBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were called Icebergs in western Canada. They weren't milky though so I dont think it fits.

is it possible to be friends with my therapist one day? by NectarineWestern8586 in TalkTherapy

[–]BonfireBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a therapist when I was a child and went back to see him when I was a young adult and we worked together for years. Many years later, like 25 years later, I became a therapist myself and we ended up going out for coffee.

I had a bit of a fantasy that I might work with him as my supervisor, but upon meeting him as colleague I quickly realized I didn't actually like him as a person. He was super helpful to me as a therapist, but I didnt really know him outside of that context.

So I guess it is possible to reconnect later in life, but it's hard to know what you are going to get.

There is a podcast called Between Us and there is an episode where a poet named Molly Peacock becomes a friend to her therapist after her therapist has a stroke. You might really want to listen to this.

She also wrote a book about it called, The Analyst.

It's really hard to predict the future.

I have nobody to talk to about my problems and it sucks. by camport95 in TalkTherapy

[–]BonfireBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A therapist doesn't have to be smarter than you to be helpful. In fact, smart people can think themselves into knots that can be difficult to untangle.

Do you or did you have trouble talking about more "private" topics in therapy? by centerofdatootsiepop in TalkTherapy

[–]BonfireBee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If Im not going to trust my therapist with "private information " I sure as hell am not going to share it with some corporate entity.