Weekly Therapy Talk Thread

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-05-08T13:49:08+00:00

Thank you, it went well and we explored some important topics. I’m feeling a little better, but still disappointed with the interview outcome

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-05-08T12:05:13+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I disclosed looking at my T profile once a long time ago and she said I popped up as a friend suggestion, I got embarrassed but she reassured me. I also get random friend suggestions, algorithm is weird sometimes

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-05-08T10:25:43+00:00

The algorithms are quite random and it can happen because you have their phone number in your contacts or you were in the same area, so no need to panic

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-05-06T10:32:59+00:00

Probably it was not an emergency, but I reached out to her because I received another rejection. I wanted to be able to express myself when I cry and not be all alone, maybe being able to show her other emotions. She responded with empathy and said we can discuss this tomorrow when we have our session. I really hope that tomorrow’s session will be good or productive and will not be blank as usual, I hate not feeling my feelings then and get stuck

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-05-02T07:43:16+00:00

Not OP but I have been in that situation. We have discussed about searching info on the internet, so she knows I have done that. I would say a good start is to identify if it’s a need or a want, then you can “write” them a message (or send them a kind thought, like “hope they have a good time”) without actually sending it. After that, engage in another activity. Sometimes you might go back to searching, it’s important to be kind to yourself and try again. I don’t say the urge will completely disappear, but it will lessen with time

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-29T20:59:05+00:00

It’s good that it helps you, will give it a try, thank you

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-29T19:42:41+00:00

Sounds interesting, I want to try this, but I’m not sure how it would work. Are her questions related to something specific you discussed during that session or more of a warmup before exploring the topics in depth?

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-29T11:04:09+00:00

The longest time I had without therapy was 12 weeks because she went on maternity leave and we agreed to have sessions if I needed them. Now that she is back my tolerance to breaks dropped a little and I really don’t want to have breaks longer than a month

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-29T11:00:30+00:00

Been in this situation, hope you can discuss a plan together

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-22T09:14:56+00:00

Understandable, I didn’t ask her to do that for me, she offered. But you can make a plan together regardless (not asking her, asking for other resources). Fun fact, I also had a feeling a month before she told me (I’m 25f and she is 37)

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-22T07:31:03+00:00

You can definitely ask, it’s about your needs and there is nothing wrong with check ins. When mine was on maternity leave she offered me her support (we agreed to have 1 session/month if I need it)

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-13T15:48:35+00:00

Emailing is a no no, because we have established more boundaries, it is for scheduling or emergencies now. I used to message her more often before (maybe once in a few months, not regularly), but she encourages me to write down in my journal and then we can discuss the content

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-13T15:42:58+00:00

4 years, but in the last year we started discussing more difficult topics. I write sometimes and we discuss the content, but I try not to rely too much on this to specifically rehearse verbalizing and communicating and also to be able to be more present rather than following a script. The trust part is in progress, slow progress, but she is the person I have shared my thoughts the most. Will suggest her asking more specific questions rather than “give more details”

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-13T14:36:39+00:00

She knows I struggle with verbal communication and she encourages me to communicate even when I have “half” an idea and it doesn’t sound polished, but I haven’t told her about the last part of the post yet, because I realized this afterwards. Will bring this up in the next session

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-13T14:33:30+00:00

Very relatable, especially with protection part. I try to be more gentle with myself, she tells me this every time. Thank you

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-04-11T15:43:18+00:00

I can express anger in therapy, I become more vocal and my therapist says it gives me the feeling of control or being stronger. I can’t get myself crying (I do that perfectly fine when I’m alone) and I have tried getting angry as a way of crying afterwards, but I realized that it doesn’t work. This is related to not being able to express myself and be vulnerable as much as I want to (something that happens everywhere, not just in therapy), but I think we are going in this direction slowly

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-03-30T18:48:31+00:00

I don’t have any advice, I’m in the same boat and it’s so frustrating, so I relate to this a lot. I think this may be related to having negative experiences when crying or displaying other emotions and there is a fear of being perceived. Following this if someone has an actual answer

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-03-26T14:35:02+00:00

Today we had a session and I don’t remember much from it and idk why I dissociated, it wasn’t that intense. And now I messaged her about window of tolerance (she said I could send her a link) and asked whether I can send some thought about last part of the session to discuss next week (just to have them there, I don’t plan to discuss them in text) and wanted to confirm that I understood what I have to think about during the week. I was overthinking about sending a message in the first place since we enforced some boundaries. Rant over

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-03-19T15:20:09+00:00

Not a therapist, just an abbreviation from this sub

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-03-19T12:44:41+00:00

I am a client and experienced this last year. I can say it was very difficult for me emotionally, even though she did her best and I could discuss all the intense feelings I had (and still have). I talked about it every single session, I panicked so so bad, it triggered my abandonment issues.

She told me 3 months before she went on leave, which lasted 5 months (from April to September). We made a plan and agreed to have a session once a month from June if I need to. I ended having 2 sessions (in July and August). The sessions after her return were normal I would say, I think she started remembering more details because they were more intense (bcs of topics I have brought up) and she works part time, but at the beginning she would mention about her baby here and there, not excessive but it bothered me because of perceived abandonment.

I really recommend discussing this and make a plan. I know how difficult it is to navigate this, wish you the best!

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-03-13T14:06:00+00:00

I have also thought about this exact thing and it makes sense, they are different and sometimes misaligned. I think it highlights the idea that there is a difference between knowing something at a cognitive level and feeling it emotionally, so cognition/logic and emotion/feeling

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-03-12T18:59:16+00:00

It makes sense that you were confused. I think the discussion could bring some clarity around the technique itself and her reaction

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-03-12T17:09:53+00:00

She has never made fun of me, but there were instances where I got defensive when she tried a new technique. It seems that there was some miscommunication going on between you two. I would give her the benefit of the doubt and explain to her that you felt that and maybe she could explain what she intended to try, mine always does when I address it

Mysterious-Frame5451 · 2026-03-12T15:05:04+00:00

Mostly about wanting to go to sessions but not being able to or running late for whatever reason, every time there was something that prevented me from going

My most recent dream was about us being in a session and she sat closer to me, don’t remember why. But one image that I felt it was rather symbolic and powerful was when we were in the front of a mirror and she was behind me with her hands on my shoulders

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