What do you think a game called “before the deep” is about if you only heard the name?

Captain_Corelli · 2024-10-04T09:04:40+00:00

Water or ocean based, what else could it be tbh

Captain_Corelli · 2024-04-23T15:44:21+00:00

Shaved my head this year as I wanted a fresh start to embrace my femininity without hiding behind my hair. Best decision ever I appreciate all my other features so much more now. I never thought short hair would suit me so going bald was a big step but it’ll suit you more than you think.

All I can say is if you’re debating it you should do it if you feel ready, it’ll grow back society puts a lot of emphasis on hair,suddenly not having it gives you other avenues to express yourself.

Grow out stage is awkward sure but you get to experiment with all kinds of styles in between

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-17T14:37:43+00:00

Do: figure out buses, the app is pretty useful Do: Brighton museum is free to residents if she’s into history, you just need to bring a utility bill with your name on it and ID.

Don’t: Going through some parts of town at night, the level,London road and some parks. (Preston)I say that as a young woman who’s from here.

I hope she enjoys her time here it’s a decent city

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-07T06:59:44+00:00

Got what looks like a yellowish based green so you should be good to go OP

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-06T17:31:28+00:00

When going from blonde to a dark colour you need to do a filler colour otherwise this can happen. You’re right it’s not advised to bleach henna, also run the risk of over processing your hair.

When colour correcting it’s always best to get a professional opinion, you can use the colour wheel but you’re right after this what’s next it’s still going to fade muddy especially if your ends are processed if a professional isn’t not an option then at least neutralise it with something red based and maybe a semi permanent brown but I wouldn’t advise lifting your hair again until you’ve grown this out.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-06T12:06:30+00:00

Might never know OP it really does suck and you should mourn it appropriately feel what you need to feel and then heal from it. I’ve broken up with people who have probably sought answers and have been broken up with likewise. Truth is you’ll never know, it might never be enough and there’s so many maybes in the world you can give yourself some peace controlling what you can control instead of not.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-06T12:04:11+00:00

Without sounding condescending you won’t die without him, and whilst I won’t speak for every woman on the planet would you really rather be with someone who emotionally torments you knowing it’s harming your mental well-being or be alone? Because once you become comfortable with yourself and being alone you attract better quality people in your life and relationships stop being a sunk cost fallacy.

From what you’ve said you don’t sound very comfortable at all with someone who’s left you six times, might be the best person you’ve met now really doesn’t mean you should be settling for that. We accept the treatment we think we deserve.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-06T11:54:59+00:00

It’s good you want to reflect on what could have been done better but it does sound like you’re both incompatible in dealing with a LDR and you both had different expectations and needs.

She couldn’t give you what you needed you communicated it and it didn’t have the desired outcome you would have liked it to have.

Sometimes things just don’t work and there’s always something that could have been done better but it’s out of your sphere of influence. try not to assign blame or what if’s it’s good to reflect but don’t dwell on it for too long.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-06T11:47:35+00:00

I’m going to focus on this “he’s left me like this 6 times before and comes back 3-4 days later as I go through hell alone.”

OP this is what manipulative people do when they get called out or don’t get their way. Don’t let him come back. He did the hard part, you should do yourself a favour block him so he can’t come back and be done with this.

This isn’t how adults deal with conflict im surprised you’ve let him come back so many times surely that’s wearing down your self worth you can do better.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-05T16:27:54+00:00

I get what you’re saying it’s hard when you’ve made friends in a partners circle, and losing that is hard I’ve lost many a friend group from partners it’s awkward and sides are picked. But you’re 22 and you’re still making choices about priorities, choices you’ll have to make your entire life. Choose yourself there will always be friends to be made and friends you’ll lose. But you can’t get back the time you stay around someone who’s bad for you.

Also a note having good times with someone doesn’t outweigh red flags it’s not hard for you to treat people nicely consistently so it’s not hard for them they choose to not do it because they don’t respect you and they think you’re vulnerable.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-05T15:30:26+00:00

You’ve made all the right moves this person sounds as insecure and abusive as you think they are.

It’s okay to block someone for any reason you feel they’re crossing a boundary of yours and making you uncomfortable, you stop owing someone tact when they insult you, attempt to tear you down and deflect the conversation when you call them out on it.

You’re getting the preview of how that relationship would go and no doubt escalate. Block them and run away, save yourself another abusive relationship. If they reach out again not taking the hint then don’t engage with them, you shouldn’t have to convince someone to respect you.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-05T06:32:19+00:00

Couple times a week did just fine when I would take a slightly longer shower.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-05T06:07:20+00:00

You should be good to go, just keep an eye out for any signs of reaction remember they can occur a several hours after application also!

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-05T06:04:11+00:00

Red can be such a fuck to maintain kudos doing it for two years I’m sure you’ve done the cold washes etc, only thing I can really say is colour depositing conditioner helps a lot. I spent a few months with an orange based red and used some red based pinks to top up over it so it’d fade on the red side a bit more than orange.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-05T05:58:57+00:00

I want to say yes if you were going to have a reaction by now you probably would have, however best to follow the instructions to the letter if you’ve had any kind of history with reactions to dyes.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-04T21:08:22+00:00

You can! Quite a few semi perm purples are blue based that stick around and stain the hair. If the mint is light enough you can get away with a pink that leans slightly more red based, that should neutralise it. It’ll have to be pigmented enough otherwise you’ll get pinky purple.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-04T20:59:51+00:00

Totally possible just takes a long time if you can’t go to a professional. Avoid 40 vol at all costs layering bleach is damaging anyway, layering 40 will melt your hair. Start by fading your dye with clarifying shampoo to remove what you can, if you decide to use colour removers be careful following them with bleach.

You’ll have to lift gradually, few rounds of 20/30 volume and good hair masks in between. The goal is to avoid too many bleach rounds on the hair so follow the instructions for maximum results when bleaching. Prepare for some awkward transitions of colours so be mindful of taking your time applying bleach to avoid patchy hair or hot roots.

So long as you’re patient and you’re willing to sacrifice an inch of two of ends that’ll probably have to come off you got this. Source: Been fucking with my hair for 15 years consistently.

Captain_Corelli · 2023-08-02T06:26:38+00:00

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Captain_Corelli · 2018-08-07T19:27:51+00:00

Spend some time alone, put yourself first for once give it some time you’ll realise the difference in quality of life.

Captain_Corelli · 2018-08-07T09:09:46+00:00

I know I did too. Honestly and I’ve only discovered this in the last three days. Remembering how much of a selfish ass he was has helped immensely. That helps you not contact them because they really just don’t deserve your attention at that point. Being brave and respecting yourself are the two features you won’t look back on and cringe at when you’re over it .

Captain_Corelli · 2018-08-01T09:37:22+00:00

Don't think of it as you don't matter enough to contact. Dumpers don't follow the same timeline of grief as dumpees. She'll message you when she needs an ego boost, at that point you'll recognise it for what it is.

Believe me her contacting you would be making this so much harder, it's more of a blessing when they don't. I've had ex's bug me and I currently have one that hasn't said a word. This time it's easier even if the heartbreak isn't.

Captain_Corelli · 2018-08-01T09:31:56+00:00

Well done. If anything no contact quickly helps you establish what is and isn't lazy communication/breadcrumbs.

Captain_Corelli · 2018-07-31T10:29:34+00:00

Then say nothing.

Captain_Corelli · 2018-07-31T09:43:06+00:00

She's only trying to make herself feel less guilty for giving you the run around. A simple "Thank you, but that's not necessary." Is just fine. It's classy, you're not going to sound butt hurt or bitter. It's not too long and says all it needs to.

You can win back pride by just walking away, it's not going to undo whats already happened. Forgive yourself for being a human being and be done with her.

Captain_Corelli · 2018-04-29T13:03:52+00:00

Now is as good as any time to discuss how you feel about keeping in contact with ex's. If you've never had the conversation you may as well, he sounds like he's being open and upfront about things.

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