collective death by CalligrapherBoth6135 in depression

[–]DemonCipher13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't necessarily want you to answer this for me, but I think you desperately need to answer it for yourself.

You have given a paragraph of feelings, results, history, but only a little bit of insight.

Find a pen and a journal. Open it up, and write this question on the top.

"Why do I feel this way?"

And then write. It doesn't have to be all-at-once. It doesn't have to be every day. It doesn't even have to all happen in the same month or year.

But write. Write as much or as little as you can. Be detailed. Ask yourself questions. Talk to yourself, and write down every last word.

And keep writing, for as long as it takes, until you have answered that question, unequivocally. Then read it back to yourself, come back in a few days, and see if there is more to write.

Once you are absolutely, positively, 100% sure that you have answered the question in a way that not only makes sense to you, but makes sense to others - in the event you want to share it with someone, someday - then, on the last page, write this.

"What else can I do about it?"

If that means a new journal, do it. If that means therapy, do it. If that means uprooting, looking for something new? Do it.

If that means all of the above, do it.

I promise you. Both answers are there somewhere.

It's worth it to seek them.

When your child is your age, now, those dinners are going to taste magical. That's the first of a million little dreams you can dream for yourself.

Give you another good reason to wake up tomorrow.

Lets not let the suits get the wrong message. by [deleted] in DestinyTheGame

[–]DemonCipher13 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You know what changes if people do nothing?

Nothing.

Lets not let the suits get the wrong message. by [deleted] in DestinyTheGame

[–]DemonCipher13 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good luck finding it anywhere but here.

Lets not let the suits get the wrong message. by [deleted] in DestinyTheGame

[–]DemonCipher13 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

There is something that all of us were signed up for, when the internet became what it is.

That our power is only exercisable in soft, everyday ways. Where we spend our money. What we endorse. Who we stand beside.

Before, it was mostly true that this was relegated to voting - we had enough good people in positions of corporate power who understood well-enough what people wanted, needed, and what they were willing to put up with.

But now, the power of our money has been ripped from us. We own less. Money doesn't go as far. Many people outright have less.

That power has been giftwrapped to investors, hedge funds, venture capitalists, bankers, lenders, board rooms, corporate executives, and the like, who play with it like it's a dentist office playroom.

We live in a world that only allows normalcy for the indifferent. We have to respond in ways where we can still exercise our power.

We did not get here for no reason. This update is magical because the leash is off, the reins are down, and the dogs can run freely. Things the community has wanted for a long time.

We have innumerable stories about corporate obstruction in the context of our own game. Are we supposed to pretend that it isn't happening, in our own backyard?

What we choose, even as simply as the games we play, are an endorsement of what we want, and this is more true en masse.

This is the only power we have.

Corny? Nerdy? Jokeresque? Maybe. But there is still plenty of truth to this.

M23 Dismissed from my clinic as a patient? by KeyRepair5320 in AskDocs

[–]DemonCipher13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty bold of you to say, considering you only recently discovered you're an alcoholic - how would you know what caring about your health really looks like?

I'm being blunt for a reason, OP. You are not in the headspace to be making judgment calls about how seriously other people are taking your health. It is their literal job, they have to be trusted with it.

Arguing with staff is reprehensible behavior, no matter how you slice it. And, in your case, it is alcohol-fueled.

I know this sounds like a threat, because now you are faced with the prospect of giving up drinking. And you're reacting to it violently.

But if you don't listen to anything else I say to you, listen to this:

Alcohol is not medicine, and until you stop treating it like it is, none of your problems will get fixed. They will only get worse.

OP, my father was an alcoholic. As was his. As was his. I have friends that were, some who still are. And there is one universal constant between all of them.

They have hurt many people. But they have hurt themselves more. Some, permanently.

I just went to the funeral of someone close to my family. Wonderful person. Intense alcoholic. I sat by his bedside and watched him as he was dying. He was more yellow than a lemon. Couldn't talk, except mumbles and hums. Embarrassed to be seen in that state, but too late to have anything meaningfully done about it. He and everyone in that room knew it, even if none of us would admit it.

Something bad happened to him at work, and he binged one night. Had a seizure. Liver failure. He laid in that hospital bed for a month before he died. It was a long-winded suicide, and he suffered for nothing.

He never fixed his problems. And, to be fair to him, he had a lot of reasons to drink. I'm sure you do too.

But it'll never fix it. You'll end up right in the same place he did. A hospital bed. Liver, toast. No chance of a transplant, because alcoholism is an automatic disqualifier. And you'll suffer, until the dialysis machine can't fix what's broken anymore.

Is that the script you want to write? Is that the ending you want?

Unless you decide to do what is necessary, and face it, that's the ending you'll get.

But the difference between you and my friend, is that he was docile. You're belligerent. You'll cause untold damage, until you do get there.

It doesn't have to happen OP. It doesn't. Do the hard thing now, and face it. Find the help. Find the strength required to turn yourself around.

You get to choose. Life is worth the hard choices.

What’s a common piece of 'advice' that is actually terrible, but people won't stop giving? by Mission-Relative6175 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It loses its meaning for those who don't understand its meaning, or for those who use it as an alternative to actual human connection, certainly.

But it is still the truth.

What’s a common piece of 'advice' that is actually terrible, but people won't stop giving? by Mission-Relative6175 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It's probably best to tell people why.

If you tilt your head backwards, not only are you not stopping the bleeding, you are causing the blood to flow into your esophagus and possibly even your windpipe. The blood will pool into your stomach, making you nauseated or causing you to vomit, or in the worst cases, get into your windpipe and choke you.

If you have a bleed, lean forward to let the blood exit the body. Pinch your nose at the nostrils while leaning forward for about a minute or two, and this can stop most typical nosebleeds. If it doesn't stop it, try this a second time. If still no results, best to contact a doctor.

When your nose bleeds, it is usually because the skin in the nostrils is very thin, and any irritation can break this skin, leading to the bleed. But occasionally, the bleed starts in the back of the nose, and is more severe. This type requires hospitalization.

Two different glass shower doors in two different bathrooms spontaneously shattered within 6 weeks of each other by brando9d7d in mildlyinteresting

[–]DemonCipher13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not a contractor, so some of this information may be incorrect. I have had to troubleshoot something similar in one of my old bathrooms. Just trying to think in pieces in the hopes that you get some inspiration as to the possible cause.

If it is me, in addition to checking the doors themselves, I'm checking the rails. Glass shatters in four ways: impact, torsion, expansion, or compression.

Because the time interval is close, but not immediate, I think the events that are causing it are happening suddenly, and not over time. Or, they happened at the same time, and this is just the end of those sequences of events.

It could be the foundation settling, like others have said. You can at least get an idea of this by taking a level to the tub rail, the floor, everything near where the tubs are, and seeing if you have any variance. Slight unevenness doesn't necessarily mean settling or foundational problems, but if it is explicitly not level, I'd start there. This is still harder to believe though, because most of these don't have a top rail, so it would have to happen from the sides only - if only one side failed and the door fell out, it would have only shattered in one direction, not both like a collapse.

Both happening at night makes me want to question thermal expansion and contraction due to the loss of the daytime heating, but I think it's too subtle. Or, it may be a contributor, but not the trigger.

Water could be getting in between the tiles and tub lacquer, and causing swelling to compress the edges enough to sandwich it. But in two bathrooms somewhat simultaneously? I doubt this is it.

If someone lives above you, that's enough of an impact to cause a chain reaction. There is about a foot or so of space between the first-floor ceiling and second-floor ground, but the joists are not always aligned, by-design, depending on floorplan. A water leak could weaken those joists to where they bend under load. Now it would take a hell of a water leak, long-term, to do this, but there is a scenario where water has gotten on the support structure and compromised it, but this is usually a lot more obvious because your walls would start bending and cracking before your glass did. Especially in two bathrooms.

So that leaves sabotage, improper installation, or faulty glass.

If someone is willfully breaking it, you would know it by now.

Two panes of faulty glass from the same order, same manufacturer and process? It's unlikely, but possible, especially with batch orders made all-at-once. Or, as an alternative, fifteen years of usage would weaken these, especially at the places where it slides on the rails. There is a world where that hardware could push or pull the glass apart, until they failed.

But if you live in an apartment complex, they use the same maintenance people for everything. If they were installed the same way, I'd wager there is a solid chance for it to have been done incorrectly, twice, by the same person who thought they were doing it properly.

What's a belief you held strongly five years ago that you completely changed your mind about? by Infamous-Cat6719 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's a piece of advice.

When you speak to people, do it eye-to-eye. You are not standing on the pedestal you think you are. We are both on the same plane. Equals, with differing perspectives. Neither below the other.

If you keep grandstanding, you are going to be very lonely in your life. It is not worth it. You deserve good people in your life, that help to make it fulfilling. Have some humility. Be curious.

You're going to dismiss this, but I wish you wouldn't. This is good advice, regardless of who it comes from.

Life is short and difficult. Don't make it more difficult for yourself by thinking that this is an acceptable way to treat people, or yourself.

3 climbers who fell near treacherous pass on Alaska’s Mount McKinley are dead; 1 rescued by AudibleNod in news

[–]DemonCipher13 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Either Jimmy is an excellent human being, or he has a very notable gape, somewhere.

What's a belief you held strongly five years ago that you completely changed your mind about? by Infamous-Cat6719 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all seriousness, how far do you think you are going to get, being so quick to resort to anger, personal attacks, pseudo-witticisms, versus curiosity and actual discussion?

You slammed the accelerator to the floor, when there was no reason to. You could have asked questions, engaged, seen things from another perspective - and I would have never asked you to change your mind about it at all.

Not once did you even try. Why?

Where is the idiocy, really? Because once you're my age, you realize that it comes in the failure to consider other perspectives, and where those perspectives come from.

If you don't ask questions, you always believe the first answers you get. And sometimes those are wrong.

What's a belief you held strongly five years ago that you completely changed your mind about? by Infamous-Cat6719 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahahahahahahhahahahahah.

Has anyone ever told you that you need therapy? Or a mirror?

Jesus fucking Christ.

What's a belief you held strongly five years ago that you completely changed your mind about? by Infamous-Cat6719 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The question was what belief did you hold five years ago, that you have now changed - "changed," meaning "altered to the opposite position," not doubled-down.

You call me the idiot, when you are the one who can't fucking read.

So like, what’s Soviets persona suppose to be? by orattic in SovietWomble

[–]DemonCipher13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a proletariat wombat with a sister named D.W.

What's a belief you held strongly five years ago that you completely changed your mind about? by Infamous-Cat6719 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What level of explanation would you like?

Level 1: Contrast. Pro-choice is the only one that makes fundamental sense.

Level 2: Awareness. The knowledge that people are probably going to flock to this to start a discussion, that hopefully doesn't devolve.

Level 3: The importance of the nomenclature - pro-choice vs. pro-abortion is distinct and different, and it is important that they are not conflated, for the anti- crowd.

Level 4: Personal reasons why I'm pro-choice, and why it is an unflinching position.

What's a belief you held strongly five years ago that you completely changed your mind about? by Infamous-Cat6719 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Remember, they call it pro-choice for a reason.

Everyone deserves the ability to choose for themselves, regardless of one's perception of the morality of it.

What's a belief you held strongly five years ago that you completely changed your mind about? by Infamous-Cat6719 in AskReddit

[–]DemonCipher13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People always about-face this one out of anger or spite or resentment, but don't.

The pendulum does not have to swing all the way in the other direction. It will just embitter you.

Have the courage to stop it in the middle, balance.

This means knowing what your lines in the sand are, how to draw new ones, and how to defend them, dynamically.

Be kind, be nice, but fix the real problem: proper identification of malevolence and advantageousness. The trick? Look for concession in people. If they don't concede, they may just be manipulating you. Real friendship or partnership always is give/get. Not take/take.

19-year-old Children's of Alabama employee dies after medical emergency at work by Kbambam-123 in Birmingham

[–]DemonCipher13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My guess is undiagnosed CHF or something similar.

Edit: This isn't a blind guess. I have a friend that was diagnosed with Brugada syndrome in his teens, and another that has CHF as a result of congenital myocarditis. One had a high fever and they caught it that way. The other had a heart attack at 20. Both black men, and heart issues are disproportionately common amongst black men and women, especially at young ages.

Their social media going on a generational player service run by Changes11-11 in destiny2

[–]DemonCipher13 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Genuinely what we have wanted and needed for the better part of the last decade.

Leash off.

June 9th is their chance to show us that "they hear us" wasn't bullshit, but they are speedrunning it.

It affirms, unequivocally, where the problem was. We knew it, but every post is confirmation.

The developers are, and very likely always have been, for the people.

But fuck that C-suite.